Service animals have become increasingly common tools for people to use to accommodate their disabilities, and an important distinction is that, while the person may deeply care for their service animal, they are not a pet during their career.
There are, unfortunately, some people who try to blur the line between a trained service animal and a well-behaved pet, trying to gain access to more places for their pets on the go, cringed the members of the "Am I Overreacting?" (AIO) subReddit.
Redditor beckska attempted to go to a restaurant with her service dog and was denied entry, because the restaurant manager could not tell the difference between a trained service animal and a well-behaved dog.
Because she actually needed her service dog to navigate public places, the Original Poster (OP) reported the manager for either being careless, ableist, or not trained properly to accommodate guests with disabilities.
She asked the sub:
"Am I overreacting by calling corporate after being denied entry with my service dog?"
The OP had a medical service dog she needed to help her navigate public spaces.
"I (22 Female) have a service dog for a medical condition. He’s trained to alert me before severe drops in my blood sugar and to respond if I start losing consciousness."
"I’ve had episodes before where I passed out without warning and ended up in the ER, so I don’t go out in public without him anymore."
"He’s fully trained through a legit program and is extremely well-behaved. When we’re out, he just tucks under the table and doesn’t move. Most people don’t even notice him."
A restaurant manager was not accommodating of the OP's needs and denied her entry.
"I went to a sit-down chain restaurant (Olive Garden) with a friend for lunch."
"As soon as we got seated, the manager came over and said dogs aren’t allowed inside because of the 'health code.'"
"I explained that he’s a service dog, not a pet, and that he’s allowed to be there."
"The manager immediately got defensive and said, 'We’ve had people lie about that before, so unless you can show paperwork, you’ll have to leave.'"
"I told him there isn’t actually any required paperwork and that, under the Americans with Disabilities Act, they’re only allowed to ask two questions."
"He cut me off and said store policy requires proof and that I was 'causing a disturbance.'"
"At this point, people around us were staring, and I was getting embarrassed."
"My friend tried backing me up, but the manager said if I didn’t remove the dog, we’d both have to leave."
"We left because I was getting really upset anyway and just grabbed McDonald's and ate in the car together."
The OP contacted corporate to report the manager's behavior.
"When I got home, I called corporate and filed a complaint, explaining everything, including the fact that they tried to require documentation and denied access."
"Corporate seemed pretty serious about it and said they’d 'handle it internally.'"
"I do feel kind of bad now that I might have gotten this manager into a lot of trouble and maybe even fired."
"I’m trying to rationalise it, like maybe he doesn’t actually know the policy and was just doing what somebody else had explained to do."
"But I’ve never been denied access to a place because of my dog before, and it just felt really unfair, I guess."
"AIO?"
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NOR: Not Overreacting
- YOR: You're Overreacting
Some called the employee out, pointing out that he should know the difference between a service animal and a "service animal."
"Since Olive Garden is corporate, they likely have a policy and a procedure for everything. Unless the guy has a number of write-ups already, I think it's fair to assume he won't get fired, but rather retrained on some things. And if this is the thing to get him fired, that's his own fault. It sounds like you acted calmly and maturely, took the correct avenues to right this wrong."
"And also, I'd like to say to that guy, come on, man. Those of us who work in the service industry can spot the difference between a 'service animal' and an actual trained and well-behaved service animal."
"He just likes feeling like he's got one up on a customer. I've been there, too. That's when you know it's time to get out of the industry and do something else with your life."
"NOR." - cuppa_cat
"I’m a career bartender, and have been shocked at noticing a trained service dog halfway through service. On the other hand, I’ve had dogs sniff me, or beg food from their owner, and those clearly are not trained and legit. If someone trains their nonservice dog well enough that I can’t tell, I don’t care." - BadPom
"Not only is Olive Garden corporate, but it's also owned by the world's largest full-service restaurant company, Darden Restaurants. Darden is worth approximately 23 billion dollars, has more than 2,100 restaurants, and over 200,000 employees. Shame on Darden for not training them properly."
