Opinions are personal beliefs, but there are some opinions that are so universally accepted they might as well be facts.
Like corgis are adorable.
Whether they’re just puppies…
…or full grown…
…they’re seriously cute.
So, as a breed, they’re pretty hard to resist. Even Queen Elizabeth II wasn’t immune to the charms of the Pembroke Welsh Corgi.
And that’s exactly the issue a person in Norway is dealing with. So they turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for feedback.
Redditor MightyImp asked:
“AITA for telling my sister she can’t barge into my apartment and dog-nap my dog to meet random strangers?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“So this has happened twice. My sister has unlocked the door to my apartment and taken my dog to show him off to strangers.”
“He’s a Corgi and he’s the only Corgi in our town so people get weird about it.”
“The first time, I was so shocked that I just watched her take my dog away (he came back 20 min later but still).”
“The second time, I was in the shower and didn’t hear her come in so obviously, when I came out of the shower and my dog was nowhere to be found, I freaked out.”
“My sister left the door wide open and I thought he had gotten outside or someone had broken in and taken him.”
“I called my mom, who then told me that my sister was at her place with her friend and my dog. I call my sister screaming through the phone to bring him back asap.”
“I am recovering from a painful back injury and I have to limit my movements to a minimum. I am also in a lot of pain from walking in general and even standing for a 20 min shower (I had a chair but it broke and I’m waiting for the replacement) is difficult so I couldn’t just go and get him myself.”
“Six hours and many irate calls later, she comes back with him. I go off on her, telling her that she can’t just take my dog to meet strangers (my dog is friendly but still) and that she can’t just barge into my apartment without knocking or letting me know ahead of time.”
“She argues that because of my injury, it would be good for him to get outside and do something else. She completely ignored the fact that I have friends who help me walk him and that he does spend three out of seven days a week at my mother to give him some space while I recover.”
“But he’s fine and at his happiest when he’s with me and that my injury does not excuse her from taking him from me without my knowledge and or my permission.”
“I then tell her to hand over the keys, get the hell out and leave me alone. She leaves and I get texts from her, her friends and my parents saying that I was overreacting.”
“I know my sister wouldn’t do anything to hurt my dog but she oversteps my boundaries, something she and my brother does all the time but that’s another story.”
“Was I the a**hole here?”
Redditors weighed in on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was not the a**hole.
“NTA. She probably told family and friends a bullsh*t story how she tried to ‘help’ but you went off on her or something.”
“Never give her your keys and if family and friends keep pestering you tell them the truth.”
“She barges in, doesn’t communicate about ANYTHING, leaves door wide open for anyone to just come in and take your stuff while you’re literally in the shower. That’s not normal.” ~ ChewMyFudge
“…while OP is already in pain. This is dangerously entitled behaviour with no regard for OP’s safety.”
“It would be wise for OP to invest in some latch or locking mechanism that can be closed from inside the apartment. Taking back sister’s key might not work if the mom has a key.”
“NTA, OP.” ~ mmousey
“Not to mention, if the sister hadn’t taken the dog to their mother’s, OP wouldn’t have known he was with the sister.”
“She could have hurt her back again trying to look for him in the neighbourhood, or she might have called the cops assuming he’d been dognapped (which he actually had been).”
“NTA.” ~ mercurial_planner
The OP returned with an update and a picture of Ludviken the Corgi.
“My building manager has agreed to change the lock this morning and now, only I have the keys.”
“I want to explain further a few things I’ve noticed I might not have explained properly.”
“My accident was truly a freak accident. It had rained the previous night and it was at the same time a cold night so it made a thin layer of ice on the path I was walking with my dog and I didn’t realize it was slippery before it was too late.”
“I landed awkwardly and hit the ground hard. I wasn’t able to get back up (I couldnt move from the pain) and I was stuck until someone else came by, about 20 minutes later.”
“I was taken to a hospital but doctors didn’t find anything wrong, other than some bruising. They don’t know why I have issues walking but I am improving day by day.”
“I also forgot to mention that I live in Norway.”
“I have friends who help me take him for walks. Feeding him is difficult but my friend helps me prepare feed so I can just pour it into the bowl without having to bend over.”
“However, she cannot look after him outside of that (she has a job, I do too but I work from home atm). This is why he’s at my mom’s place sometimes.”
“He’s only a year old and still very much a puppy at heart which in my condition can get frustrating. My mother has a large yard and two dogs of her own so letting him stay with her, he gets an outlet, he gets to play with other dogs and I get a break to take it easy.”
“Also, my mother is on probation so she can’t go outside at certain times of the day so she can’t help me much.”
“As for the six hours that passed until I got him back, I wasn’t worried about him being with my sister. She’d never hurt him but it was the way that she took him that shook me to my core.”
“The lack of awareness of personal boundaries is something my sister and brother (that’s another story) has struggled with for a long time but talking to them about it has ended up in many fights and I’m too tired to get into it with them anymore.”
It sounds like the OP has a solid plan. Their privacy and their rules for their own home and their dog need to be respected.
If their family can’t do that, then they need to lose access to the OP’s home.
Also, corgis are super cute.