Sometimes we just have to spoil ourselves.
We see something we don’t necessarily need but definitely want, and we decide it would bring us great joy to have and to hold it.
For some of us, it takes a little longer to save up for the special treat, but when we finally have it in our possession, it makes all the hard work worth it.
Also, it’s ours, all ours… and only ours. Or at least it should be that way.
A teen on Reddit is furious after she got a job and saved to purchase an expensive bag that her mother later lent to someone who lost it, so she turned to the “Am I The A**hole Here” (AITAH) subReddit to seek feedback from fellow Redditors.
Redditor Glittering-Celery323 asked:
“AITA for telling my mom to never touch my stuff again after she lost my Luis Vuitton bag?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Ok so I (15/F[emale]) have always wanted a Louis Vuitton purse.”
“I’ve always wanted something expensive as my own as all my things are hand me downs from my older sisters, as we are not the richest of people.”
“Eventually i decided that if I wanted my purse I’d get it myself, so I got a job at a local restaurant and started to save up my money.”
“While I worked I looked at purses and decided that I liked a little bag, it was expensive but after a few months I had the money.”
“I quickly went and bought my bag, I didn’t even let my family touch it when I got home.”
“I didn’t even wear it for the first week as I was too scared to damage it in anyway.”
“One day after school I came back home and went into my room to look at my bag but went I got in it was gone from its place on my desk.”
“I looked around my room to see if I’d moved it and just forgot but I couldn’t find it.”
“I went out and I ask my sisters but they said that they hadn’t touched it so I went and found my mom.”
“I asked her if she’d seen my bag and she said she’d shown it to her friend and her friend had liked it and asked if she could borrow it.”
“My mom had said yes.”
“I hadn’t even used it yet.”
“So say the least I wasn’t please by this news, I blew up at my mom telling her not to touch my stuff and she said that her friend would be ok with it and I was being dramatic.”
“I got grounded and was told to stay in my room since I was acting like a child over a bag.”
“The next day I asked my mom about the bag and she got an uncomfortable look on her face, instantly I knew something was wrong.”
“She wouldn’t say anything but after a while she’d finally admitted that her friend had lost the bag, and she didn’t plan on replacing it.”
“I was furious, I exploded at her saying that she and her friends shouldn’t have touched it in the first place and to never touch my things again.”
“I also said some other hurtful things that I don’t care to repeat.”
“I ended up making her cry and my sisters are calling me an a**hole because it was just a bag and I was being dramatic, so am I the a**hole?”
Redditors weighed in on the situation and overwhelmingly agreed that OP is not the a**hole (NTA), with many believing her mom or her mom’s friend sold the bag.
“Dude your mom sold your bag.” – Embarrassed_Big5833
“Your mother’s friend didn’t borrow and lose the bag, your mother stole and sold it.” – The_Furtive_Fireball
“OP, your mother is a dirty, lying thief.”
“You are NTA.”
“I would make sure you separate your bank account ASAP becuase she will take your wages when you have to much saved.” – Beneficial_Noise_691
“Ask your mom for the money,f or sure she sold it” – CyberArwen1980
“Your mom 100% sold your new bag.”
“If your mom’s friend won’t pay to replace it, then your mom is obligated to pay for it because they took it without asking, also known as STEALING.” – DesperateToNotDream
“Your mom sold your bag is” – ForeverRepulsive2934
“NTAH”
“Your mum stole it and sold it.”
“No one who has any idea how stupidly expensive these bags are would ‘lend it to a friend,’ especially when they are not people of means.”
“Your mother watched you get a job and save for the thing you wanted and pulled this crap.”
“I am furious for you.”
“At least you know she’s a liar and can’t be trusted.”
“I’m so sorry.” – Late-Champion8678
“Your mom stole your bag to sell it.” – Different-Steak2709
“I’ve got news for you.”
“Your mom sold it.”
“Go check the pawn shops in your area, and I’m willing to bet you’ll find it.”
