We've all found ourselves in situations where a total stranger gets on our nerves.
The wise thing to do in this situation is simply to ignore them, knowing we'll most likely never see this person again in our entire lives.
More often than not, however, our emotions might get the better of us, and we feel compelled to do something about it.
Redditor YungYanush recently found themself in a rather unpleasant encounter with an elderly woman.
An encounter that ended up costing the original poster (OP) a very hard-to-get appointment.
Their frustrations getting the better of them, the OP ended up taking measures others might consider drastic.
After being accused of "harassment", the OP took to the subReddit "Am I The A**Hole" (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
"AITA for calling the police on an elderly woman who blocked a parking spot and made me miss my doctor’s appointment?"
The OP explained why they ended up getting the authorities involved over a parking spot:
"I had a doctor’s appointment over an hour away, and I’d been waiting more than a month for it."
"I arrived about 5 minutes before the appointment."
"Parking there is always crowded, but I can usually find something."
"This time, every spot was taken."
"Then, right in front of the doctor’s office, the car ahead of me pulled out of a space."
"I immediately turned on my blinker and started parallel parking into it."
"I was already halfway in when an older woman suddenly stepped into the space and said I couldn’t park there because she was 'saving it' for someone else."
"I told her I was there first, was already pulling in, and had a doctor’s appointment in minutes."
"She refused to move."
"I told her what she was doing was illegal, but she said she didn’t care and wouldn’t move."
"I got angry and said that if she kept blocking it, then nobody would use the spot."
"We stayed there for about 10 minutes."
"There were no other spaces nearby, and this was my only chance of making the appointment."
"She started taking pictures of my license plate and saying things like, 'We’ll see who wins', and 'You’ll find out who you’re dealing with'.”
"I started recording and called emergency services."
"The operator told me what she was doing was illegal and sent police."
"A few minutes later, when she got distracted looking for the car she was saving the space for, I quickly finished parking."
"She walked away still threatening me."
"I called the doctor’s office to explain I might be late because of the incident, but they said they couldn’t hold the appointment."
"I was the last patient of the day, so the doctor left."
"I missed an appointment I’d waited over a month for."
"When police arrived, I showed them the videos and explained everything."
"They confirmed she was in the wrong."
"We found her at a nearby restaurant, and her daughter came out and started insulting me for 'harassing an old woman'.”
"But when police confronted the older woman, she suddenly acted innocent."
"The police asked whether I wanted to pursue the matter further since I had suffered a financial loss by missing the appointment."
"After hearing that money is the problem she offered to pay me for my loss."
"I said I didn’t want money."
"I just wanted her to admit she was wrong and promise not to do this to anyone again."
"She agreed, and I let it go."
"Now I feel conflicted."
"She was elderly, and I did call the police over a parking spot."
"But she blocked me, threatened me, and caused me to miss an important medical appointment."
"The police did not order her to pay me compensation."
"They only said I had suffered a real loss by missing my doctor’s appointment and asked whether I wanted to make any claims. After that, she was the one who offered me money and asked how much I wanted."
"That part was entirely her idea, not the police’s."
"The police did not say she had to pay me money on the spot."
"They said I had suffered a real loss because I missed my appointment, and they asked whether I wanted to pursue the matter further."
"They explained that if I did, she would have to come in and formally give her side/explanation."
"Only after that did she offer me money herself and ask how much I wanted."
"That was her idea, not the police’s."
"AITA?"
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You're The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was somewhat divided as to whether or not they felt the OP was the a**hole for calling the police on the elderly woman.
While just about everyone agreed that what the woman did was wrong, they also felt the OP didn't do themself any favors by arriving at their appointment with so little time:
"NTA for calling the police."
"However arriving only 5 minutes early for an important appointment is just poor planning."- stayuntill
"NTA."
"But you should have given yourself more than just 5 minutes."
"You knew that parking was going to be difficult and if you had given yourself more time you probably could have found another spot further away."- Nightlilly2021
"NTA."
"But you should have pressed charges."
"At that age, it takes a lot to learn a lesson."
"I doubt she learned anything."- Present_Ad1553
"Well, she was in the wrong, so I suppose NTA."
"But honestly, arriving at a parking lot with 5 minutes to spare when you know that it is hard to find parking isn't a good idea."-SavingsRhubarb8746
"Hour away, waited a month, 5 minutes before appointment arrival time?"
"NTA for the situation, but your priority of this makes the rest not really matter."- mil578
"NTA."
"That lady deserved to be told off."
"But who shows up to an important Dr appointment only 5 minutes early?"
" Especially if you know parking there is a nightmare."
"You kind of set yourself up for failure there my dude."- SassyClassy
There were others, however, who had trouble sympathizing with the OP for arriving at their appointment only five minutes early:
"ESH."
"This woman for what she did but you also, you came 5 minutes early knowing that the parking is sparse."- steina009
"ESH."
"YOU arrived 5 minutes before an important appointment?"
