Choosing a wedding venue was hard enough before life as we know was altered by virus restrictions and social distancing guidelines.
Nonetheless, people have found a way. Through downsized guest lists, outdoor arrangements, and delayed dates, the big day is still as popular as ever.
But one couple recently had to deal with an obstacle even more formidable than a global pandemic: the whims of an extended relative.
The groom recently explained the whole ordeal in a post to the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit.
Known as edward_aux on the site, the Original Poster (OP) indicated that the drama expanded beyond the wedding with his title for the post.
“AITA for not wanting to help my ‘future cousin in law’ after he tried to have a say in my wedding?”
OP first outlined the winding road to planning the wedding.
“I’m getting married this summer.”
“At first we wanted just to have a ceremony in a pretty place without anyone, then 2 of our moms were added, then another 12 or so relatives. No friends of mine or my fiancee’s.”
“Then we decided to have a small banquet somewhere to celebrate. I found a beautiful place where you can rent a lakeside pavilion with staff and food. I really fell in love with that place.”
Just when it seemed settled, a disturbance arose.
“But then in a few days my girlfriend gets a call from her mom who said: ‘hey, Steve came by (this cousin-in-law in question) and he said you should change the venue because the traffic will be bad after we’re done and go home.’ “
“My fiancee loves her family and hates disappointing people (aka a pushover) so she said ok.”
OP knew exactly where he stood on that request.
“After she told me what’s happened I said he had no fu**ing right making claims like these and we haven’t even invited anyone yet!”
“We told and showed pictures to moms and apparently my gf’s mom told Steve who was opposed to that place.”
“Well after we told gf’s mom that we’re appalled at Steve’s behavior (when you’re invited – if something doesn’t suit you just don’t come) it started a chain reaction among their relatives (I only have my mom, so no drama).”
And so began a classic game of telephone.
“He started pushing narrative that he is not afraid of a traffic jam himself but was worried about his father in law (who’s almost 80), father in law’s wife had a fight with my girlfriend’s mom (who is her sister).”
“So 6 people out of potentially invited 12 already said they weren’t coming to that place I want. All that without any official invitations yet!”
“We’re very stressed and surprised. We started planning the easiest, least offensive wedding possible and some dude is afraid of a possible 1.5 hours drive back home.”
Again, it seemed sorted out.
“But that’s not all. A few days ago he called my fiancee asking if she knew someone who could create a website for his company. He knows that’s my profession.”
“She gave me the phone and the first thing he cheerfully said ‘hey future relative!’, I got some details and told him I’d think about it.”
OP was at the end of his rope.
“I told my SO that I’m not going to help him, he didn’t bother to call us to explain his point of view on our banquet location and instead started spreading god knows what behind our backs among older relatives who don’t drive and probably don’t even know the location.”