Choosing a wedding date is never as easy as one hopes it will be.
Even though some couples do their best to have their wedding on a date that has special meaning to them, venue availability, work schedules, and other factors.
Some brides and grooms might also upset friends and family members owing to their choice of wedding dates.
Redditor vomitated was in the midst of planning her wedding.
Much to her relief, the original poster (OP) found a venue she and her fiancé loved.
When the OP alerted her mother of the date, however, her mother was furious, even going so far as to demand she change it.
Unwilling to give in to her mother’s demands, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for having the same anniversary month as my mom?”
The OP explained why her mother wasn’t at all pleased with her potential wedding date:
“I (38 F[emale]) am planning to marry my fiancé soon, we have already selected a venue and are doing all the preparation things.”
“I told my mother (55 F) that we called the venue and all that and her immediate reaction was to say that the month of June is OUT for her because that is the month she got married.”
“Her anniversary is June 29th mine would be June 13th.”
“This has blown up into an entire argument for us, but my Fiancé is really insistent on June.”
“AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**Hole for refusing to change her wedding date.
Everyone agreed that her mother claiming an entire month was beyond ridiculous, be it for a wedding date or anything at all:
“NTA.”
“Is your mom always this crazy?”- pinkybrain404
“Yeah she can’t claim a whole month, there’s only twelve to begin with.”
“NTA.”- Marzipan_civil
“June is literally the most popular month to get married in.”
“Millions of people get married in June.”
“Your mom has to be a special level of selfish to think that the whole month belongs to her.”
“NTA.”
“Many people go by whatever date the venue has available.”
“The fact that you got a June date is kind of rare because those often get booked out a year in advance.”
“Your mom is either incredibly self-centered or she is trying to stir up issues for another weird reason.”- Boobookittyfhk
“NTA.”
“Same bs energy as the people who claim a whole birthday week.”- ashmaht
“My wife and I got married on October 10th, 1975.”
“Our youngest son got married on October 9th 2025.”
“We were a bit disappointed he didn’t get married on the 10th.”
“We were really happy he got married!”
“Your mother has several screws loose and should see someone about that.”
“You are NTA.”- Alert-Meringue2291
“NTA.”
“A lot of people get married in June.”
“It is ridiculous for her to try to block out a whole month based on her anniversary.”
“I’d say you should avoid June 28-30, but that’s it.”
“This is just a gues,s but I would say that she’s either:”
“A narcissist, who can’t stand sharing the month with you or not being in the spotlight.”
“Disapproving of the marriage, and is using this as just the first excuse to argue about the wedding.”- 1962Michael
“NTA.”
“You don’t get to claim a month for ANYTHING.”
“Birthday, anniversary, anything.”
“Your mom is being selfish and unreasonable.”
“However, is your fiancé also being ‘insistent’ for another reason?”
“Why June?”
“I mean if it’s ‘this is the best date for the venue and our other work/family plans’ then sure, but the way you phrased ‘insistent on June’ sounds weird.”
“Also…what do YOU want?”- LiveKindly01
“Tell me your mom is a narcissist without telling me she is one.”
“NTA.”- Monag26
“NTA.”
“Is your mom really this much of a child?”
“If you got married on her anniversary, I might side eye it a little bit, but otherwise, blocking out an entire month is nonsense.”
“Book June if it works for you and your fiancé and tell your mom to grow the heck up.”- coastalkid92
“I could get the same date, but the same month?!?!?!”
“Tell your mother to grow the f*ck up.”
“NTA.”- notrainsaroundhere
“NTA.”
“You CANNOT reserve an entire month for your anniversary.”
“Talk about main character syndrome.”- Mysterious_Battle585
“NTA.”
“Maybe look into reading the book, Children of Narcissistic Parents.”
“She doesn’t get to own the whole month for her wedding anniversary, that’s insane.”- DazzlingBig
“NTA.”
“She doesn’t get a whole month.”
“Get married in June and f her main character syndrome.”- Axiom713
“NTA.”
