Pregnancy is already a difficult experience itself, but after the baby is born, things aren’t always easier. It can help to have friends and family supporting you during the early days raising the child.
However, that is assuming they actually help. Redditor wethergktl explained what happens when your help feels less than helpful, and you snap at them.
The original poster (OP) takes her story to the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) board to see if she was wrong in her reaction.
“AITA for kicking my sister out after she didn’t do what she said she would?”
She explained her situation.
“I (21f[emale]) had a baby 8 days ago via scheduled cesarean. Father isnt around and I knew he wouldnt be since day one.”
“My sister (29), we’ll call her Annie (fake name) is recently divorced and suffers with infertility, every time there’s a new baby in the family she offers to help out.”
“Annie asked if she could stay with me for a few weeks after the baby is born and for the few days before to help out, I said yes knowing Id need the help.”
“The problems started from when we came home.”
“Annie takes [the baby], like literally does everything baby related expect for nappy changes. She creates mess which I end up having to clean up everything while trying to cook for myself/order food and it has to be done to Annie’s preference too if im ordering.”
“5 days ago I started recording the amount of time I spent with my baby vs what Annie did. Over the last 5 days I spent a total of 8 hours with my baby, Annie nearly all the rest of the time.”
“I had tried asking her to step back a bit and help out with chores like she said she would but she got defensive.”
“Things got on my last nerve today around an hour ago, realising she hadn’t actually given me back my child all day bar once to change her.”
“I’m not really sure what got into me but I lost my sh**, I told her to get out and not come back until she can learn to respect that this is not her baby and stop taking over everything bar the ‘gross bits’.”
“My mam called me, saying it was an a**hole move since Annie just wants a baby of her own and I said that i dont care, I have barely got to see my own child. AITA?”
“Sudden outburst was caused by her practically refusing to give me my baby.”
On the AITA subReddit, people are judged with the following acronyms:
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
Some of the comments questioned how OP handled the situation and wondered if she’s overreacting.
“ESH because your out-burst hurt everyone involved and strained the situation further. Your sister is clearly in the wrong here, but your snapping at her doesn’t help things in the slightest.”
“My opinion is that this needs to be laid out to her and to your mom. Explain your feelings in detail and try to make her see your side of it.”
“Maybe you can still have a healthy sister-sister relationship and Annie can have a healthy aunt-niece relationship.” – Professional_Mix_752