Food allergies, and even food preferences, are no joke.
But lately, people seem to feel especially entitled to what other people put in their bodies.
One woman was a victim of this, according to the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit, during a recent visit to a small coffee shop.
Redditor torirose21 explained that there was a disagreement over a coffee order that could have been much more harmful under other circumstances.
The Original Poster (OP) wondered if she overreacted during the incident.
She asked the sub:
“AITA for ripping into the lady who made my coffee?”
The incident happened during a trip with the OP’s mother.
“Okay, so me (25 [female]) and my mum (65) are currently on a roadie around my country during my study break.”
“We stopped off in a smallish town [and] go into a cafè to grab a hot drink.”
“I asked the lady at the counter for a decaf flat white, she recited my order back correctly, I confirmed [and] paid.”
The OP had specific reasons for the order she placed.
“I can’t drink caffeine as it triggers my anxiety and migraines, but love the taste of coffee.”
“20 minutes later, mum and I are walking around, [and] I suddenly feel a tightness in my chest, heart pounding [and] my breaths are quickening.”
“I soon realize I’m about to have a panic attack. We take a seat and I calm myself down. I get panic attacks often, sometimes out of the blue, so I wasn’t immediately concerned.”
“But then the auras started.”
“Panic attacks have never triggered a migraine and certain foods can trigger a migraine within half an hour of consumption.”
“I knew at this point something wasn’t right.”
The OP confronted the barista.
“I go back to the cafè [and] ask the same lady if she’s sure my coffee was decaf.”
“She looked super insulted [and] after a long pause, she said she made it with normal coffee because, [and] I quote, ‘decaf is stripped of caffeine by the same chemicals found in nail polish remover. Caffeine is better for you’.”
“To say I was irate would be an understatement but I calmly explained that I don’t drink caffeine because it triggers migraines [and] my anxiety [and] that she has no right to alter a customer’s order [and] if we lived overseas, she could be sued.”
“She rolled her eyes [and] replied with a tone that I can only compare to a bored teenager that I should have explained my reaction to caffeine when ordering my coffee. But that she has done much research [and] has lots of knowledge about foods, preservatives, [and] preventing illnesses.”
“My migraine was raging so this probably contributed to my foul mood but I absolutely lost my s**t.”
“I said I don’t have to explain to anyone about my choices, especially a stuck-up woman who thinks she has the right to make dietary choices on my behalf.”