Money is often an extremely contentious topic in conversation.
With this in mind, one should always make an effort to avoid discussing all things monetary.
Especially regarding how much or how little you make.
And even more so if doing so is a way of establishing your power or status.
The brother of Redditor Empty-Wash-4761 recently paid an unexpected visit to their home, bringing his girlfriend along with him.
During this visit, the original poster (OP)’s children riled their brother’s girlfriend up, claiming they were damaging something that cost her a pretty penny.
Not willing to accept this sort of behavior in their own home, the OP felt the only solution was to use one of their more expensive purchases as a counterargument.
A tactic the OP’s brother did not appreciate one bit.
Concerned they may have gone too far, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for telling my brother girlfriend to eff off?”
The OP explained why they felt compelled to flaunt their status a bit at their brother’s girlfriend:
“We’ve been battling 120 heat where I live over the last week.”
“My brother and his girlfriend came over to use my pool yesterday.”
“I have 3 children and they are playing in the pool and I see my brother’s girlfriend yelling at my kids.”
“I asked her what her problem was and she goes off saying she just payed $1000 for her hair and she doesn’t want MY children to jump and splash getting it wet.”
“I told her I paid $100,000 for this pool for my kids to be able to jump and splash it so she can f*ck off about her $1000 hair.”
“She got butthurt and made my bother leave.”
“My wife thinks I could have been nicer but I cannot imagine some telling my children how to play in their home and in their pool.”
“My brother thinks I was wrong for rubbing my money in her face but I feel like she started it talking about her $1000 hair.”
“My brother thinks I was being insensitive but I said maybe his girlfriend will think twice before talking to other people’s kids like that in their own f*cking home.”
“AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**hole for telling their brother’s girlfriend to f*ck off.
While some felt that the OP could have been a bit more diplomatic, everyone generally agreed that if the OP’s girlfriend felt the need to brag about how much she spent on her hair, they had every right to throw how much they spent on the pool right back at her… particularly as she was a guest in their house. With others confused by her not wanting to get her hair wet, yet swimming in a pool.
“NTA – why is she sitting by the pool then?”
“Also, what kind of hair costs $1000?”
“Is it a wig?”
“I’d understand if she had a medical condition and was sensitive maybe?”
“If not and it’s just extensions or whatever … then she can MOVE.”- heather20202024
“NTA.”
“Beggars can’t be choosers.”
“Or, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.”
“Both come to mind.”
“Your brother’s gf yelled at your kids, for being kids.”
“I’d kick her out, just for that.”
“If she’s going to whine about her hair, she can do it well away from your property.”- 101037633
“NTA.”
“If she didn’t want wet hair, get the hell away from the pool.”
“And if she’s stupid enough to pay $1000 for hair then as Forrest says ‘Stupid is as stupid does’.”
“Her extentions can’t be that awesome.”
“And if it’s a wig, take the damn thing off.”
“I wouldn’t let her back in my house.”- Country-girl7053
“NTA.”
“Only reason he’s defending her is cuz he is, what my folks like say, kitty whipped (insert proper term instead of kitty).”
“She came to your home, if she ain’t wanna get splashed she can either wait for the kids to get out or go to a private pool place that she can pay for since she got the funds for that 1000 dollar hair.”
“This ladies and gentlemen is entitlement.”
“Glad to see you put your foot down so hard she ain’t have no room to sit.”- New_Ambassador1194
“NTA.”
“I’m trying to imagine a scenario that makes what she did even remotely okay.”
“Maybe she….no.”
“How about….no.”- hubertburnette
“NTA.”
“She chose to go to a pool with 1000$ hairdo?”
“Not your problem and not your kids’ problem either.”
“That’s her misjudgement, not yours.”- atealein
“NTA.”
“Your brother allowed his gf to yell at his niblings because he was worried he might not get laid.”
“I would tell him to f*ck all the way off unless he’s coming over to apologize to your kids.”-spaceylaceygirl
“NTA.”
“You were standing up for your children against someone who was being an @ss to children for no reason.”
