Content Warning: Consent, Fake Nudes, AI-Generated Fake Nudes
Using AI has been incredibly popular lately, and those who find it to be problematic are about to find yet another reason to edge against it: deep fakes.
Specifically, deep fake, sexually explicit photographs, without a partner’s consent, or even as revenge on an ex, cringed the members of the “Am I Overreacting?” (AIO) subReddit.
Redditor avaisigfruit was shocked when her boyfriend reached out to her, thoroughly pleased with himself that he had used images of her to create deep fakes of her.
But when he also enhanced those photographs to make her body more to his liking, the Original Poster (OP) couldn’t help but feel creeped out and betrayed by her boyfriend.
She asked the sub:
“Am I overreacting for being creeped out that my boyfriend is making AI-genderated fake nudes of me without my consent and is saying that I need to be enhanced?”
The OP’s boyfriend’s latest act left her shocked.
“I (19 Female) found out last night that my boyfriend (25 Male) has been using some AI app/website to make fake AI nudes of me.”
“He literally sent me one like, ‘I enhanced your boobs to F-cups and added pokies,’ and was acting like it was some kind of funny gift?”
“When I said it doesn’t even look real (it was glossy/fake looking), he straight up admitted he found a site that lets him make NSFW edits and now he can ‘enhance me however he wants.'”
“He even said, ‘I just really like big girls and want yours to be HUGE.’ So he’s basically saying I’m not good enough, right?!”
Here is the first screenshot from the conversation:
The boyfriend texted the OP, along with an example image:
“I enhanced [your] boobs to F-cups and put [new] pokies (nipples) on [you].”
“Look how hot [you] are, babe!”
The OP was insulted and confused:
“How are [you] even making this? I thought [Chat GPT] didn’t allow naked stuff.”
“And that doesn’t [realy] look like me… Too glossy and fake.”
“I’m a natural beauty.”
The boyfriend continued:
“I just like seeing what [you] would look like with HUGE woobies (breasts) and pokies (nipples).”
Here is the second screenshot from the conversation:
The boyfriend continued:
“I found a site which allows NSFW.”
“I can enhance [you] however I want now.”
The OP didn’t like where this was going:
“Sounds evil.”
“Why do I need to be enhanced?”
The boyfriend insisted:
“I just really like big girls and really want [yours] to be HUGE, sorry babe.”
The OP was shocked by the interaction.
“I don’t know if I’m crazy, but this feels so violating?? I didn’t ask for this, and it’s weird knowing he’s basically creating fake p*rn of me.”
“He swears it’s fine and that I should take it as a compliment, but it honestly made me so uncomfortable and undervalued.”
“AIO?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NOR: Not Overreacting
- YOR: You’re Overreacting
Some were alarmed by how immature the OP’s boyfriend was.
“‘WAHEHEHEHE!’ Jesus.” – baroquian
“‘Woobies and pokies.’ He is 12 and this is middle school pranks, right? He sounds very worldly for a 25-year-old. 19 and 25 usually do not mix since the 25-year-old is usually too mature for someone nineteen but in this case, you need to find someone more mature.”
“What is a pokie? Is that how the two of you talk to one another.” – RevolutionaryAd851
“Reading this, my uterus grew back from my hysterectomy just so it could grab my ovaries and throw them and itself into a vat of toxic waste. Get out of there, OP.” – Smurfy378
“If OP really wanted to be petty, she could just say that she wishes AI could enhance a few things on him, as well, so that he could start to measure up so that she could be finally satisfied… but the mature play here is to just walk away. This guy is for the bin. What he did is cruel and he’s too mature to realize it.” – MooseKingMcAntlers34
“Grown man using baby talk in normal conversation… gross, slight recoil, reflecting on the choices that led me to this relationship.”
“Grown man using baby talk to make a sexual reference… projectile vomit, instant vaginal dryness, existential crisis.” – OldManJimmers
“Pokies. POKIES?! I recoiled and mouthed the word too, because it’s so weird. It’s what would happen on an awul date for Carrie or Samantha (from ‘Sex and the City’) and they’d talk about it the next day.”
“I’ve had tons of lovers over my lifetime and I know a 25-year-old man with the maturity of a 13-year-old boy if I’ve ever seen one.”
