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Dad Confronts Nextdoor Neighbor For Sleeping In The Nude Since His Kids Can See Into Bedroom

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It’s my house, so I can do what I want.


Not necessarily.

Redditor hanging-Out28 is currently in some hot water with his neighbor for sleeping in the nude.

This disagreement led him to subReddit “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA).

He asked,

“AITA for continuing to sleep nude despite my neighbors being able to see into my bedroom?”

He went on to tell his story.

“So, I’m a 28-year-old dude and have been living in my house for a few years now.”

“One of the main reasons I chose this place was because my bedroom faced east, allowing me to wake up to the morning sunlight.”

“Most mornings I wake up before my alarm goes off just because the sunlight coming through the window waking me up.”

“There used to be a treeline that provided a natural barrier between my house and any potential neighbors, so I never saw the need for curtains or blinds along with they are expensive as hell for the nice ones.”

“Recently my neighborhood expanded, and most of the treeline my bedroom was facing was cut down to build new houses.”

“So boom, then there’s a house was built right across from mine, and their window has a clear view into my bedroom.”

“I’ve always been comfortable sleeping nude, and it wasn’t an issue when there were no neighbors around.”

“But not long after the people moved in, the father from the house came over to my house and pretty much told me to stop being nude in front of my windows since his family can see inside my bedroom.”

“He wasn’t nice about it. But, he wasn’t mean either, just matter of factly like he gave me an order a fully expected it to be done like I was his kid or his employee.”

“I was somewhat surprised but understood his concern, so I made an effort to be more mindful of my nudity when in view of the window.”

“I stopped cleaning and making my bed before getting dressed. I’d hop out of bed, walk into my closet, and at least put on shorts, then go about my morning chores.”

“That being said, I still sleep nude, and I occasionally end up being visible to the neighbors for a brief moment after waking up.”

“The father came over again, leading to an argument between us.”

“I told him I was trying my best to be considerate, but there’s only so much I can do and that it’s my house and I’m not changing my lifestyle because they moved in.”

“He threatened to call the police and said I was being a “menace to the neighborhood” whatever the hell that means.”

The OP was left to wonder…

“So, am I the a**hole for continuing to sleep nude even though my neighbors can see into my bedroom?”

Redditors weighed in by declaring:

    • NTA – Not The A**hole
    • YTA – You’re The A**hole
    • NAH – No A**holes Here
    • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Redditors decided:

NTA. Some commenters are suggesting OP should put blinds. If the neighbor is bothered, then they should put up blinds. Why is this a problem for OP to solve? – Wild_Ad_2495

“NTA but offering another simple solution, I got a bunch of that frosty rainbow window cling to stuff, so it distorts what you’re seeing from the outside and actually makes the sunlight extra pretty.”

“Plus, you really only need to put it in the bottom part of the window to essentially blur out anything.” – Sudo_Incognito

“NAH – BUT maybe you could get a window cling that obscures the clear view into your bedroom without sacrificing the natural light you enjoy and the fleshy freedom you love.” – Asleep-Hold-4686

“NTA. He can put up curtains to block his view of your house.”

“He’s asking/telling you to put up curtains so that he can keep his windows open; while you block the morning sun that you wake up to.”

“Just like my Grandma who complains I never phone; like phones, curtains work both ways.”

“EDIT: Although my grandma lives in my memories, and I can hear her voice; she’s no longer around to answer the call.”

“I phoned and visited regularly; it was just part of our routine where she would complain. After each time I reminded her it was a 2-way street, I’m pretty certain she phoned a different grandkid.”

“She needed the reminder; she felt guilty disturbing people her entire life. I have no regrets. We had a great relationship.” – Grand-Corner1030

“NTA If he bothers you again, ask why his family spends so much time looking in your bedroom.” – DreamingofRlyeh

“ESH. While you have every right to be naked and do what you want in your own home, your neighbors (and particularly their children) also should not have to see you naked without their consent.”