"NOR." - birdtripping
"Your health and having a dog are so important. I’m so glad you have a service dog, as my brother-in-law has difficulty with his sugar levels and rarely goes out anymore."
"I do wish there were fewer Karens who brought in their badly trained dogs and try to pass them off as service dogs. It makes it more difficult for those who need a service animal."
"This manager still should have known better, though. NOR." - Feeling-Fab-U-Lus
"NOR. The manager is an absolute f**king moron who definitely deserves to be fired. Out of a f**king cannon. There are precisely two questions that you are allowed to ask: 'Is this dog (or miniature horse) required for a disability?' And 'What task are they trained to perform?'"
"That’s it. If the animal proceeds to be disruptive, you can kick them out for that. But any manager who asks for paperwork is clearly too dumb to manage anything more complicated than their own bowel movements." - Pkrudeboy
"NOR. Going to the media, be it social or journalism, generally backfires on handlers."
"There's a saying in the SD community, 'education, mediation, litigation.' Since basic level education failed, contacting corporate was a next step."
"Alternatively, filing a complaint with the handler's state disability rights organization is an option (usually the best choice if one wants resolution); depending on how many complaints they have received about a location will determine whether they educate or take steps to have the place fined under state law."
"Filing a DOJ (federal) complaint has always been iffy; the volume of complaints makes it difficult for most to be heard, and that was before the current administration issues." - Ashamed_File6955
Others agreed and said that it would be the employee's history of actions getting him fired, not the OP's complaint.
"If he gets fired, you didn’t get him fired. He got himself fired with his actions." - Content-Complaint782
"NOR. Any action taken against him by his employer is because he didn’t follow their policies, which will (or should) align with the law." - tuiroo007
"He knew the rules; he just took a chance on this not being a true service animal. Nine times out of ten, a layperson can tell the difference between a real service animal and a 'non-trained,' non-certified service animal."
"True service animals do their jobs. They may look around, but they don't stray away from their person, they don't seek affection, and they don't bark or react to others. They do what they are supposed to do, without fail, without constant correction." - ScarInternational161
"Good. He should be fired, but he'll probably just get retrained, which he clearly needs, and Olive Garden needs to make sure all staff at that location are included. You have the legal right to have your medical equipment with you. You attempted to explain those rights so he could reset. He did not." - FaelingJester
"NOR! I hope the manager DID get into trouble! YOU didn’t get him into trouble. He did that all by himself."
"As a manager, he should know the laws for service animals."
"I’d also go on their social media page and Google and leave a bad review. Let others know that their service animal will be asked to leave." - Ginger630
"NOR. There are two questions they can ask: Is the service animal required because of a disability? What work or task has the animal been trained to perform?"
"Other than that, requiring documentation is against the Americans with Disabilities Act. I worked in a grocery store for five years, so it was easy to filter out people by asking these questions."
"Calling corporate was the correct thing to do because nothing your dog was doing was disruptive. This manager should get in trouble because they do not know the ADA guidelines. Everyone who works with the public should."
"NOTE: Emotional support animals are not service animals, and that’s usually what people faking a service animal will say. ESA’s are not trained to perform a task." - akriirose
"Honestly, you could sue them over his behavior; he violated federal law, and corporate or restaurant policy can’t supersede the law. He may get retrained on disability laws, or he may get fired because corporations don’t like being sued."
"If he had been intelligent, he would have verified his information with a higher-up before telling you that you’re wrong about the law. That’s on him, not you. Don’t feel guilty about it; he didn’t have to embarrass you that way. NOR." - Civil_Figure1045
"NOR. In fact, you reacted perfectly. Left and contacted the right people to ensure it doesn’t happen again. Go back again in a few weeks and enjoy the meal you deserved to have the first time."
"I’m sorry this happened to you." - Ordinary-Twist-3887
The OP might feel conflicted about potentially getting the restaurant manager in trouble, but it seemed he needed more training to recognize service animals and appropriately interact with people who might need additional accommodations to safely visit the restaurant.
Filing a complaint might feel drastic, but sometimes, that's the only way to get the right people's attention to make a positive difference.















