Woman Appalled When Parents At Resort Demand She Not To Drink Alcohol In Front Of Their Kids

Going on vacation takes a lot of planning.

And once you're there, you want to relax!

But not everyone agrees on the best way to do that.

That's when a vacation can turn into a nightmare.

Redditor nurseB89 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback, so naturally, she came to the "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) subreddit.

She asked:

"AITA for ordering alcohol?"

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

"I'm currently on a Solo trip in Tenerife."

"All inclusive to save having to look for places to eat by myself."

"The hotel has club style seating, meaning that all tables are tables of 8 and people get sat together, apparently it's to encourage a sense of community and conversation."

"Last night, I was seated first and had a glass of wine."

"A family of 5 got seated at my table."

"2 adults and 3 Children."

"The mother turned to me and said, 'We do not wish to expose our children to women drinking alcohol.'"

"I smiled and said perhaps they should ask to move tables if it was an issue, but I would be drinking the wine."

"They noticed I was on my own and made passive-aggressive comments about this."

"I went up to get food and on return the wine had disappeared, a waiter came over and asked to see my wrist band (for the all inclusive) and said the family had told them I was underage and must have sneaked away from my parents."

"He was very apologetic and returned with a fresh glass of wine just as the family came back with their food."

"The family stormed out of the restaurant when I drank the shots as they arrived at the table!"

The OP was left to wonder:

"AITA for then requesting the waiter bring me the full bottle along with a couple of shots of vodka?"

Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question AITA:

• NTA – Not The A**hole
• YTA – You're The A**hole
• NAH – No A**holes Here
• ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Many Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A**hole.

"What family goes to an all-inclusive in Tenerife and doesn't expect to see women drinking alcohol!"

"They will have to blindfold the children." ~ Euphoric-Treacle-420

"NTA. The audacity to lie about you being a naughty child who sneaked away to have alcohol."

"What the actual hell?"

"But also, it's only offensive if women drink alcohol?"

"So it's okay for a man to do that?"

"That's misogynistic."

"Why shouldn't a woman get to enjoy herself?" ~ Felix_Fickelgruber

"You are an absolute legend for requesting the full bottle of wine and vodka shots."

"This level of pettiness is something we should all aspire to." ~ IanFaiths-CricketBat

"NTA. You are my hero for..."

"1: going on a trip like that solo, and..."

"2: for ordering a full bottle of wine and the vodka shots to spite that mother!" ~ Emergency-Piano4792

"So, a woman drinking in front of their kids is bad."

"Lying to a waiter, making unfounded accusations about you to staff, and being rude to a stranger is okay?"

"Interesting sliding scale on that moral code of theirs." ~ honorthecrones

"NTA. Were you petty?"

"Absolutely, and I am living for it."

"This was fantastic, and I would have done the same."

"I cannot stand parents who believe they can police other people because they want to shield their children unnecessarily from perfectly normal aspects of life." ~ New-Lifeguard-9494

"NTA. LOL."

"If they don't want people/women drinking alcohol near their kids, they shouldn't have come to Spain." ~ Puzzleheaded-Salt278

"NTA... you know this, you wanted to tell us what a legend you are."

"But in case you have any doubt - you're a legend 🍷."

"They should stay the f**k at home - enjoy your holiday 😌☺️." ~ mrsbinfield

"NTA, but the parents are sanctimonious idiots."

"If they don't want to expose their kids to women doing adult activities, they need to brainwash them at home." ~ MtnMoose307

"NTA. If they didn't like that you were drinking, your suggestion was correct; they should've asked to be reseated." ~ Zazzog

"NTA. For God's sake, you were there first, it's a place where everyone gets seated together, they do not have the right to tell you, you can't have a glass of wine with dinner."

"If you don't want your children exposed to alcohol, THEN DON'T TAKE THEM TO PLACES THAT MIGHT SERVE ALCOHOL1"

"But they absolutely do not have a right to tell you what to do." ~ Midlife_Crisis_46

"NTA. You were sitting there first, THEN they were seated at your table?"

"If they don't want the kids around alcohol, they can get up and sit somewhere else." ~ BoobySlap_0506

"NTA. I write this as a woman currently on a solo trip in Egypt at an all-inclusive with a glass of wine in hand, I'm applauding your pettiness." ~ jazzvoodoodonuts

"NTA, and that is a level of petty that I respect so much."

