A new baby is usually an exciting time for parents and extended family alike. Some people like to express their excitement through parties, genitalia detected on an ultrasound reveals or other events.
How much is too much though?
One husband felt he reached his limit. Redditor Beneficial-Poetry-74 found himself in a frustrating situation with his wife, so he turned to the subReddit “Am I the Asshole” (AITA) to see if he was in the wrong.
“AITA for ruining my child’s gender reveal?“
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Myself (27) and my wife (27) are having a boy. We already have a girl who is now 2.”
“My wife is really into films, Oscar type films and she is like an analyser when watching them.”
“So she wanted to make a gender reveal short film [for our first child], 10 minutes long to say we’re having a girl. Kind of weird but I went along with it.”
“We posted it and she was super happy with it but it cost so much. She hired expensive cameras, we drove out to scenic areas for the right shot.”
“I’m working full time during this process, exhausting.”
“So we just found out that we’re having a boy and she started writing a script. I thought there’s no f’king way I’m doing that again.
“So I posted on Facebook ‘we’re having a boy’.”
“She’s pissed at me telling me to delete it but the damage is done. I don’t feel bad. I saved us at least £4,000 [~ $5,452].”
“What I don’t get is why she’s just making films about gender reveals. She can write a script about anything and not be on a strict ~ 6-7 month time limit.”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The judgement rendered OP was NTA.
Many Redditors were shocked at the high price tag. They also noted OP’s choice to forgo a discussion with his spouse first.
“NTA, the whole gender reveal party is a bit much in my opinion. But to do a film and spend £4k+ no way.”
“That’s extravagant and exorbitant. Spend that £4k on a starter college fund for the kid or something.”~PM_your_randomthing
“NTA: ‘Gender Reveals’ are the most asinine things that pregnant couples can do.”
“Nobody, other than the two people making the baby, and perhaps their parents and/or siblings, gives a sh*t about what the baby is.”
“Sinking £4k into it just to try to ‘one-up’ other people who do gender reveals is more about the mother trying to look good than anything about the child. Good on you.” ~Insidioustoilet
“NTA, but my God the ability to spend £4k on a ‘gender reveal’ annoys the crap out of me.”