Most of us have been through our fair share of messy breakups, and they’re often troubling to think about.
But sometimes some downright weird things emerge from the ended relationship, pointed out the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor JasmineBlossom60 was not only surprised to run into her ex after more than a year of not seeing him, but because of what he accused her of.
In her surprise, the Original Poster (OP) had to know if she had done something wrong.
She asked the sub:
“AITA for continuing to go to my ex-boyfriend’s favorite restaurant after we broke up?”
The OP continued to go to a restaurant after a bad breakup.
“So when I was dating my ex-boyfriend, he’d take me to this wonderful Korean BBQ place. It is his favorite restaurant and I love it too.”
“We ended up breaking up in a rather messy and bad way as the relationship turned sour. I won’t play the blame game as there was fault on both sides.”
“I wasn’t about to let a bad breakup prevent me from going to get food I loved though, so I still visit the place from time to time. We broke up a year ago.”
The OP ran into her ex.
“A little while ago we ran into each other there while he was on a date with another woman.”
“I resolved to ignore him and enjoy my food, but he saw me and demanded to know what I was doing there and even asked me if I was stalking him.”
“Apparently my laughter at the very idea offended him even further.”
“I told him he was flattering himself far too much that I just like the food there.”
But the OP was criticized.
“Some of my friends think it’s weird I continue to go here though and that it could cause further incidents if I run into him.”
“They think that I should just not go here anymore as it was his first and be considerate.”
“I think it’s ridiculous as it’s just a restaurant I happen to like.”
“Am I in the wrong here?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some pointed out the OP’s ex did not own the property.
“He doesn’t own the restaurant.”
“Next time you see him there and he talks to you, accuse him of stalking as soon as he opens his mouth. If he got a date, tell him he is using the poor girl to make you jealous. How immature of him to keep going there knowing that you love the place.” – tatasz
“NTA. This sounds like his problem, not yours. You can expect to lose some mutual friends when you break up, but you shouldn’t have to stop going to a favorite restaurant.” – CoffeeJunkie804
“NTA – He does not own the restaurant. You like the food and can go there as you please. If he can’t deal with it, that’s his own immaturity he has to deal with.”
“Your friends also need to chill as they have no right to tell you where you can and cannot go.” – HistoricalInaccurate
“For real, ‘…it was his first…’ Unless you’re in 2nd grade, this is just a stupid thing for people to say.”
“Way too many people have way too hard a time with mature relationships, and this is the perfect example.”
“When you break up, you don’t separate the world into your individual camps… you go back to the way you were before, but maybe now have some new restaurants or hobbies to take with you.” – dereksalem
“Sorry but the right thing to do would be to avoid going to this restaurant, all the local Macdonalds, Dominos, Starbucks, banks, supermarkets, anywhere connected to an asphalt road, planet earth….”
“Seriously though, NTA. He’s insane.” – joepanda111
Others agreed and said Korean BBQ was worth it.
“You’re right and valid. There’s no Korean BBQ near me and I’d murder for it. Maybe seeing your ex? Small price to pay in comparison.” – agoldgold
“Are your friends for real? I don’t know if they’re true friends. Like, my friends would NEVER try to stop me from enjoying food for such a stupid reason.” – Abbadee
“Tell him the one good thing that came from your relationship was finding this restaurant, and you’re going to eat there whether he likes it or not.” – Bewildered_Coyote
“I have to drive 40 minutes for KBBQ. Even if my ex did own the restaurant, I might still keep going there!” – Uma__
“I’d have laughed in his face too if he implied he was more important than good food.” – Conscious_Ad_9785
Some agreed and felt sorry for the ex-boyfriend’s date.
“NTA and with one encounter in a year, seems like a non-issue for an adult. Sorry your ex is being silly – bet that went over really well with his date.” – SadderOlderWiser
“NTA. What a narcissist. I’m pretty sure his date was very creeped out.” – GodJisung
“Of course she was in disbelief, she just saw him act like a fool and questioned why she’s with him. It’s fine. He was bound to expose himself eventually.” – raya__85
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years. If we went out to dinner and he saw an ex and reacted this way, I would absolutely start questioning things.” – jayjayhaze
“At the very least, it shows he hasn’t processed/coped/healed from his relationship and breakup with OP enough to be dating again.”
“I hope she was able to hear what he said and dodge the bullet.” – radioactivebaby
“I definitely wouldn’t want a second date with somebody who did that.”
“OP handled it correctly: if I saw an ex who I wasn’t on good terms with, I would have just ignored them, and they probably would have done the same.”
“Ex needs to get over himself. NTA.” – DrWhoop87
While the OP wondered if she might have been in the wrong after what her friends said, the subReddit insisted otherwise. Though she shouldn’t be surprised if she ever runs into him there, it being his favorite restaurant or him introducing her to it will not act as a permanent ban against her to enjoy food there.