Grey’s Anatomy is almost 20 YEARS OLD?!
That is quite the accomplishment.
In that time there have been so many twists and turns… and deaths.
In fact Shonda sometimes seems so death happy the some have argued the show maybe should have trigger warnings.
Or spoiler alerts to give people time to prepare.
Case in point…
Redditor Nervous_WreckOnIce to discuss their experience and get some feedback. So naturally, they came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
They asked:
“AITA for not warning my husband his favorite TV character was about to be die?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“GREYS ANATOMY SPOILER, DO NOT READ IF YOU’RE WATCHING BEFORE SEASON 5!!!”
“So my husband and I started watching Greys about 1-2 months ago and we just started season 6.”
“The show has been new to him and a re watch for me.”
“Everything had been going great, my husband was really really getting into the show.”
“He loved George. Like a lot.”
“And me having already watched the show, I knew season 6 would hurt.”
“So I debated on telling and, for 5 seasons I didn’t know if I should tell him.”
“Well I decided not to.”
“None of us got a heads up George was gonna be gone and I thought he deserved to experience it the same way we all did, no one warned us.”
“Plus it dilutes the experience.”
“Here’s where he says I’m at the a**hole.”
“His favorite character was George, hands down loved him.”
“And he says I just let him walk right into the pain and couldn’t at least given him a heads up.”
“I said no.”
“If I gave him the heads up, his experience wouldn’t have been the same!”
“He counters and said ‘it still would’ve hurt but maybe I wouldn’t have cried.'”
“Because I didn’t tell him, he doesn’t want to watch the show anymore with me, LOL.”
“I asked if he wanted me to tell him who all dies and he said that’s not the point.”
“He said I’m an a**hole for not being gentle and slowly telling him he was gonna die.”
“In my defense, he didn’t get the 007 written in the hand the first time.”
“He got it when Mer ran screaming it’s George.”
“Side note – please don’t take this super seriously, LOL.”
“He knows I’m writing it and we want to know what people think. Happy Thursday!”
“Anyway, AITA for not telling him?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“NTA… is your husband a toddler?”
“Haha him thinking you’re TA is ridiculous.” ~ West-Highway1840
“NTA. Grey’s anatomy kills off everyone.”
“If he can’t handle it this might not be the show for him. Lol.”
“I know I stopped watching after they killed off my fave, I completely empathize.” ~ nicecream542
“NTA. But ‘being gentle and slowly telling him he was going to die????'”
“Get real! How does one even do that? Is he 3 years old? LOL.”
“Plus there is just no point in watching a series if you get major spoilers ahead of time in my opinion.” ~ Ok-Context1168
“NAH of course you couldn’t tell him.”
‘It would have deprived him of experiencing the show fully.”
‘I won’t say he’s an a**hole though, he’s probably just a little emotional from the shock.” ~ christina0001
“It was totally out of left field.”
‘Basically George signed up for the military so the day he leaves he ends up pushing this girl out of the way of an oncoming bus, gets hit and dragged a few blocks.”
“Everyone thinks he’s off to basic training but he’s actually the ER patient they’ve been treating the whole episode.”
“It isn’t until the very end when the main character Meredith realizes it’s George, then he dies.” ~ littlebluebox82
“NTA – forget your side note, this is serious!”
“I’m also a straight man who loves Grey’s.”
“I want you to know that YOU WERE RIGHT TO KEEP HIM IN THE DARK!!”
“He needed to experience that like everyone else.”
“I legit cried when that happened.”
“And I’m sorry, he’s a dummy for missing the 007.” ~TheSimpsonsAreYellow
OP responded…
“OMG the 007 was insane that he missed it!!”
“I kept side eying him to see if he got it and it went right I’ve this head.”
“But when he realized what was happening, immediate tears.”
‘All I could do was hug him and say I was sorry, I felt so bad.”
Reddit continued…
“NTA, people who spoil shows unasked are awful.” ~ Mean_Environment4856
“Lol NTA – you wanted to give him the ‘real’ experience and that’s definitely not a malicious thought.”
“Plus, had he known he may have stopped watching it, and it sounds like this has been something fun for you to do together.”