Woman Claps Back At Overweight Roommate After She Calls Her A 'Skinny B*tch' First
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A person's weight can be a VERY sensitive topic.
Whether someone is considered overweight or underweight, talking about it can cause a lot of strife.
Some people make comments that they think are light-hearted fun.
But that kind of fun can sting emotionally.
Redditor Certain_Nothing_3355 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback, so naturally, she came to the "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) subreddit.
She asked:
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
"I (22 F[emale]) have three roommates."
"Lacey (22 F) is one of my roommates."
"All four of us have a good relationship; we regularly have dinner together, go out together, and hang out at our apartment."
"Sometimes Lacey can be snarky, but usually we don’t really say anything to her or each other about it."
"I just chalk it up to a personality quirk and accept it."
"For context, I am 115lb, and Lacey is 215lb (she’s recently started her weight loss journey and posts her weight online)."
"I promise this is relevant."
"Last night, my roommates and I were getting ready for a night out, and I was in my room with the door open, putting makeup on."
"Music was playing, and my roommates were running in and out of each other’s rooms to borrow clothes and chat about plans for the night."
"Lacey walked by my room to grab something from our shared bathroom."
"As she did, she looked into my room and loudly said, 'I’m so glad I’m not one of those skinny bi*ches that needs makeup to feel good about herself.”
"Before thinking, I snapped back, 'I’m so glad I’m not one of those overweight b*tches that needs to put other girls down to feel good about herself.'”
"And then I went right back to putting on my makeup."
"She burst into tears and told me I had no right to bring up her weight."
"I told her she brought up my weight first, so she had no leg to stand on."
"Later, one of my other roommates told me I was out of line since Lacey has struggled with her weight, and we all know she can make sharp comments sometimes, so I should have let it go."
"I agree, I could have probably been nicer about it, but at the same time, I feel like I was also matching the energy she gave me."
The OP was left to wonder:
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question, AITA:
Many Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A**hole.
"NTA. I'm an overweight snarky b***h, and Lacey got what she asked for."
"If we have learned nothing from the body positive movement, it's that NOBODY is allowed to comment on someone else's appearance."
"She drew first blood."
"She won't do it again... lol." ~ kstweetersgirl2013
"NTA. I had a girl call me anorexic all throughout school, and everyone had an issue when I'd call her fat."
"You don't get to make derogatory comments about other people's bodies without expecting it back."
"If I'm going to be an ar*ehole, then I'd fully expect it back."
"I don't see why it should be any different just because she's overweight."
"That doesn't provide her with immunity from having her actions reflected back at her."
"If she doesn't like it, then she should have enough self-awareness to realize she started it and should have expected it back." ~ SleepyDeluxe
"Lacey struggles with her mouth, too, by making such an ugly remark."
"She fired the first shot."
"You just fired back. NTA." ~ YakCertain5472
"NTA. Some insecure big girls think, since being skinny is generally considered conventionally attractive, that it’s OK and fair to disparage and insult people thinner than they are. It’s not."
"They don’t like comments about their bodies or weight, and they shouldn’t do the same to others."
"You gave her a taste of her own medicine, and hopefully she’ll think twice before talking to anyone like that again." ~ draizetrain
"NTA. You’re not in the wrong for clapping back."
"She should learn that you treat others how you want to be treated yourself."
"Not your fault, you returned the favor." ~ turtlesaregorgeous
"NAH, fu*k that. I had a 'friend' who constantly made snide comments on my body."
"She was insecure with herself and lashed out to make herself feel bigger."
"She had the same reaction your roommate did when I started throwing it back."
"Sorry, kids - being overweight isn't a bulletproof shield to protect you from the ramifications of being an as*hole."
"Don't start none, won't be none."
"Either go to therapy and deal with your insecurities, or get it back in your face." ~ Internal-Student-997
"Not the as*hole."
"I couldn't care less if 'that's just how she is' and that she's sensitive about her weight."
