At one time or another, some of us have walked around either fully or partially nude in the comfort of our own home.
It is the only place where we feel safe, if only for a moment, and to allow oursevles to be vulnerable.
But for one Redditor, the conditions were not ideal for walking around semi-nude.
Immediately after an unfortunate incident, she visited the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA For Being in My Undewear at Home?”
The Original Poster (OP) wrote:
“I live with my mom and she’s on vacation so I’ve had the place to myself this week which was nice.”
“I was walking around in just my panties sometimes (because I was home alone and the blinds were shut). One morning when that’s all I was wearing, my mom’s boyfriend came through the door.”
“He and my mom don’t live together. He has his own place with his son who is in his early 20s.”
“He doesn’t have a key here but he used the key that my mom put under the door mat to come in.”
“Previously he has only been here when my mom was here unless she ran to the store after he already got here.”
“Luckily I turned around and started walking to my room so he didn’t see my boobs (thank god), but he still saw what I was wearing by seeing the back of me.”
“Not him nor my mom had told me in advance that he was coming.”
“I got dressed and then he started yelling at me for walking around in just my underwear. He hasn’t yelled at me before ever. So he is here now.”
“He said he came here to get a break from his son since they had an argument. He is asleep now in my mom’s bed.”
“I called my mom about it but she didn’t answer cause I guess she’s busy at the moment.”
“He was pretty mad about what I was wearing.”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
Many Redditors thought the OP was not the a**hole in this situation.
“NTA get ahold of your mom and he needs to leave. He shouldn’t be there alone with you while your moms on vacation. He doesn’t have a key of his own for a reason.” – KidSephiroth
“NTA. You were being comfortable in your own home. He entered without announcing his presence.”
“Ask him why his mother never taught him to knock before entering.” – wuter78
“He’s the AH and a complete creeper. There is no way it is appropriate for him to be there while your mom is away, especially for him to walk in with a key he isn’t supposed to have without knocking or asking.”
“He especially should have left after he saw that you were undressed in your own home, which you have the right to do. He needs to leave now and to be honest I wouldn’t be comfortable with him coming back.”
“And would ask that be never again come over unaccompanied, to maybe never come over again, and to if he is over while your mother is there to leave when she leaves.”
“He is so far past inappropriate right now that I am very uncomfortable for you. This man needs to leave.” – ReactionEuphoric5362
“NTA AT ALL, he is way out of line for thinking he can come to your home uninvited, how rude!”
“And then to criticise what you are wearing in your own home! The second he leaves remove the key and don’t leave the doors unlocked until your mother returns.”
“And keep trying your mum to tell him to leave. He is well out of line.” – JWJulie
“Make a big deal about this with your mom pls. If you feel she’s not going to understand why you were in your undies, make up a reason like you were changing and needed a bandaid or heard the phone ring so walked across to get it and were in your undies for just that min when he walked in.”
“Tell her how uncomfortable you felt and scared that someone just walked in while you thought the house was locked.”
“He could have called you before coming. This is not okay. Even if he had a key he is supposed to call before coming over. It’s not his house.”
“NTA and make a big deal pls. Flip the narrative on him.” – Admirable-Marsupial6
“NTA. Your Mom has not given him a key, so he should not be there in her absence and he definitely should not have come in without knocking.”
“Please try to get ahold of your mother asap – she should tell him to leave.” – the_empty_remains
“NTA what a creep with a humongous sense of entitlement, he thinks he has the right to just drift in to your and your mom’s house any time he fancies a nap? What a bastard!!”
“Make sure you’re mom knows and hide that spare key somewhere else. He is literally trespassing and breaking the law and has the audacity to yell at the resident of the house he broke into!” – notrapunzel
“NTA – he needs to go, this is rather disturbing to me. Did he expect you not to be there and to be out doing other things so that he would have his personal time?”
“Obviously he knows you live there. It sounds like he yelled at you from his own embarrassment but also since he was in a bad mood from his kid; however, that doesn’t mean he can take it out on you for something normal in your own home that he interrupted.” – trekqueen
“NTA – he should not have come in uninvited. However I am confused why your mother went on vacation without her boyfriend, who can’t apparently be trusted with a key for the house?”
“I question why he is anywhere near your property. For Example, why is he so immature that he can’t have an argument with his son and simply calm down and stay at his own place.”
“IMHO, if your mom doesn’t explain to you why, I would ask him to leave.” – Allmyownviews1
Overall, Redditors considered what the boyfriend did was trespassing and they thought he had no right to reprimand the OP after arriving at the house unannounced.