Have you ever had a neighbor who was under this weird impression that you would just do things for them because you were neighbors?
Especially if it seems they’re making assumptions based on your gender.
One woman went through that recently according to her post in the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor SpinkleSnicks explained how their neighbor asked them for a favor out of the blue. But when he was surprised she didn’t say yes, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if she was in the wrong for saying no.
“AITA for not watching my neighbor’s baby for a few minutes?”
The OP was surprised to see her neighbor at her front door.
“My neighbor knocked on my door and asked if I could watch his baby for a few minutes while he got groceries out of his car.”
“The parking at our apartment building is terrible so depending on where he parked, this could have taken up to 20 minutes if he needed more than one trip.”
“I don’t know how old the baby is; he’s old enough to kind of walk but he can’t speak aside from sounds like BA BA BA.”
“Well the poor guy had to have been desperate to ask a total stranger, so I felt bad about saying no and wasn’t sure if that was shitty.”
“I thought it was weird, too. I won’t even ask a stranger to watch my dog while I grab coffee or something; I can’t even imagine handing my offspring to someone I’ve never seen with a child and whose name I don’t know.”
“I don’t think it was crazy that he asked because it was just a few minutes. A little weird though since we don’t know each other.”
“The kid wasn’t in a car seat; the guy was holding him and the baby was in nothing but a diaper.”
But she knew she couldn’t oblige.
“I said no. I’ve never held a baby before, I don’t know anything about babies, I’m never going to have babies. How do I know I’m not going to accidentally kill him?”
“I offered to go get his groceries for him, but he said no, he’d just carry him and make extra trips.”
“I am a woman.”
“It was weirder to me that he thought it was okay to hand me a baby but it’s not okay for me to get his groceries for him. You trust me with your child but not your spinach?”
“I did go with him to help carry stuff.”
“He didn’t say anything about it, but he looked really shocked when I said no, so I’m wondering if I was unreasonable.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the **hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some pointed out they’re terrified of babies, too, and wouldn’t watch one.
“This will be an unpopular opinion, but some people are simply not comfortable with babies. This doesn’t make you TA.”
“NTA. Especially as you helped in other ways.” – Cato_95BC
“I’m a woman and while I have held babies before, I would still 100% say no.”
“Unless it’s ‘hey, can you stand by my baby who’s sitting in his stroller while I quickly do something?’, I’m not looking after a baby for any length of time.”