“Your neighbors could get blinds/curtains, but equally so could you.”

“If price is an issue, you could get one of those privacy films that attaches to the window with static. You can cut them to size.”

“Could be more expensive than some cheapy curtains but will be cheaper than really nice blinds.”

“I have some and love them. They let sunlight in without compromising my privacy.” – jayneadams

“‘While you have every right to be naked and do what you want in your own home, your neighbors (and particularly their children) also should not have to see you naked without their consent.’”

“Then they shouldn’t be looking in someone else’s f*ckin house LOL”

“NTA” – OneDumbf*ckLater [censored]

“I don’t get why people don’t realize. There are public indency laws if this person is in US”

“You can be naked in your home when you have an expectation of privacy.”

“If you don’t block the view into your home using blind, you lose that expectation of privacy, and now you see in public view and under public indecency laws.”

“Ie you can’t be full nude in public”

“Edit i know it varies by jurisdiction, that’s up to OP to check his own jurisdiction. And what you can do in yours doesn’t mean he can do in his” – RandomGuy_81

“YTA – I’m sure you can solve this “problem” so you don’t flash your neighbors. You act like there’s no middle ground here when there clearly is (sheer curtains, window film, etc).” – BeepBlipBlapBloop

“YTA, curtains exist to let in the sunlight and also just show shadows. Whether they have curtains or not isn’t the issue. They may be in their backyard or outside and can see you.”

“You can sleep nude and walk around your house nude, but why do you feel the need to show off your nudity to the world?”

“I wouldn’t want to see my neighbors naked, would you enjoy getting flashed by a random person’s genitals during the day ?”

“I would hope not. Unless you live in a nudist colony, there are children around, so I really don’t understand your need to expose yourself to the outside world.”

“I also don’t know how the states work, but in Canada, it is a crime: C.c.C. 174 (1) Everyone who, without lawful excuse, (b) is nude and exposed to public view while on private property, whether or not the property is his own, is guilty of an offense punishable on summary conviction.” – Aves667


“Stop flashing your neighbors. Get a shear curtain that allows sunlight in but doesn’t show your bits and bobs.” – KronkLaSworda

YTA. Time to buy some curtains.

And re: the “menace to the neighborhood” thing, since you’ve been informed that your new neighbors (including children) can see into your windows, by continuing not to put curtains up and be naked in front of them, you’re kinda knowingly exposing yourself to unconsenting parties (INCLUDING MINORS)….. not a good look. Get curtains– kenziecrystai

“Omg dude, just get some f*cking curtains. YTA for acting like there’s no alternative.” – lihzee

“I know someone who got prosecuted for being naked in his window. The neighbor claimed their children were being abused by a creeper.”

“It wasn’t pretty. Get some blinds, OP…that’s what adults do.” – OldDudeOpinion

“My suggestion would be installation of glass tint. You won’t lose the sunlight, but also your neighbors won’t be able to see in.”

“Easy solution. No blinds or curtains to hang or install. You can still see out, but they can’t see in.” – Kikimoonbeamglow


“Curtains work both ways. They’re asking you to shut your curtains (or put up a curtain) when they can just as easily shut their own curtains.”

“They don’t want to shut their own because it inconveniences them.” – GopherDog22

“YTA. they have that have ALL their windows covered to stop them from exposing themselves in one?” – iDrum17

“AH seems strong for someone being comfortable in their own house, but as others have pointed out a set of sheer curtains pretty easily brings you in line with community standards.”

“Mild YTA because it seems pretty easy to get what you want without presenting yourself to the world.”

“Plus, for people telling you there’s nothing the police can do about it, they’re absolutely wrong.”

“Technically, (at least where I’m from) you would not be committing something like indecent exposure because you’re not doing it for sexual pleasure.”

“But that completely relies on people believing you. All you need is one kid (or their parents) to complain, and you could have trouble on your hands even if you’re innocent.” – SporadicCounsel

So, is it rude to be nude?

Let us know what you all think in the comments.

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