Lawn maintenance and gardening can be a very intimate experience for many.
A lot of people use garden time as a moment for quiet and relaxation.
So it can be unnerving when one discoveries they’re being filmed while tending to the soil.
Case in point…
Redditor sexywaterhose wanted to discuss his experience and get some feedback. So naturally, he came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
He asked:
“AITA for making sexy poses while neighbor kept recording me for no reason?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My dad passed away recently and he left me (26 M[ale]) and my sister (31 F[emale]) his house.”
“It’s super unkempt so I’ve been doing lots of yard work outside in the mornings.”
“I’m out there watering the grass in the mornings and evenings.”
“Every single time I’ve done this the neighbor right next door who’s like this older granny comes out to her porch and straight up watches me without even hiding it.”
“I introduced myself to her once and told her that me and my sister are the new owners after my dad passed.”
“But it was obvious she didn’t wanna talk.”
“Next thing she started coming outside with her phone pointing the camera right at me. I’m like “Is there a problem?'”
“She says there’s no problem as long as I’m doing what I’m supposed to.”
“I asked her why is she recording me then.”
“Neighbor lady goes what’s the problem with me recording if you’re not doing anything wrong.”
“It’s so f**king weird I didn’t even know how to respond to the situation.”
“Soon as I finished up to go back inside she went back to her house too.”
“This happens every. single. day I’m outside watering the grass.”
“Always the same excuse that she wants to make sure I’m not doing anything else or if I do it’s on camera.”
“So yesterday I got fed up and decided to do something different.”
“When she came out with her phone I stuck my @ss out and put my hand on my hip looking right at her.”
“At first she was like wtf.”
“But then she got really mad when I started wetting myself with the water hose and touching my neck while literally looking directly at her.”
“Was it stupid?”
“Yes. But she put her phone away and started cussing me out for being a pervert.”
“My sister told me later on that she came to the house when I was at work talking about me sexually harassing her making poses in provocative ways.”
“My sister knows she’s a pain in the @ss since she probably has nothing better to do with her time.”
“But I still shouldn’t have stooped to her level making her uncomfortable right back.”
“I feel like I’m right on this one and it wasn’t even that bad (not like I was grabbing my balls or anything) but also can be a dumba** sometimes so I don’t know you guys tell me.”
“Was I an a**hole?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“This is the best thing I’ve read in awhile.”
“Resounding NTA.” ~ attabe123
“Yup this is great.”
“That lady sucks and I hope she starts minding her own… NTA.” ~ ani_skyX
“Yup. This is the best way to make a nosy neighbor go away: make them uncomfortable with what they’re gawking at.”
“Freakin’ brilliant, OP. NTA.” ~ rdlenix
“I had my mother do this.”
“We lived next to a man in his 70s who was very nosy, but also could be aggressive and intimidating too.”
“He was also a gossip with other neighbors.”
“We noticed he began making real efforts to look over the nearly six-foot fence into our small, paved, private yard.”
“So I told my mother (50s) to go out there naked when she heard his noisy old back door opening (knowing he’d strain to look over the fence from his back steps) and make sure he got a clear full frontal look.”
“It was win-win as technically she wasn’t doing anything wrong being naked in her own private area which was well fenced away from views.”
“Also, him telling anyone else about it meant admitting to leering and peeping. All the other neighbors had the same fence and yard, so understood how much effort was needed to look over the fence at their next-door neighbours in their own private space. It also sounded kind of far-fetched and pervy.
And it worked. He stopped doing it.” ~ Clatato
“Problem is she has nothing else to do so she takes it out on the neighbors.”
“I like OP’s solution. NTA.”
“Hilarious. He should keep it up.” ~ Common–Sensei
“Yeah. OP are you hot?”
“Because that lady should have been recording your ‘show’ lol.”
“But seriously she is creepy to film you without your consent.”
“Your reaction though is priceless.”
“I would also recommend get a giant cut out of yourself and put it in your yard randomly, confuse the neighbor.”
“Also get a camera installed, you don’t want to be falsely accused of stuff with this weirdo.”