“He’s peaked emotionally, he will never mature past this guy making pictures of girls with humongous ‘boobies’ with ‘outtie pokies.’ I almost made myself gag, writing that. He’s gross.” – MsMoreCowbell828
“Seems like you’re underreacting to me. At a minimum assume he’s uploading nude photos of you into the program and into the hands of someone else.”
“Those nudes are part of the AI algorithm forever now. I’d freak out if a partner did this to me.” – COALATRON
“I’m just imagining how many other photos of her he’s uploaded without her consent. The internet is forever and this is a huge violation of trust OP! He is NOT worth staying with. You are enough just as you are and I’m sure a thousand other normal men would agree.” – Spirited-Lime96
Others agreed and urged the OP to end the relationship as soon as possible.
“Girl, don’t embarrass yourself any further by staying with this weirdo. Leave as soon as possible.” – Justinas16_b
“Everything about this is completely disgusting. His behavior is foul. The fact that AI will do this is foul. Get this creep out of your life.” – icecoldbe
“God, he’s texting in a gross baby voice to downplay it and make it sound cute and playful. Foul is the correct word. Get that foulness out of your life.” – ChoreomaniacCat
“I can’t imagine a single thing OP finds attractive about this man. The things he put into words… that’d have killed the relationship before it ever started.”
“So unattractive. Like. Revolting. How do you find this man worthwhile when he’s such a natural repellant?” – forethemorninglight
“1. Age gap, definitely a little suspect.”
“2. Not cute, not funny, very rude, for a few reasons.”
“3. He might just be a f**king idiot who’s bad with words, but he’s signaling to you that he’d like you better a different way.”
“4. You’re right to feel violated. He took intimate images of you, uploaded them to a website, then turned you into p*rn he likes better… it’s off, it’s odd, and you probably shouldn’t continue to be with him.”
“5. Your nudes are now also forever part of the AI database. Whether they’re ‘real’ or not.”
“Imagine if he shows his friends, because it’s you but not actually you, so he isn’t sharing your nudes? (This is just a what if.)” – idreamofmnemosyne
“Please ask him to delete them all and let him know it’s absolutely NOT with your consent… I wonder if some state laws that counts as unsolicited nudes and/or revenge pr0n if you decline and all for removal… And he doesn’t.”
“Second please do yourself a favor and leave this creeper. You’re a teen and obviously not consenting to this. If he didn’t get the hint, I’d be this only escalates.” – altagato
“Girl… RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE. That’s super weird. Absolutely not!”
“1. He should love you the way you are. If he doesn’t and uses AI to ‘enhance’ you, then f**k off? What the f**k.”
“2. Normal people would never do this…. just fyi…”
“3. He can use these pictures after you break up for revenge corn…” – Defiant-Watch-121
“This is seriously DISGUSTING and pretty sure there are some laws against it in certain circumstances. Either way this guy is absolutely nasty.”
“He talks like an eight-year-old and clearly doesn’t find you attractive in your natural state. A person doesn’t do this to somebody they love. This is a huge red flag.” – Ok-Soup-514
“On the bright side, in a couple years when people are telling their dating horror stories, you are absolutely going to win. But don’t create anymore stories with him, OP; get out.”
“Also, tell everyone who will listen that you left because he made weird AI p*rn of you so he can’t use your nudity as revenge.” – mrs-sir-walter-scott
“Having been the girl who has dated a 25-year-old at 19; break up with him. He will continue to push this idea that your body isn’t perfect the way that it is because it doesn’t match his fantasy.”
“Considering that this is the only one that he has shared with you, he likely has more. Not to mention him doing that is illegal. It’s called deep fake pornography, especially since he did this without your consent; if I were you, I would get away from him.”
“He’s likely going to continue this and it is going to be detrimental to your mental health if you stay with him. Even if you stay with him, and he says that he won’t do it again it’s still gonna be a thought in your head. If he cannot appreciate you for how you are then he is not deserving of you.” – PoisonedCandie
The subReddit was alarmed by how the OP had been treated by her boyfriend and urged her not to put up with the behavior any longer, or else he might do something else that the OP would regret.