It’s pretty safe to say we’ve all had at least one bad group project experience.
The difference is, some of us didn’t want to do the work, while others of us found ourselves doing all the work.
One young woman found herself in a tough spot when she wasn’t sure what to do about the distribution of work tasks in her group, according to the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor no_seas_carepicha wondered if she would be in the wrong for doing something about it.
The Original Poster (OP) reached out to the group and asked:
“[Would I be the a**hole (WIBTA)] for going to my professor and causing a classmate to fail a project?”
The OP was struggling with the classmates in her group.
“I (21[Female]) am in my last semester in college and will hopefully graduate this May. I’m a first generation college student and genuinely care about getting good marks.”
“This semester I’m in a class that involves a group project of 4 people analyzing and proposing policy, which is a large portion of our grade.”
“The project proposal is due on Friday and my group is seriously slacking.”
“Normally I’m very understanding because things come up, life is busy and tiring, people have to juggle internships and jobs and school and mental health etc. but this is a huge project and I’m tired of carrying the group.”
The group improved, but the OP was still struggling with one classmate.
“I made a group chat with my group members and assigned them roles because I figured it would be easier to set it apart and get it done. I was fine with taking the bulk of the project as long as I got some help on the other aspects.”
“Two of my group mates really stepped up and went above and beyond on their portions but the last member hasn’t touched it.”
“One group member pointed out that she’s never in lecture so I reached out just to make sure she was doing okay.”
“She thanked me for the concern but just explained that where she lives (class is all online), [social distancing] restrictions have lifted, so she’s been enjoying her time out at clubs, bars, restaurants and will try to get to the project this week.”
“I asked her to have her portion done by yesterday so we can fine tune it before it’s turned in.”
“She didn’t touch it, so I asked her to get it done by today instead. Still nothing.”
“I messaged her this morning about it and she snapped at me telling her to get off her back and that she’ll get it done by tomorrow instead.”
The OP was considering doing something else about the situation.
“I’m not entirely trusting of her that she’ll get it done and even so, that leaves one day to review the proposal and get it fine tuned and finish up the conclusion, which is cutting it close for such a large portion of the grade.”
“Evidently another group had a similar problem, so our professor asked us to speak up if we encounter anything similar so that she can give us individual grades instead of a group grade.”
“I have all the screenshots from our discussions and the editing history on our documents to prove she hasn’t done work and why.”
“WIBTA for sending an email to my professor and having her failed for this portion?”
“Am I overreacting and should I just wait it out for this girl to do the work?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some said the classmate should have done the work if she wanted the credit.
“OP gave her teammate enough rope to hang herself and she did. If any more rope is given, OP is liable to get their legs tangled up and get strung up too.” – tylerchu
“NTA. When I was in nursing school (recently graduated), we had a group project where one member didn’t do anything.”