Redditor Accused Of Treating Husband Like 'Child' After Hiding 'Expensive' Kitchen Knife From Him

It can cause a lot of turmoil when a spouse damages your beloved belongings.

Especially one your take good care of.

So when a spouse is "abusing" another spouse's personal items, it can cause some... personal problems.

Watch out for sharp objects.

Redditor Vast-Astronat wanted to discuss their experience and get some feedback, so naturally, they came to the "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) subreddit.

They asked:

""AITA for telling my husband he can't use my good kitchen knife?

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

"I have a nice chef's knife."

"It was a gift from my dad."

"I take care of it."

"Hand wash only, sharpen it regularly, never put it in the dishwasher."

"My husband uses it for everything."

"Cutting frozen meat, opening packages, scraping things off the cutting board."

"I've told him so many times not to do that."

"Last week I found it in the sink with dried food stuck to it."

"Just sitting there in water."

"I was so annoyed."

"I said, 'I've asked you not to use this knife. You don't take care of it.'"

"He said, 'It's just a knife. You're being obsessive.'"

"I said, 'It's expensive, and it matters to me. Use the cheap knives.'"

"Now I hide it in a drawer."

"He's annoyed and says I'm treating him like a child."

The OP was left to wonder:

"So... AITA?"

Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question, AITA:

• NTA – Not The A**hole
• YTA – You're The A**hole
• NAH – No A**holes Here
• ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
• INFO - More Information Needed

Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A-hole.

"If you act like a child, expect to get treated like a child." ~ fuzzybunnybaldeagle

"Yeah, I see that. But I also think that he's careless with things and probably destroyed the knives because he uses them for everything without cleaning them up afterward."

"There's nothing left, so he uses OP's because it's in good condition."

"He doesn't respect her word not to use it, which makes it worse." ~ IceSeeker

"Because he's taking it personally."

"A simple request to take care of someone else's property is a threat to his masculinity."

"How dare his partner attempt to control him by commanding him not to do something??!"

"He's not going to tolerate being second-place to a kitchen utensil!"

"He's a big strong alpha male!" ~ chocklityclair

"Even if it were just a cheap knife from Walmart dressed up in a nice gift box when OP received it, the fact his spouse asked him to leave the knife alone because of the sentimental value attached to it should have been more than enough for OP's husband to comply."

"Instead, he ignored his spouse and acted like a petulant child."

"Even cheap Walmart knives don't belong left out in standing water with bits of food still clinging to them." ~ NotYourReddit18

"NTA, I'd hide it fully somewhere he couldn't even guess, to be honest." ~ SmolToxicBaby

"NTA - Does your husband disrespect all of your things or just the ones he's jealous of?"

"What a loser." ~ Chaptastical

"NTA. You're treating him like a child because he's behaving like a child. There are clearly other knives available to him, and he should use those."

"He's going to ruin the blade."

"He only wants to use it because you told him not to use it." ~ Itchy_Juice_2528

"Sadly, I believe this is his motivation to use that knife and that knife ONLY - spite."

“'Don’t you tell ME what to do!' type thing."

"Very, very, VERY childish on his part."

"If I were to be childish right back at him, I’d tell him the next time I catch him using it, he’ll lose the hand holding it."

"But then I would make damned sure he would never, ever find it again."

"But to be honest, the worst part is that he doesn’t care a whit about OP if he’s that obstinate about HER knife."

"Who’s the one obsessed with the knife, really!?" ~ ohyoureTHATjocelyn

"She's not even treating him like a child though."

"He only used that knife in the first place simply because it's her knife."

"He wants to keep using the knife, because it's her knife."

"And he keeps being careless with it because it's her knife."

"She told him he couldn't use her knife anymore, because he kept being careless with it."

"And that's why he's having a meltdown." ~ LifeIsSewAwesome

"NTA, you told him not to do that, and he still does and expects you to be ok with it." ~ National-Report-5473

"NTA - I also have really nice knives that (my now ex) would treat horribly."

"It made me realize that he did not respect my possessions or anything that I cared about and, by extension, me." ~ m_olive14

"NTA, I can relate! I bought a very expensive handmade chef's knife when I was in Japan with my partner."

