When a family member is behaving poorly, sometimes the best thing you can do is call them out on it, if you’re ready for the consequences.
One teen caused much more drama than he was expecting when he called his brother out for his sexist views of women.
Redditor “AskSome3043” posted in the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit, wondering if he was in the wrong for finally trying to put his brother in his place.
The teen asked:
“[Am I the a**hole] for calling my brother a piss baby?”
The Redditor explained how his older brother is an “incel,” or involuntarily celibate “nice guy.”
“My brother (27[male]) lives with my parents and I (16m). My brother is a nice guy/incel. He’s constantly ranting about how girls won’t go out with him, and how apparently they’re all dirty wh**es for not liking him. My parents seem to only encourage his behavior.”
“What’s worse is he’s a gym teacher, so his female students (some of whom are my classmates) are exposed to his nasty a** attitude.”
The teen’s feelings came to a head during his brother’s latest rant.
“Last night, my brother went on another long rant about the latest girl who managed to resist his ‘nice guy charm’.”
“He kept going on about it, and I got annoyed because of it. I told him, ‘Maybe if you weren’t such a piss baby someone would want to date you.’”
“(‘Piss baby’ was said because my parents have forbidden the term ‘incel’ in our house. Because my brother gets upset over it. Also, it was the first thing I could come up with other than ‘incel’.)”
The brother didn’t like being told this.
“Surprise, my brother gets upset about it.”
“My dad tells me to apologize to my brother, and I tell him I wasn’t going to apologize to a nasty a** piss baby who goes around treating people (mainly women) like s**t just because he’s a ‘nice guy.’”
The teen’s family reacted much more dramatically than he expected.
“Things escalate to where my dad, brother and I are all screaming at each other at the dinner table. It ends with me being told to find a friend to stay with for the night, because my parents (and brother) are sooo disappointed in me.”
“I got a long voice mail telling me how disappointing I was. I got told I went too far, and should regret my actions.”
But the teen doesn’t regret what he said.
“I don’t regret my actions, and I don’t think I went too far, but whatever.”
“AITA for calling my brother a piss baby?”
Redditors wrote in anonymously on the OP’s (Original Poster’s) confrontation, using the following scale:
- NTA: “Not the A**hole”
- YTA: “You’re the A**hole”
- ESH: “Everybody Sucks Here”
- NAH: “No A**holes Here”
Many couldn’t believe how toxic the teen’s family seemed.
“NTA. And your parents are wretched for encouraging his behavior. Most people don’t want incels because they’re psychopaths.”
“Also, you could get the law involved for them kicking you out since you’re a minor” – CoconutxKitten
“Ah, like father like son. Sometimes it’s really unfortunate when the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Hopefully, at some point in his life your brother realizes he’s being horrible and stops.” – dragonesszena
“Yup… sounds like the OPs assessment of 27-year-old brother’s character is pretty much dead on.”
“The parents are enablers. Would the older brother be a ‘piss baby’ today if his parents had confronted him with the truth about himself years ago, rather than listening to him whine and moan and blame everyone but himself for his troubles all this time?”
“There comes a point where someone’s got to speak the truth, even if it hurts.”
“And if he’s 27 years old and has a job, wtf is he still doing living at home with his parents? Teachers don’t make bank, but they DO generally make enough to not have to still live with mommy and daddy.”