Sometimes, people demand something from us and we are absolutely blindsided by the level of entitlement these humans seem to have. How are we to meet that demand reasonably without nearly laughing in their faces?
Reddit user Super_Pizza2985 found himself in a rather outlandish situation where his roommate demanded she and her boyfriend get to keep his apartment because it was working out great for them.
Completely and totally gobsmacked by the audacity of this moment, he went to the popular subReddit “Am I The A**hole?” or “AITA” to get a little perspective on how he handled it.
“AITA for not wanting to leave my own apartment?”
Our original poster, or OP, set the stage upon which his roommate made such a ridiculous demand.
“I’ll keep this vague to avoid recognition since I’m believe the parts involved actually use reddit.”
“I’m a 28 year old male, and I’ve been friends with my roommate, a 25 female, ever since we were babies.”
“Our families were neighbors and we grew up together. She’s like a little sister to me and has always been.”
These old friends now live together.
“After she graduated college she moved to the same city I currently work in, and since she couldn’t find an apartment close enough to where she worked I told her she could live with me. We’d share bills and become roommates.”
“We never really had problems or fights as we known each other for so long. However, recently, things taken a strange turn. She got involved with someone from her work.”
This new boyfriend seems to have some hang-ups.
“The guy seemed to be a nice guy. I only ever spoken to him three times as they usually keep to her room. But he was very friendly and honestly I was happy she found someone who seemed that nice.”
“After a few months of their relationship, she sent me a text saying she needed to talk with me. I figured there might be something wrong with the apartment.”
“It’s not uncommon for things to break.”
“But I was wrong. When I got home we started to talking. It’s too long to write everything, so I’ll just summarize.”
OP and his roommate had a surprising conversation.
“She told me that while she enjoyed living with me, her boyfriend was starting to get jealous of his woman living with another man.”
“At first I raised an eyebrow but thought that this kind of thing isn’t uncommon. So I was like ‘Oh, it’s fine. Just let me know when you plan on leaving, hope you two find a good place!'”
“However, apparently I was wrong.”
“She told me that she wasn’t leaving.”
“She said that it was impossible to find someone closer to her work and that she was hoping I would let her take the apartment instead, since my work wasn’t close and all that.”
“Thing is, I really love my place. It’s close to the gym, to the grocery store, to pretty much everything.”
“I’m not gonna just leave my place because of something so stupid as this, and I told that flat out that it wasn’t going to happen.”
OP’s roommate was very upset.
“She got visibly upset and started to rant about me being an egoistical a**hole. That I didn’t have empathy to put myself in her shoes.”
“This happened a few days ago, and she’s shut herself in her room only ever leaving to go to work or to pick up her boyfriend, who became really unfriendly to me after that.”
“Now, usually, I can be an a**hole. But I don’t think this was one of these times.”
“So I thought I would ask for Reddit’s verdict.”
“Am I really such an a**hole?”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
All agreed OP was not at fault here.
“Lemme get this straight: you have known her for over TWO DECADES. You welcome her into your home, and now she expects you to leave so she can live with her jealous BF that she’s just gotten on with?”
“NTA, bro, she is. Big time. Look at how she treats someone who is like a sibling.”~meatcube
“NTA. Why, siblings (or almost siblings) can be entitled/stupid too! Lol”
“Some people just can’t help themselves!”
“Few years ago , I was looking for a place to rent when I moved to new place for a contract job, there were a couple of others in the same situation.”
“So we thought the group look for a 2/3 bedroom to share. Mean everybody was also secretly looking for single spots and moved in separately, they told after they’ve finalized their plans.”
“So I had to do the same and found something (a bit more expensive because it was at the last minute and I couldn’t stay longer in a hotel ).”
“One of them didn’t like their roommates and called me asking if I wanted to move out of my room and search for a new place to share with them.”
“I laughed to myself and politely declined. I should’ve laughed in their face and asked them if they were for real!”~risfun
“NTA – it was your place first, and she’s the one having an issue with the living situation. If her new bf has such a problem with her living with you then he should offer her to move in with him.”
“What she ends up doing is totally her choice but you shouldn’t be forced to move and I think she’s being incredibly unreasonable.”~Academic_Nobody_4964
“NTA. Your friend is acting like an entitled idiot but I’m more concerned that a guy she’s known for about 5 seconds has her trying to get rid of you to appease his jealousy.”
“If you care about your friend let her know you’re still on her side but the boyfriend’s behaviour is controlling and dangerous too.”