“NTA. And sorry for your loss.
“ETA: OMG your are so NTA for your username u/sexywaterhose.” ~ hibiscus2022
“NTA. Call her a pervert right back for filming it.”
“Sounds like she really needs to start minding her own business like the rest of us do.”
‘Houses change owners.”
“There’s literally nothing wrong or weird about that.” ~ Blue-Eyed-Lemon
“Perhaps he should get ahead of that train and post her behavior on those groups–he’s being harrassed by X neighbor, had this happened to anyone else?”
“Kind of question.”
“Also…OP? So. Very. Much. NTA.” ~ pumpkinmuffin91
“I’d also check if your state is a 2 party consent state.”
“You’re NTA, she is, but she’s also recording you without your consent.”
“Depending on where you are, you might want to report what’s going on.”
“Likelihood is, she’s harmless.”
“But is a cranky and obnoxious old lady.”
“But in the chance she (or her relatives) decides to escalate, it’s a good idea to have a record of the fact she’s been recording you, on your property, without your consent.” ~ heygardenteacher
“NTA. film her filming you then pan to your poses and post it on youtube.” ~ polkcat
“NTA. I love the idea of him just stopping when she comes out, whipping out his phone, and filming her right back.”
“That lady must be pretty bored if this is all she has to do with her time.” ~ not_princess_leia
“NTA. Although now I’m wondering if your and your sister’s house is in an H[ome] O[wner’s] A[ssociation] neighborhood and your neighbor is just looking for something to complain about.” ~ Visserhops23
“NTA, she’s recording you while you’re on your own property, that’s stalker behavior.”
“I would complain to the HOA (if you have one) or just straight up report her to the police for harassment and filming you on your property without your consent if you can.” ~ visturge
“Dude put on a show.”
“Give that granny some evening-watching material.”
“Keep it legal but go all out otherwise.”
“Maybe come out in a uniform and strip down sexy like to a swimsuit then oil up. NTA.” ~ CharlesMuskrat
“NTA. What is your states laws on video recording people on their private property?”
“If you’re in a two party consent state (I don’t know if that’s the exact name of it) what she’s doing is illegal.”
“Consult with a lawyer and get her to stop.” ~ Historical-Corgi3021
“That is awesome!”
“No you did not overdo it.”
“Isn’t she the pervert for watching you do this?”
“NTA – your new neighbor is though.” ~ nextCosmicBuffoon
“This made me laugh so hard with the visual of it playing out in my head.”
“Oh my, OP, you sound like a character and I would’ve loved to have been another neighbor taking care of my yard and witnessing this HAHA.”
“NTA. I’d bet money this old rag has a running reputation in the neighborhood.”
“Also, are y’all in a two-party consent state?”
“If so, yell that at her while doing your water shot.”
“Matter of fact, amp it up and start a car wash.” ~ sloww_buurnnn
“NTA. Sounds like you need a speedo and some music do dance suggestively while you do your outdoor chores.”
“Or to just set up your phone pointed at her yard when you start so you record everything as well.”
“Hey, wireless security cams can be pretty cheap these days.” ~ sinevigiliamentis
“NTA. I would have straight out asked her if she’s aware that she is harassing the new owner of the house.”
“Also, if you were on your private property, does she have a right to film you? You’re not out in public.”
“When she called you a pervert you should of said ‘Are your projecting, because you’re the one who is out here filming me without consent.'”
“Seriously, who the hell does she think she is saying there’s ‘no problem as long as I’m doing what I’m supposed to.'”
“What exactly are you ‘supposed’ to be doing on your property by your house?”
“I’m not even kidding, if she’s used the words ‘sexually harassing her,’ you should probably file a complaint against her preemptively for harassment to get it on record.”
“Just because someone is a granny doesn’t give her the right to be an a**hole.”
“You’re home doing your thing.” ~ yesnomaybe123
Well OP, Reddit is with you.
Your garden, your rules. You certainly planted a hilarious image in all our minds.
Maybe she’s jealous and wants to garden with you?
Enjoy the house.