Allergies are a grave issue.
Not every allergy is life-threatening, but it can be a huge hindrance to a person’s well-being.
But there are many people out there who don’t seem to care.
That lack of understanding can cause a lot of problems.
Redditor Mysterious-Stock-948 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for snapping at my sister and saying that she’ll choke on her jealousy one day?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I’m 21 F[emale] and I have 2 siblings.”
“My sister is 24 and engaged.”
“My brother is 28 and married to my S[ister]-I[n]-L[aw] who is 25.”
“My parents hosted a family luncheon to celebrate my sister’s engagement at their house.”
“I went early to help them set up, my brother and sister-in-law were a little bit later than everyone else.”
“My sister and her fiancé arrived last.”
“Everything was going well and everyone was happy until my sister got a text and pulled me aside.”
“She asked me if I could go outside and meet a friend of hers who’s going to drop off something off for her. I did.”
“The ‘something’ was a big ball of pure happiness, a Saint Bernard dog with a cute little formal tie around his neck.”
“As adorable as he was, I couldn’t bring him in because my sister-in-law is allergic.”
“Her allergy is not severe but still.”
“Everyone in the family knows of it.”
“I told the friend to please wait while I talk to my sister, but she did not.”
“I texted my sister that I can’t bring him inside.”
“She texted that it was fine, to bring it in because it was a surprise and he’s the newest addition to the family.”
“I insisted that I couldn’t then I texted my brother about it because it had been 10 minutes.”
“I’m standing in the driveway with a big doggie that would not stop licking my legs, not knowing what to do.”
“From what I was told, inside, my brother pulled my sister aside and asked her not to bring the dog in.”
“That she knows his wife is allergic.”
“She refused, saying that it’s an open space, and that sister-in-law will be fine.”
“He then told her the news that sister-in-law is pregnant.”
“I already knew and they were waiting until she passed her first trimester.”
“My sister then went outside, dragged the dog, and then me in when I resisted.”
“My brother, seeing this, excused himself and left with sister-in-law.”
“We tried resuming the lunch after that but it was awkward at best.”
“When my sister and her fiancé cut the cake, she grabbed her glass of champagne to make a toast.”
“The ‘toast’ was her rambling about how selfish my brother and his wife were, that they couldn’t let her have one day to herself and had to ruin and overshadow it.”
“That they were not the first or last couple to get pregnant.”
“Both of my parents tried to shush her, but she was on a roll and went on to call my sister-in-law an attention seeker who just had to give the family the first grandchild.”
“I finally had enough and told her that green wasn’t a good look on her and that she was going to choke on her jealousy one day.”
“Then I got up and left.”
“She called me a b**ch on my way out.”
“My mom called me after and told me that it was a bit harsh even if she was harsher.”
“She also suggested that the three of us (siblings) talk it out after things settle a bit.”
“My dad is staying neutral.”
“I haven’t heard from relatives that were at the luncheon.”
The OP was left to wonder:
“So AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“Oh honey, you are definitely NTA, but let’s break this down with some sass!”
“First off, is your sister pulling that Saint Bernard stunt at a family luncheon?”
“Girl, she knew about the allergy, but instead of being a decent human, she chose chaos!”
“That’s like bringing a firework to a quiet night in.”
“And then she had the nerve to drag that dog (and you!) into the house, knowing full well the situation?”
“Nah, that’s some diva behavior right there.”
“As for your brother and his wife — they’re not out here trying to steal her thunder, they’re just living their lives!”
“Her being mad that someone else has a big moment (and, let’s be real, it’s a baby, not a new handbag) is straight-up petty.”
“And that toast? Yikes.”
“Sounds like she was throwing a jealous tantrum, not making a speech.”
“And calling you a b-word after you threw down some truth?”
“Oof, that’s a classic case of can’t handle the truth.”
“You said what needed to be said.”
“Sometimes, folks need a reality check, and you served it with a side of sass.”
“If your mom thinks it was too harsh, she probably didn’t hear the full extent of what went down.”
“And your dad staying neutral?”
“Bless his heart, but neutrality in this mess ain’t the vibe.”
“When you do have that sibling chat (if you even wanna bother), keep it real and remind your sister that other people can have good news, and it doesn’t make her any less special.”
“But if she keeps acting like a brat, maybe suggest she adopt some emotional maturity along with that Saint Bernard!”
“Keep your head up, queen.”
“You handled that like a boss.” ~ rithika1907
“This, and let’s be clear, from the way this story is told the brother was not going to announce the pregnancy.”
“He just didn’t want his wife’s allergies triggered, which is completely normal. NTA.” ~ Competitive-Bat-43
“You’re definitely NTA.”