"I explained to her the different care requirements it needed, what you can or can’t cut with it."

"My partner learned them quickly because she knew it was important to me."

"She jokingly asked, 'What would you do if I opened a can with it?' and I said, 'I'd divorce you.'”

"She asked if I was serious."

"I said I was mostly joking, but to be honest, if she could be so careless with something I care about, then it would seriously make me reconsider the relationship."

"She has pretty much looked after that knife like a baby, even though she couldn’t care less about it and thinks it’s stupid."

"It has taught me a lot about how she cares about our relationship." ~ throwawaytraffic7474

"NTA. This isn't about the knife."

"It's about the blatant disrespect and disregard."

"Ignores you, downplays your concerns, tells you you're being unreasonable for wishing he would respect you and act like an adult, then accuses you of being in the wrong because he's upset that he's so untrustworthy that you've had to resort to these tactics to try to get peace about it."

"Nowhere in any of the communication is he demonstrating care or understanding, and time after time he doesn't even pretend to want to."

"This isn't about the knife."

"It's about how he doesn't care about you as a person."

"Like at all."

"You deserve so much better than spending days dreading the next way he's going to be awful to you and tell you it's your problem if you're upset."

"He's telling you he doesn't care."

"Believe him." ~ Wuellig

"NTA - he's being disrespectful of your boundaries and acting petulant because you won't let him do whatever he wants."

"Doesn't matter how much the knife costs."

"It matters that you cherish it and have asked him not to wreck it."

"He can't be bothered to care, so he can't use it."

"Simple as that."

"If he wants to be childish and pout about it, that's his choice, but not your problem."

"He can deal with his own emotions, and they need to understand how to be a better partner to you." ~ CommodoreDragon-64

"NTA. My husband knows best and knows I will get extremely angry at him if he can’t understand my directions."

"Mine's the kitchen scissors when I specifically said it’s only used for food."

"Only one time, and after that he knows the importance of it and why we use it for certain things." ~ TheAnnMain

"NTA. He isn’t respectful of something that matters to you; therefore, he doesn’t get to use it."

"If you want to be petty, do it back to something he loves."

"If that’s his car, slam the doors when you get in and out; see how he likes it." ~ Puzzleheaded-Fig6418

"Chef‘s knives, any sharp knives actually, NEVER go in the sink or dishwasher."

"Rinse or wash after using. Immediately."

"Steak knives and butter knives can go in the sink or dishwasher."

"Full stop."

"I got a good divorce lawyer if you need one." ~ Comfortable_Pizza_59

"NTA. I've debated hiding the cheap scissors we have on our fridge because the husband insists on using them for cutting food packaging, no matter how many times I tell him I can't wash those scissors so it's unsanitary."

"He's like, 'Which scissors do you want me to use then? *huff*' I say, one of the two pairs of scissors in the utensil drawer or the RED HANDLED ones in the knife block."

"Not the novelty pair with cheap plastic handles shaped like a toucan." ~ amethystjade15

"NTA, he is not respecting you."

"I have a similar knife; it's an expensive Japanese chef knife, and it shouldn't be sitting in any type of water for a period of time, and I wipe it after every use and make sure it's dry."

"My husband respects it, as I told him how precious it is."

"It is really that simple; he is respectful of me and the knife."

"I suggest getting him his own cheap knife, he trash to hearts content and simply say, DO NOT use my knife."

"Hopefully, after using a cheap knife, he will realize how good the other knife is and start to learn." ~ SchelleGirl

"NTA. I was gifted a $3500 Japanese knife and told my ex not to use it under any circumstances."

"She used it once, and it got multiple chips in the blade."

"I was furious."

"No one should use anything that is yours which you have stipulated should not be used." ~ Working_Resort6186

"NTA OP, go post this in r/knives; they'll just hand him the phone when the comment section goes off on him because he f**king sucks with knives."

"Hide it, go buy him the cheapest s*it knife you can find, make sure it's dull."

"When he learns how to bring that knife into working order, then maybe he can use your good knife." ~ Busterlimes

Reddit is with you, OP.

Your husband is disrespecting you.

There are consequences for actions.

You did what you had to do.