Being close to your family has its limits. Especially for teenagers.
Who didn’t have that “get out” sign stuck to their door when you were 16?
Getting woken up in the middle of the night by a drunken brother definitely violates that boundary.
Redditor Avengerwolf626 encountered this very issue with her brother. So she turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA? My brother woke me up extremely intoxicated at five am he thinks I overreacted.”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“OK so I’m 16 female and I live with my dad and older brother 19.”
“My older brother is a drinker. He will go out with his mates get intoxicated to the point where he will get in the house at 3,4,5 am and create drunken shenanigans for about an hour. This is a regular occurrence, he frequently comes into my room and wakes me, which my dad has warned him not to do before.”
“Last night for the millionth time he came in around five o’clock and woke me up. He was babbling about something but wasn’t making any coherent sense.”
“I repeatedly told him to get out and he eventually did.”
OP needed this to end.
“I got up this morning and decided I had enough and told my dad to get me a lock for my bedroom so I can sleep in peace.”
“Apparently he found out and came into my room and started insulting me, calling me a baby who always gets her way and a b*tch. At that point I just told him to get out of my room.”
“He seems to think I overreacted, but I don’t think I should need to get a lock for my bedroom just to be able to sleep in my own house. I just want to be able to go to sleep and not be woken until my alarm, I genuinely don’t understand what he’s angry about. I just want a lock for my privacy.”
“Did I overreact? AITA?”
OP added some edits.
“Edit : my dad is dealing with the situation he had a stern talk with my brother and plans to have an even sterner talk when he isn’t hung over, he also agreed to not only buy the lock but put it in for me. He said that ‘sh*t is gonna hit the fan’ in the next few days for my brother.”
“Edit 2.0 just wanted to say thanks for the honesty, advice and support. I really appreciate it, I see now that my brother is the a**hole here not me. Really appreciate you guys”
“I’ll give you guys an update if anything else happens”
Redditors gave their opinions on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Most Redditors agreed OP was not the a**hole.
“NTA. Wtf? Your brother is insane to be upset at that. Your parents should have gotten you a lock months ago.” ~ Chairmanca93
“Thanks I genuinely agree I have wanted one for a while now but this was the final straw I guess.” ~ Avengerwolf626
“You go OP!!”
“When I was in college my roommate liked to stay up playing video games and screaming with his friends in voice chat. Asked him to shut up almost everyday and he ignored me – it was borderline abusive behavior.” ~ Elneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
“My brother used to do this when I still lived at home. So one night after he kept waking me up (even when I asked him to please stop yelling as it was waking me up) I disconnected the wifi router (it was in my room).”
“He kicked in my door and my parents blamed me because I disconnected the wifi…” ~ Buzznbee
“If your parents say no to the lock, go buy a cheap floor doorstopper and wedge it in there at night.” ~ ICWhatsNUrP
Redditors wanted OP to show her brother what he looks like drunk.
“Have you tried recording what he looks like and how he acts?”
“I worked teaching DUI (Drinking Under the Influence) and they really have no clue how bad they look or act until they see if after being videotaped. Do it every time as he has severe drinking problem and it may ending up killing someone if he drives, or ruining his health.”
“This is on top of ruining the relationship you and him have. Good luck!” ~ Feeling-Fab-U-Lus
“This is a good idea. Until he sees what an ass he’s making of himself, at everyone else’s expense, he’s going to continue being a titty baby throwing a tantrum.” ~ borschchschch
“My partner didn’t realize what a total abusive butt he was to me when he gets drunk until I didn’t go out with him one night and he texted the verbal abuse instead. He didn’t realize he had a problem until he was reading the messages sober the next day. Wish I would have thought of recording a long time ago.” ~ This_Particular_Self
“The problem is that when the brother is drunk he wants to talk to his sister. His drunk mind doesn’t remember, or just doesn’t care, that he’s been told not to.”
“My worry is that when he comes home and finds the bedroom door locked that he’ll attempt to break the door down.”
“Both the OP and her father need to be prepared for the brother turning nasty and aggressive when he’s blocked from his drunken goal.” ~ votemarvel
“Then they need to act as parents and you know parent him.that some relaxed parenting that made this happen in the first place. If I ever even attempted to try that I would be smacked into another country and would sober up real quick.” ~ Carlitana
“Who gives a cr*p if he wants to ‘talk to his sister’ at 4 in the morning while he is blind drunk?”
“Also, where did you get the idea he wants to have a chat? No.”
“He is potentially dangerous. She needs a lock, and if he breaks down the door maybe Dad will wake up and actually do something other than tell the brother, ‘Don’t do that, son. She doesn’t like it. It’s not nice. Please stop.'” ~ BecGeoMom
One thing we know for sure is that teenagers need privacy.