"Most docs want you there, in the office, 15 mins early."
"Her because age doesn't excuse that sort of behavior."- canvasshoes2
"ESH."
"You knew you had an appointment in a place where it's hard to find parking, and showed up expecting to find parking 5 minutes before your appointment, that would allow you to get to your appointment on time."
"Seems like an asshole move."
"If that spot hadn't been open, and you had to park further away, would you have been on time to your appointment?"
"Parking is part of getting there."
"Your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on anyone else's part."
"When she started blocking your car, you could have driven off and found a new spot, and/or called your doctor's office and told them you were looking for parking, and would be a few minutes late and asked if they could have held your appointment for you."
"You should have let the staff know you would be late and not wasted the staff's time in waiting as long as they did for you before they went home."
"You knew about 5 minutes before your appointment you weren't going to make it and as you said, you waited a month for this appointment."
"You called the police on her, and they helped you look for her, and after all that, you didn't want to press charges or be compensated for missing your appointment you waited months for, you just wanted an authority figure to tell this old woman you were right and she was wrong?"
"That'll teach her for next time."
"You sure showed her!"
"She was an asole for trying to hold the spot you were actively parking in."
"You were an a**hole for everything else."
"I hope choosing to miss your own appointment and wasting the time of the police and staff at the doctor's office was worth the time it took for the police to help you find an old lady in a restaurant, so that that they could tell her you were right."
"I hope nobody had a serious incident they needed the police for while they were wasting their time with you."- MsAresAsclepius
Parking spaces can be notoriously hard to come by.
With that in mind, standing in a parking spot that someone is clearly waiting for when the car they are holding it for is nowhere to be seen is fairly tacky, and in most places, illegal.
This justifies the OP calling the authorities, especially considering the woman was threatening them.
That being said, when parking spots at this location were known to be few and far between, the OP should have arrived earlier.















Woman With Cerebral Palsy Livid After Husband's Doctor Questions Why He Married Her
In the search for comprehensive medical care, people may have tough conversations about their lifestyle, work, relationships, and other potential stressors.
But a doctor can only make so many decisions on behalf of their patient, cautioned the members of the "Am I Overreacting?" (AIO) subReddit.
Redditor _lucky96 was seeing the same doctor as her husband, so their doctor was aware of both of their medical histories and needs, including her having cerebral palsy.
But when the doctor brought up her condition during her husband's latest appointment and questioned their marriage, the Original Poster (OP) was appalled and wanted to find a new medical care provider.
She asked the sub:
The OP had cerebral palsy and a full life.
"I have cerebral palsy. It mainly affects my walking, but I can walk independently and live a pretty normal life."
"My husband and I have been together for three years and have a blended family with five kids altogether. Three of my kids aren’t biologically his."
The OP and her husband just started seeing a new doctor.
"We’ve both recently started seeing the same general practitioner (GP)." I’ve seen him about three times now and generally thought he was helpful."
"I had noticed he seemed very interested in my disability and would often ask questions about it and whether I had support, but I assumed he was just being thorough."
In the OP's eyes, the doctor crossed a line.
"Today, my husband had an appointment with the same doctor for stomach issues."
"During the appointment, mental health apparently came up as part of the discussion, but the appointment itself wasn’t for mental health."
"I wasn’t in the room because I was outside with our daughter. According to my husband, the doctor asked him, 'Why did you marry your wife?'"
"My husband said because he loves me, and then the doctor apparently said something along the lines of, 'With her disability and five kids, that’s a lot to take on. You realise when she’s older, you’ll have a lot to do as she ages.'"
"My husband thinks I’m overreacting because they had been discussing different stressors in his life, and believes the doctor was just talking about responsibilities and support systems."
"I understand that possibility, but I can’t get past how hurtful it feels to hear my disability described as something my husband 'took on' or as a future burden he’ll have to manage."
"The doctor also said, 'Not many men would do what you do, you’re a good man.'"
The OP was upset about the conversation her husband shared.
"What bothers me most is that the conversation wasn’t even about me, and I wasn’t there to respond or provide any context."
"I feel like the comments reduced me to my disability rather than seeing me as a wife, parent, and person."
"Am I wrong for being upset by this and considering raising it with the clinic, or does this sound inappropriate?"
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
Some reassured the OP that the doctor's comments were highly inappropriate.
"That’s highly inappropriate. You are NOR." - Direction_Physical
"NOR. You are not overreacting at all. That was completely inappropriate and dehumanizing."
"You’re his patient’s wife, not his patient, while your husband is in that room. Bringing up your disability and five kids during your husband’s stomach appointment had nothing to do with his care."
"Saying you’re 'a lot to take on' and 'not many men would do what you do' frames your marriage like a charity case, and you like a burden instead of a partner."
"That’s ableist, unprofessional, and a violation of basic boundaries."
"It makes sense that you feel reduced to just your disability after hearing that."