“Also, if you want exclusive and cool, go thrifting.”
“Often people donate stuff that is designer and don’t realize or care.”
“You can pick up some great vintage designer stuff that just needs a little bit of love and leather oil.”
“Also, many designers will buy back their vintage stuff.”
“Not all but a few” – dstluke
“NTA! She stole it babe!”
“Your mom stole your bag and either gave it to her friend or sold it for money.”
“Keep an eye on her purchases!”
“I’ll bet mom and sisters get some new stuff soon…but don’t worry!”
“You’ll get it as hand-me-downs!”
“NTA, and make sure you keep that job and save your money!”
“Your gonna need it to leave and never look back when you turn 18.”
“I’m sorry!”
“Nothing worse that people feeling entitled to what you earned.” – imachillin
Several also urged OP to file a police report.
“Your mom’s ‘friend’ stole it.”
“Call the police and file a report” – Haunting-Nebula-1685
“Report it to the police as theft” – Pale-Wishbone5635
“NTA”
“Either your mom stole it and sold it or pawned it, or her friend did.”
“A grown woman doesn’t just lose a handbag.”
“Especially not a brand new one that she just ‘borrowed’ from a friend.”
“That is the weakest story I ever heard.”
“Your mom should absolutely buy you a new one..brand new please, with reciept and certificate.”
“If she does not, you will need to file a police report and claim it on your parent’s home insurance.”
“Surely the home insurance has the ‘clumsiness’ addition?”
“The one that covers the glasses if you drop them and the crystal wineglasses if you bang them while washing up?”
“‘Just lost the purse, dunno how’ might fall under this category.”
“But you will need a police report.” – JaguarZealousideal55
“Call the cops.”
“Screw your mother and her thieving friend.”
“They stole that bag and sold it.”
“The mother was in on it.” – Top-Bit85
“NTA. If you can please file a police report.”
“I know it may not be easy but try.”
“Don’t let this die down.”
“You are owed your LV bag.”
“Pls update us. Be safe” – aintnobaby
“LV keeps track of all of their customers in their database.”
“They might be able to look up the date code of your bag.”
“Include this info in the police report.”
“It could help in the process of recovering your bag, especially if it was sold to a pawn shop or consignment shop.”
“Include such information (and receipt/box if you still have those).”
“Louis Vuitton can definitely get you a new receipt of your purchase if you ask.”
“I do not believe the bag was ‘damaged’ or lost.”
“I have a Speedy from 1989 that I ABUSE.”
“My cousin once stole my grandmother’s jewelry.”
“Some pieces were found at a local pawn shop along with a photocopy of my cousin’s ID, because they document people who sell things to them.”
“If it was pawned and the pawn shop owner has documentation that your mother or friend pawned it, bam, that’s the proof you need if you want to press charges.”
“Of course, that’s if it were pawned.”
“But no way the bag is ‘damaged’ after one day of usage.”
“LV bags are suburb quality, and you’d have to destroy the bag on purpose.”
“I agree, something fishy is going on.”
“NTA” – BeerGoddess84
“File a police report: ‘borrowing’ without permission is theft.”
“Your mother stole your bag.” – CanadianJediCouncil
“I would tell her that if she does not give your bag now, I would call the police and for stealing.” – Catwomaninred
“Take your mom’s friend to small claims if possible (I’m not from the US, so I don’t known if that’s an option for a minor).”
“And report the bag as stolen since you never gave permission to her to use it.”
“That way, you also find out from mom’s reaction to the news if she really gave the purse to her friend who lost it or if she or her friend just sold it.” – Every_Criticism2012
“So, your mom steals from you, then grounds you for it?”
“Go to the cops.”
“This level of abuse shouldn’t be overlooked.”
“When you’re 18, move out and never go back.” – Throwaway3082023
Unfortunately for OP, her fellow Redditors feel there is more to the story.
Hopefully, she can take some of their advice and be compensated in some way for her loss.