“Your sister’s behavior was completely out of line.”
“Bringing a dog into the house knowing full well that your sister-in-law is allergic was selfish, and then doubling down by throwing a public tantrum about the situation was inappropriate.”
“Her actions not only created an uncomfortable atmosphere but also directly dismissed the well-being of others in favor of her own desires.”
“You snapped after her behavior crossed multiple lines, and while your words might have been harsh, they were a direct response to her hurtful comments and actions.”
“It’s understandable that you felt the need to speak up after watching her blame your brother and sister-in-law for something that was entirely her doing.”
“Your mom suggesting that the three of you talk it out is a reasonable next step, but that doesn’t make you the a-hole here.”
“Your sister’s jealousy and disregard for others were the real issue, and it sounds like she needed a reality check.” ~ Serendipity_Calling
“Absolutely NTA – you cannot take antihistamines while pregnant, which is why they were forced to tell you their lovely news.”
“Your sister is TA.” ~ Dry_Ad3493
“It wasn’t even like the brother and SIL were TRYING to steal the thunder by making a pregnancy announcement.”
“They were literally forced to reveal exactly why it was a much bigger deal for SIL to have an allergic reaction right now.”
“If jealous sister hadn’t needed to make a scene with the new puppy, none of it would have happened.”
“She is selfish and spiteful. I feel sorry for her fiancé.”
“She is also delusional if she thought there was no chance of her OLDER and ALREADY MARRIED brother having the first grandchild.”
“If anyone needs to apologize, it’s sister.”
“Not OP. NTA.” ~ Lazy-Instruction-600
“NTA. Yeah, I’m not invited but I’m wearing white to that wedding.” ~ PoeTayToePoeTawToe73
“Has your sister had issues with SIL in the past that you’ve noticed?”
“Trying to figure out if bringing the puppy around her knowing of the allergy was either just not giving a f**k about her ‘surprise’ negatively impacting someone, or if this was an intentional ploy to make them upset/leave so she could try and paint them as dramatic.”
“NTA.” ~ TogarSucks
“NTA. Your sister was being selfish and obviously has issues with your brother and SIL.”
“Icing on the cake was the comment about giving the family its first grandchild.”
“You can only be nice and stay neutral for so long.”
“No one can fault you for snapping after that whole struggle with the dog and your sister’s rant.” ~ charmer143
“Of course NTA.”
“But just like your sister, your father is TA too.”
“He is conveniently staying neutral as he hates his responsibility of educating his children.”
“Tell him in his face too to start being a man and do his job as a parent.”
“Not just doing it when it is fun and happy, but also when it is painful.”
“Sorry, I just hate this kind of father who always be neutral all the time cause he can’t be bothered.”
“You were sure harsh, but I won’t be playing around about the health of a pregnant woman.” ~ Cloud9_Forest
“NTA. But I’m confused about who the dog was actually for.”
“If the sister is engaged, that means she’s gonna be leaving home so is it her dog?”
“If she got a dog for her parents that’s weird to get a big dog for somebody as a surprise gift.”
“Or did she just do it to divert the attention onto herself because she already knew the sister-in-law was pregnant?”
“I’m so confused.” ~ Mysterious-Region640
OP had an answer…
“The dog is hers and her fiancé.”
“They both have their own place where the dog will be living, but she brought him to our parent’s house to apparently introduce him to the family- mom’s words when I asked her about it.”
Reddit continued…
“NTA. Your sister is gross.”
“Calling you a b is not what family does.”
“She’s trashy and I hope you send her this thread tho she’ll never admit to being wrong.”
“Hope she doesn’t ask you to be M[aid]-O[f]-H[onor] or a bridesmaid cause I would never tolerate that disrespect towards you and your SIL.” ~ Mystralchan
“NTA. Is your sister still engaged?”
“I would definitely have second thoughts about spending my life with her.”
“She’s the AH.”
“I might agree with your mother if she had been able to derail the rant but she wasn’t.”
“Someone had to speak up, she had already driven your brother and SIL away!” ~ Aromatic_Recipe1749
“Oh honey, no, you’re NTA, but your sister DEFINITELY is.”
“Everything you said was correct and 100% on point.”
“You did everything you could to handle the situation properly, and your sister insisted on showing her nastiness instead.”
“Hopefully, her fiance knows what he’s getting himself into.” ~ Condensed_Sarcasm
“NTA. Your dad is gutless if he won’t call this what it is.” ~ TreadmillGangster
Reddit is pretty loud and clear in your corner, OP.
Your sister was utterly out of line.
You were doing what was best for another person’s health.
She owes everyone an apology.