"Well done!" ~ helpthe0ld

"Superhero stuff is what you did! Screw them."

"They don't get to dictate your diet or behavior."

"It's the resort's fault that they didn't do a better job of putting tables together."

"My late wife was in a wheelchair."

"Our first big trip as a couple was a cruise to Cozumel."

"Her mother gave it to us."

"At the fancy dinner, we were seated at a table with 6 other people."

"One couple looked a little put out because of my wife's condition, I had to help her eat."

"The man gave us a sideways look when I started to feed my wife her meal."

"Like it was disturbing her."

"One guy noticed it and suddenly piped up and said, 'That is so awesome the way you take care of her. I hope to be half the man you are someday.'"

"Then the others picked up on that and made similar positive comments."

"Mr Side eye wouldn't look up from his plate the rest of the meal."

"A**holes need to be made uncomfortable as hell at every opportunity." ~ Alternative_Craft_98

"They indicated they didn't want to expose their children to WOMEN drinking alcohol."

"Would there have been an issue if a MAN was drinking alcohol at their table?"

"Why did the waitstaff take the wine away?"

"Wouldn't they have checked your ID before serving you?"

"Do they just blindly bring alcohol to anyone, regardless of age, without checking ID?"

"That is wild."

"The waitstaff believed the other family?"

"Why?"

"NTA. The kids are going to find out sooner or later that women drink too."

"That's just crazy to think they won't." ~ KoolJozeeKatt

"NTA. The audacity of those AHs, though. Wow."

"If they don't want their kids exposed to alcohol, they should probably consider not bringing them places where alcohol is served."

"Like Utah." ~ JonesBlair555

"Wow! The nerve of some people."

"If they didn't want to expose their precious little pan lids to 'ladies' drinking, assuming men are OK, then they should've gone on holiday to a Muslim country!!"

"NTA and I'd have done the same as you!!" ~ hellscrazykitchen

"NTA. Why did they bring their kids to a place where alcohol is served if that's against their wishes?"

"Sounds like they're the ones setting the bad example."

"Not that I agree with them." ~ PJKPJT7915

"NTA. If they don't want their children to see women drinking alcohol, they shouldn't take their children to places where alcohol is served."

"They shouldn't have ever approached you about it to begin with, and enjoying a little extra libation was a totally justified middle finger in response to their getting the staff to bother you." ~ rapt2right

"NTA and I applaud you for getting a whole bottle of wine and vodka shots at the end!"

"It was in Spain."

"Adults there drink alcohol in the presence of children all the time."

"Totally normal."

"And what was this about 'women' drinking alcohol specifically?"

"So they think only women should not drink alcohol, but men are fine?"

"That makes them also sound sexist." ~ opelan

"NTA- This made me laugh so hard."

"The bottle, the ordering of the shots, and the family storming out."

"Totally NTA, they can't control other people." ~ cosmicdancer84

"NTA. I travel solo a LOT."

"And you will see me having a drink at a bar, in a hotel, or whatever."

"If I were there, yes, I'd be having a drink."

"Few things, 'We don't expose our children to women drinking alcohol.'"

"So it's ok if you're a guy?"

"F**k that sexist s**t right out of here."

"Removing your alcohol and LYING to the staff, not only did they do something ridiculously inappropriate, but they also put the staff in an AWFUL situation."

"In my opinion, NTA because that family, 100% messed up there." ~ nerdforest

"NTA. It's a bit petty, but I would have done the same thing in your shoes."

"A similar thing happened to my mom years ago, and trust me when I say no one can tell that woman what she can and can't do on her vacation." ~ S3rnielsen

"NTA. Her: I want to set a good example for my children by not exposing them to alcohol."

"Also, her: I'm going to tell an obvious lie to the waiter in front of my children to try and get what I want."

"And then act like a crazy person when the lie is discovered."

"I feel bad for the kids." ~ Speedraca

"NTA. Unless you were offering the kids a drink?"

"They could have requested a table where someone already sitting there wasn't already sitting!" ~ Turbulent-Health-610

Reddit is with you, OP.

This is your vacation.

You weren't breaking any rules.

This family should be looking for more "family-friendly" vacation options if that's what they require.

Have a great time.

And cheers!