It’s so important to feel supported by those we love. When they disappoint us, it’s hard to know what to do next.
But one mom on the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit had to make a tough decision after her son hurt her chances of finding work.
Redditor Aita333645___ eventually decided to kick her son out of the house after he refused to see her perspective.
But since the Original Poster (OP) wondered if she went too far:
“AITA for kicking my son out of the house after he canceled my job interview?”
The OP worked hard to give her son a good life.
“Please hear me out first. I’m a single mom (45) of a 20-year-old son (Chris). Chris is in college. He studies engineering.”
“Being a single mom at a young age was not easy for me, despite everything I been through, despite my own family giving up on me, I made sure my son got the life he deserves. He was/is my everything.”
“I worked several jobs that were different from each other. I was able to own a home after years of renting. And more importantly, I was able to provide Chris with an opportunity for education.”
Her son made several suggestions after moving back in.
“Recently. Chris moved back in with me because he no longer could pay rent.”
“His next semester is starting soon. And he’s been talking to me about the possibility of selling my house and buying a house in the city where he studies so he will no longer pay rent and said that it was better to move.”
The OP didn’t like the idea.
“I declined for several reasons. 1. I grew up here, and my old friends live here. 2 the city is expensive. 3 This home means a lot, it represents my hard work and sacrifices.”
“Chris didn’t like that. He threw a fit and kept bringing it up, trying to convince me to do it.”
“Last week he kept pressuring me. I told him that I found a potential job at a company and it was an opportunity because I had been looking for 3 months. He took it as in I don’t want to move because of my new job. But it’s not true.”
The OP discovered how much her son disapproved of the job offer.
“Yesterday. I found out that he contacted the company and canceled my interview and then deleted my email. I use a computer and it’s in the office so he gets access to it. He told me he wanted to check his college website for some reason and I thought nothing of it.”
“That was the night before. I found out yesterday morning that someone canceled my interview.”
“I confronted Chris about it. First, he denied it, and then he said that the company wasn’t what I deserved anyway and I can find a better position when we move to the city.”
The OP was furious.
“I was so mad at him for ruining this for me and pressuring me to move, leaving me no choice. I felt as if he was trying to sell the house from under me after he said he found a potential buyer and just wanted to make things go smoothly and all I have to say is yes.”
“I yelled at him and argued with him, telling him that he was an adult and should manage his own issues. Told him to get a job but not expect me to turn my life upside down for him.”
“He yelled back saying I was selfish and I ended up kicking him out of the house. His aunt knew and was yelling at me for what I did, saying I was treating him poorly and he was hurt by me.”
“Just to clarify, his aunt is my sister. She doesn’t have children of her own. And Chris considers her as a second mother to him. She’s always defending him no matter the reason.”
“He hasn’t left town yet and she wants me to call him.”
“I need to mention that this is not how he is normally. I have no idea what’s going on, but he was constantly talking about it and was insisting so much, it got me upset and worried honestly.”
Fellow Redditors wrote in anonymously, rating the OP’s reaction on the following scale:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some said the son was being totally selfish.