“She wants to veto an entire MONTH?”
“And that month is JUNE?!”
“OMG she has Main Character Syndrome.”
“Anyway, the anniversary is for the couple to celebrate, why would anyone else need to know when it is, or care?”
“Is she demanding the family celebrate her anniversary?”
“Outside big milestones like the 50th, that’s not a thing.”
“If you both make it 50 years, you can have parties a couple weeks apart.”- MarionberryPlus8474
“NTA.”
“Can’t say the same thing about your mother.”- Yaguajay
“NTA.”
“There is no damn rule in this world that forbids a person from marrying in the same month as their parents.”
“She doesn’t own June.”
“Plus, it would be a hassle since you have already found a venue you love that has availability in June, and switching months can cost you thousands.”
“Ultimately, you and your fiancé are the ones getting married.”- Pipsqueeeeak
“NTA and never ever ever TA for this, but I have to know.”
“Has your mother always been selfish, jealous, or competitive with you?”
“Is she possessive and controlling all the time?”
“I’m sure this isn’t the first time she’s acted like a lunatic.”
“Congratulations on your wedding, and I wish you the happiest marriage!”- Catfiche1970
“NTA.”
“No one gets to reserve a day, let alone a month.”
“Why are you still trying to please your mom at your age?”
“Get married in June.”- LavenderPearlTea
“NTA.”
“So was this the first time you’ve realized your mother has narcissistic tendencies?”
“I’m guessing no?”- Disastrous-Assist-90
“Wtf, NTA, it’s not like it’s on the same date, you mom is completely out of line.”- Calm_Bother_3842
“NTA.”
“Tell your mother to grow the f up.”- Cheeze_N_Quackerz
“NTA.”
“I think it’s weird that your mom is making an issue over it.”
“She wants to claim the whole month after all these years?”
“June is a very popular wedding month and your wedding is two weeks before her anniversary.”
“She must be desperate for attention.”- Decent_Front4647
“Your mum is correct here I’m afraid.”
“CLEARLY only 12 couples in the history of the world have been allowed to marry as we don’t want people sharing the same month for their anniversaries.”
“Your mum must have got in early.”
“You’ll just need to suck it up.”
“Of course you are NTA.”
“What is with the people who post here and their weird families?”- AfraidOstrich9539
“NTA.”
“My husband and I got married on my parents’ 43rd anniversary, and my parents are so thrilled that we share not only the same wedding month but also the same anniversary date.”
“Also, June is like ‘wedding month’.”
“I don’t understand why she would be so possessive over any entire month.”
“This is such a weird thing to freak out about.”- babyinthebathwater
“NTA.”
“Who needs an anniversary month.”
“Now that might mean that over the years you may not be able to attend each other’s anniversary celebrations but those should be few and far between.”
“Maybe just the major ones.”- keesouth
“Isn’t June one of the most popular wedding months?”
“Your mom is being ridiculous and you’re NTA.”- Dittoheadforever
“NTA.”
“Tell your mom she doesn’t own a month.” Has she always been so narcissistic?”- Snarkyraccoons
“NTA.”
“My mom and sister have the same anniversary month (actually, my mom remarried, and both her wedding dates to my dad and to my stepfather were in August), which is also my birthday month.”
“People don’t get to claim a whole month.”- ummmwhut
“NTA.”
“Your mum can’t claim the month of June as her anniversary month only, how ridiculous!”
“She gets a day, the anniversary of her wedding day.”
“That’s how this thing works!”
“What’s your dad’s opinion on this?”
“I hope he can see sense, and isn’t just backing up his wife on this.”- Crump_change
Thankfully, months of the year are in the public domain, and no one can keep a hold on them for any reason whatsoever.
More confusing, however, is why the OP’s mother would even mind her daughter sharing a month for their wedding anniversaries.
Would sharing a day even be the worst thing?
Based on this scenario, one can only imagine what the OP’s childhood must have been like…