“Maybe next time you watch a show together that you’ve seen, you can ask him ahead of time if he wants to know any spoilers.” ~ megazord_
“NTA. I thought it was kind of an unspoken rule that you don’t spoil major scenes for a show to someone new to the series.”
“Not unless they say it’s okay of course, but 5 seasons in, he would have told you to spoil him on things by now.”
“I get that it’s hard when a favorite character dies, but he’s overreacting about it and taking it out on you when you didn’t do anything wrong.”
“It’s not like you wrote the scene and killed the guy off. LOL.” ~ Caspian4136
“Clearly NTA, I don’t even really understand his point of view.”
“Who cares if he cries at a sad scene in a show, it’s a normal reaction.”
“Maybe he should look up the plot to every show he watches on Wikipedia first so that he knows he won’t get too upset.” ~ thejackalreborn
“NAH, just make a plan for the next time you watch a show you have seen.”
“My partner would be hurt if I spoiled something like that, whereas I read all the spoilers and endings of things because suspense gives me anxiety. LOL.” ~ Raindripdrop
“Nah. I learned watching Buddy, don’t get too attached to anyone.”
“I remember seeing that episode the first time, totally worth going in blind.”
“Any time you can experience something like that with no spoilers is the best possible experience!” ~ petmomintheBLC
“When I was watching Harry Potter and someone who read the books told me Dumbledore was going to die, I stopped watching the movies for years, until I didn’t care anymore.”
“We were only on the 2nd movie.”
“I was very young obviously, so it was to be expected that I would be attached too much.”
“But telling is spoiling.”
“I wouldn’t have said anything.”
“No matter how much you’re attached to the character, you have to go through the process. NTA.” ~ Responsible_Brain852
“I had a situation a while back where I wished my partner spoiled something for me.”
“The story is my dog had recently passed away somewhat traumatically.”
“About two weeks later, my partner and I watched a movie that they hadn’t seen since they were a teen.”
“The movie had a scene where a dog died and it really upset me.”
“At the time, I wished my partner had warned me about that scene, but at the end of the day, it was up to me to handle my emotions.”
“Given that your husband doesn’t seem to have any compounding factors (unresolved trauma that might be triggered, grieving a loss that might be mirrored, etc).”
“I’d say the same applies to him as the general rule is to not spoil media for others. NTA.” ~ novanonymousx
NTA lmao. No one typically wants spoilers so I will tell my partner to specifically spoil or not spoil something for me (because usually I hate surprises).” ~ ImAlreadyTracerBoii
“NTA. I’ve never watched the show, but the emotional impact is part of the purpose of the show.”
“The creators are working to establish the characters, establish an emotional tie between the viewers and the characters and events, and then to have what happens affect the viewers.”
“That would have been lost if you had told him.”
“Plus, everybody complains about spoilers.”
“If you had told him it would have spoiled the story and he probably would have been complaining about that, too.”
“He’s being immature to think that he can watch an entire series and never see anything bad happen to important characters.” ~ AntelopeOld8683
“LOL, oh you are definitely an AH in my book.”
“I hate when people don’t tell me what’s happening.”
“I was irrationally pissed off at my husband when we watched the movie ‘Pay It Forward.'”
“I was sobbing! Ugly sobbing!”
“My husband hadn’t even seen the movie but he was the only one around so I yelled at him for causing me pain. LOL. NAH.” ~ Alarming_Reply_6286
“NTA. You would have been screwed either way even if you spoiled it.”
“Best he got the full experience as a fan.” ~ WholeAd2742
“NTA. Telling him George was going to die wouldn’t have helped unless you went into minute detail and spoiled the whole episode.”
“I accidentally read that he died but didn’t know how and was still totally blindsided by that episode.”
“I also think people who give away spoilers are the lowest of the low so in that respect you were right not to tell him.” ~ RichSignal7022
“NTA, if he is that hurt over George’s death he doesn’t need to go on and see anymore.”
“I may get hate but I quit watching because they killed off Derick aka McDreamy.”
“I couldn’t take Shonda killing off anymore characters.” ~ Flossy1384
Well OP, Reddit is with you.
Nobody wants to spoil other people’s surprise.
If y’all were ‘Game of Thrones’ fanatics, would you have exposed the Red Wedding sooner?
Surprise is all part of the emotional journey.