"Raising it with the clinic is absolutely reasonable. You deserve a doctor who treats you as a whole person, not a problem for your husband to manage." - DaringDuvet
"This makes me so stabby. I’m non-verbal and have right-sided weakness."
"We were married 29 years before it happened, and the number of people who think my husband needs a medal and a parade for sticking around..."
"Don’t get me wrong. My husband is one of life’s truly good dudes. But seriously?" - sorenelf
"This is infuriating. He's a good man because he didn't ditch?"
"When my mum was diagnosed with cancer that wasn’t going to do the polite thing and get fixed, the amount of applause for my dad not leaving her was astounding."
"He was horrified at first, but that wore off pretty quickly, and he just started calling it out. That made quite a few people squirm in their own discomfort."
"It says a lot about someone who thinks a natural choice is to bail." - BasicLingonberry9914
"NOR in the slightest."
"Even if we assume good intent and the doctor wanted to make sure there are safety nets and supports in place for both of you, that has NOTHING to do with the question of why your husband married you."
"I would absolutely file a complaint, and if you both can, find another general practitioner." - ooooohcakepudding
"NOR. I have severe Aphakia, and if my specialist looked at my husband to remind him he's going to be growing old with someone who is likely going to go blind, I think I would die."
"My husband had been through h**l and back with me and my eyes long before we got married, so he knows what he signed up for. And it isn't the doc's place to sort out. Super duper unprofessional." - Global-Nature2420
"So at first, I thought you were overreacting. I am a mental health provider, and a doctor discussing stressors and very real-life situations happens all the time."
"The minute you added the part that 'not many men,' things changed. He took what could have been a normal conversation and changed it to his personal feelings, which is absolutely disgusting."
"NOR at all. I would file a complaint." - Trash_Human92
Others pointed out that it was an important conversation to have, though the doctor could have been more delicate.
"While tough, this isn't an inappropriate conversation to have if the stress is causing his health to deteriorate."
"The truth is not inappropriate. I think the way he worded it was a bit much, but not what he said."
"It appears to me the OP is not dealing with how her disability is not just about her, but everyone, etc. For example, my cancer was also stressing my loved ones out." - Total-Ad886f
"I was having panic attacks in the middle of the night due to my husband's health and lack of care. So when he finally started seeing someone in my same doctor's office (but not the same doctor), it was SO much better."
"My doc and the nurse have been really, really concerned about my mental health, so they were happy to hear that he's taking his health seriously and improving, because that means that I am sleeping more and my mental health is better, and that means my ability to manage my own chronic pain and health issues has been better."
"I was not coping at all and barely able to function." - popchex
"The doctor may have mentioned OP in the conversation with her husband if he was trying to ascertain if he had stressors that may contribute to his stomach issues. Sure, your spouse, children, work, and parents can be considered stressors at times in anyone’s life."
"For me, where he crossed the line was when he decided just how OP’s condition will impact the future."
"Firstly, OP is obviously capable of caring for everyone, including herself and children, with minimal, if any, assistance. As OP ages, more assistance may be required, but this may also be the case for her husband, too, as he ages. The responsibility of the children will not be a factor, as they are adults."
"So the doctor’s predictions are presumptive and unnecessary. Health is not guaranteed for anyone. We all will face various challenges to our physical abilities as we age."
"What I would take up with the clinic is why he felt it necessary to ask the husband why he married OP. To additionally state because of that, ‘He was a good man’ is grossly inappropriate and unprofessional."
"There is potential for an ongoing issue to arise if OP were to continue seeing this doctor. His bias toward her husband may very well influence any care she may need in the future. NOR." - Cool-Blackberry-785
"It doesn’t make sense because if your husband was talking about how stressed he was, why would the doctor bring up more reasons he should be stressed? Or if he didn’t seem stressed enough, is the doctor then going to be like, 'Consider how stressed you’ll be in X amount of years'?"
"It sort of sounds like he’s saying something like, 'Why would a man do that?'"
"The only exception I’d give is if your husband had some sort of health thing he’s completely ignoring, and the doctor was trying to give him a wake-up moment. Because then, they sort of have to be blunt to make you realize you need to prioritize your health. But simply being stressed isn’t enough to start saying, 'Why did you marry your wife?'"
"Whenever it’s women in your husband’s position, they just get told they’re an awesome rockstar. No one questions WHY they do it."
"NOR. You should find a doctor who makes you feel supported, and you feel is better overall."
"I wouldn’t make your husband change yet. It is hard to find doctors you like. Maybe when you establish with a better doctor, he’ll switch, too." - imwearingredsocks
Since the OP's husband went to the doctor to discuss stomach issues and likely how to remedy them, it's reasonable that the subject of possible stressors would come up, so the husband could avoid those stressors and improve his symptoms.
However, some Redditors felt that also including details about his marriage and fatherhood in the conversation was crossing a line, and while being a care provider to a spouse could be stressful, many felt it was being addressed from an ableist perspective instead.