"She's an as*hole for being rude for no reason."
"Seriously, she's not being 'snarky.'"
"She's being a rude as*hole."
"What you said was snarky."
"What she said was completely uncalled for."
"Maybe now she'll think twice about insulting people for absolutely no reason." ~ EffectiveNo7681
"I'm going with NTA only because I feel like that sort of behavior needs to have consequences."
"Let her cry and feel bad; if she says something rude about your body, and you give that back to her?"
"Well, maybe she'll think twice in the future."
"I can see why some people went with ESH because, yes, you could have handled it kinder."
"But you're 22, and also you just gave her back what she gave you, which wasn't at all unfair."
"She was rude; you were rude in return."
"She got upset."
"Them's the consequences, hopefully she learned the right lesson here."
"That said, your remark probably really cut her, because underneath her rudeness is likely a lot of insecurity and jealousy, and that's what drove her comment."
"It's not up to you to be her therapist, but if you care about her, you might want to try to have a conversation with her about what drove her to say that to you when you've both calmed down."
"Someone may need to encourage her to get some support rather than taking her angst out on others." ~ Datura_Rose
"NTA and you were NOT 'out of line.'"
"If she’s going to be a b*tch she should expect others to be a b*tch right back, especially about the same thing."
"She doesn’t sound 'snarky,' she sounds like she needs therapy and a proper sit-down to discuss boundaries and appropriate behavior." ~ SteampunkRobin
"NTA. Especially because some people struggle with gaining weight."
"People tell me all the time, 'I wish I were as skinny as you!!'”
"Okay, do you also wish you had thyroid problems that make it impossible to properly digest and hang onto the thousands of dollars I spend on food?"
"My body is killing itself from the inside out, but yeaaaaahhh go tell me to eat another cheeseburger." ~ Dull-Selection615
"See... some of these comments aren't it... yes it costs nothing to be kind, and you don't have to match her energy."
"However, constantly having to push aside her comments because 'that's just how she is' is absolutely not ok."
"Being overweight and snarky are not free passes for her to weaponize and use them."
"Sometimes you need to snap back. NTA." ~ nackle09
"NTA - She was tearing you down to make herself feel better. "
"Sure, she struggles with weight, meaning that was a guaranteed gut shot (no pun intended), but that means she more than understands how hurtful it is to be judged by size."
"Which would make this situation all the more disappointing for you."
"Also, if someone wants to be the snarky friend and make comments like that with no repercussions, then they gotta learn to take some of it back, especially if they cross the line."
"She’s your friend, sure, you could have been nicer, but good intentions only get you so far, and even if she meant it in jest, it doesn’t mean there’s no line to cross." ~ Jedi_Of_Kashyyyk
"NTA. I imagine this isn't the first time she has done something like this."
"You don't have to always just ignore her and let it go; it's not fair that you keep being insulted and do nothing about it."
"I see no difference between what she said and what you said, so if she cried, maybe she'll use this experience to understand how she constantly makes other people feel." ~ WhatTookTheeSoLong
"NTA, she brought up weight first as an attempt to bully without any retaliation; she knows weight is a touchy subject and has made sure no one is allowed to make comments like that to her, but she feels entitled to make opposite comments."
"Do not apologize, but I’d maybe have a roommate sit down and talk about what is appropriate and not appropriate to say to and about others."
"And make it about weight because it’s uncomfortable, but she started this."
"People have all sorts of reasons they are overweight, and some of them really can’t help it."
"In the same fashion, some people are underweight, and you don’t know why they are that skinny, and it’s none of your business, just like it’s nobody’s business why you are overweight."
"Say plainly: these comments about ANY weight have got to stop because they’re harmful."
"From now on, your apartment and your language are body positive no matter what, and snarky comments will get called out as the asshole remarks they are." ~ Netflxnschill
"NTA, as a plus-size woman myself, I would never comment on someone's body, and if I did, I'd expect the same energy back." ~ kpi3zy
Reddit is with you, OP.
You had every right to defend yourself.
Hopefully, you can all talk it out.
Good Luck.