“She’s the grown-up, it’s not her place, she can move wherever she won’t be splashed or she can leave.”- CptKUSSCryAllTheTime
“NTA.”
“My rule: don’t go on the boat if u don’t wanna get wet lol.”- njdevil956
“NTA.”
“Your house, your rules.”
“Doesn’t matter if they were splashing her intentionally, who pays 1k for hair and then goes to the pool?”- sickofdriving007
“I’m right there with you.”
“Don’t come to a pool with your fancy a** hair if you’re so worried about getting it wet.”
“Especially don’t yell at the kids who live in the home and are enjoying said pool.”
“I would have told her to go f*ck herself as well.”
“NTA.”- Jim_Lahey10
“NTA.”
“She could have asked nicely for them not to splash her, but she went straight to yelling.”
“Your reaction was justified.”
“It is foolish to be near a pool and expect to stay dry.”
“If she was that worried about her hair, she needed to go somewhere else.”- thechaoticstorm
“NTA, you merely matched her energy.”
“Yelling first gets yelling back.”
“Flaunting money gets flaunting money back.”
“Brother is just annoyed because now she’s yelling at him.”- rebekahster
“What kinda dumba** pays $1000 for their hair and then goes to a pool?”
“lol.”
“Also, wtf kinda hair treatment costs A THOUSAND DOLLHAIRS?”
“Holy sh*t.”
“NTA.”- GarneNilbog
“She can afford a 5 dollar plastic bonnet.”
“NTA.”- Ketokitchenwizard
“NTA.”
She should not be near a pool if she is concerned about her overpriced hair and definitely not yelling at your kids on your property.”
“Your property, your pool, your rules.”- kiwimuz
“NTA.”
“She literally could have avoided that whole thing by simply asking the kids not to splash her, instead of yelling.”
“If they didn’t she could have gotten you or your wife and asked you guys to get them to stop.”- Oddveig37
“NTA.”
“If I just paid for new hair, I’d be nowhere near the splash zone or wearing a hair cover.”
“And, yes, she was the one to bring up money first.”
“FA&FO.”- Prestigious_Badger36
“This reminds me of when I was a little kid, visiting my grandma in her 50+ retirement community.”
“We would often go there and then hang out at the pool right by her little condo.”
“I would swim around, and was pretty good about not being loud or splashing about.”
“However, there’d always be these other old ladies either by or in the pool who had just gotten perms and would give us dirty looks the whole time.”
“Sure, I get that this was a neighborhood pool, and the OP was a private pool situation…but STILL.”
“I’ll never understand people who get their hair done and then go to the pool while not expecting to get wet at all.”
“Why even go?”
“It’s like those who run out of the pool when it merely starts raining even if there’s no thunder or lightning.”
“You’re already wet!”
“OP is totally NTA.”
“Your pool, your kids.”
“Maybe if the g/f wasn’t YELLING at their kids it would have been a different story.”- Kuropuppy13
“I couldn’t get past the $1000 hair.”
“I am a guy.”
“Going to the barber costs me $15 + tip.”
“I know women’s salons are more expensive, but dayum.”
“One thousand dollars?”
“NTA.”- srivasta
“NTA at all.”
“WTF would you spend $1000 on your hair and then go in a pool?”- Lastaction_Zero
“I bet your brother’s GF’s hair looked beautiful and it’s an investment, for sure.”
“It truly is.”
“it’s a lucrative business in many ways.”
“BUT.”
“She was sitting by a pool.”
“She could have sat farther away, wore some sort of cover, sat inside with AC, or anything else.”
“It’s not reasonable for her to demand the kids to not…enjoy the pool in their own home because she didn’t plan.”
“You just threw back with the same energy.”
“It’s the play stupid games, win stupid prizes scenarios.”
“NTA.”- AVeryBrownGirlNerd
It is a bit hard to sympathize with someone who yells at children for having fun in their own pool.
Particularly over getting your hair wet, which, when sitting by a swimming pool, is almost an inevitability.
Did the OP need to share how much they spent on the pool? Of course not.
Then again, their brother’s girlfriend also didn’t need to share how much she spent on her hair.