No two people have the same relationship with their neighbors.
Some people instantly become great friends with their neighbors, while others barely say two words to them.
Then there are those who only come in contact with their neighbors when they are forced to confront them about the damage they are inflicting on their property.
A recent Redditor and their husband were becoming increasingly frustrated by their neighbor constantly parking her car in their driveway.
As a result, the original poster (OP) warned their neighbor that if she continued to park her car in their driveway, they would take matters into their own hands.
And much to the anger of the OP’s neighbor, that’s exactly what she did.
Worried that they may have gone too far, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for towing my neighbor’s car?”
The OP explained how after they and their husband gave their neighbor three warnings about parking her car in their driveway, they finally followed through with a threat they made on how they would handle it.
“A few days ago, I came home from work and saw my neighbor’s ‘Lindsay’ car in my driveway.”
“I was confused, and I asked her very nicely to move her car, and she did.”
“The day after that, my husband came home from work before I did, and he saw Lindsay’s car in our driveway.”
“He asked her to move her car and told her she can’t do that anymore because it was not her house. He said he was polite about it, and she apologized and moved her car.”
“The day after that, I saw Lindsay’s car parked in my driveway again after I got home from my doctor’s appointment, and my husband was working.”
“I decided to ask her what’s going on.”
“Her: ‘what do you mean?'”
“Me: ‘you keep on parking your car on our driveway after we’ve asked you nicely not to do that. Why do you keep doing it?'”
“Her: ‘I have a big camper parked on my driveway, and it takes up a lot of space. There isn’t enough space to park my car.’“
“Me: ‘ok, you need to figure something out because you can’t park your car on our driveway anymore. It’s rude, and you’ve already been told to stop. If you do it one more time, I’ll have your car towed.'”
“She apologized to me and promised it wouldn’t happen again.”
“Last night, my husband and I went out for dinner.”
“When we got back home, we saw Lindsay’s car parked on our driveway.”
“I told my husband that was it!”
“Enough is enough!”
“I’m going to tow her car because she’s been warned.”
“We’ve tried asking her nicely, and she doesn’t want to listen to us.”
“My husband agreed, and I towed her car right away.”
“I also stuck her with the bill because it’s her own fault.”
“Now, she is calling me an a**hole, and she’s pissed at me.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community unanimously agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for having their neighbor’s car towed.
Everyone agreed that the OP did exactly the right thing and that Lindsay had no right to be surprised or angry as she had been warned in no uncertain terms.
“Three warnings not to do it, last one a clear final warning ‘do it again, and you get towed,’ and she did it again and she got towed.”
“Unless someone else is parking her car there for her and not telling her, this is all on her, and even if that’s the case, none of it is on you.”- Enough-Process9773
“She was told to move her car 3 times and warned that she’d be towed if she did it again.”
“She didn’t leave you with a whole lot of options if she couldn’t behave herself on her own.”-KaliTheBlaze
“If you hadn’t, this would have gone on forever because the script in your neighbor’s brain would have been, ‘I can park my car in OP’s driveway until they ask me to move it, and then I will move it’.” –bobledrew
“She’s a literal idiot that cannot comprehend basic common sense and clear instructions.”-woodenpickle17
“She was asked many times not to park her car in your driveway yet kept doing it bc she didn’t care about any inconvenience to you or your husband.”
“You warned her about getting it towed if she did it again, yet she did, bc Lindsay somehow feels she’s calling the shots.”
“Let her be inconvenienced this time.”- Monchichiboom
“Lindsay is a moron.”- ARC2060
“In a lot of places, you’re not supposed to leave a camper parked in the driveway for several days in a row.”
“Look up your city’s codes.”- idontcare8587
“You played nice, set reasonable boundaries, and communicated them effectively.”
“Tow them, bill them, and if they give you a hard time, just reinforce the very same simple boundary: ‘Nothing has changed. The rule is still: Don’t park in our driveway.'”- theTenebrus
“F*ck that sh*t.”- Otherwise-Kangaroo83
“How many warnings did she need?”
“If she had been serious about dealing with her oversized camper, she’d have asked for permission to park a few more days and told you by when the camper would be relocated.”- Individual_Ad_9213
“You told her (several times) to stop, then you told her what was going to happen if there was a next time, and now she’s angry because you weren’t bluffing?”
“You’re NTA.”- Medical-Cat-821
“You did it the right way.”
“First, ask nicely.”
“Then, not so nicely.”
“Then threaten action that’s still legal.”
“Finally, follow through on that action.”
“Normally, it’s 3 strikes, and you’re out.”
“She got four strikes.”
“There were always only two options here: you being a doormat and her constantly parking in your driveway, or her mad because you wouldn’t be a doormat.”
“You told her to stop.”
“You warned her you would call for a tow.”
“It is appropriate for her to pay the bill for this tow.”
“If she’s calling you an a**hole, it’s because she’s entitled, not because you did anything wrong.”-Kettlewise
“Omg, who tf does this?”
“Well deserved if you ask me.”
“Don’t back down OP, and if it happens again, tow her again!”- Elephantsr4girls
“NTA, she f*cked around and found out lol.”
“Kindness only goes so far with douchebags.”- Conscious-Blueberry1
“NTA, she was warned this in on her, not you.”- Careful_Comparison_2
“Hope you got outdoor cameras bc she ain’t the smartest and may do something stupid.”- JennaLS
“NTA she would have kept doing it because she has interpreted this as ‘it’s ok to park here until they ask me to move.'”
“Though, I do wonder, where is she moving the car to when you ask her to leave, and why the hell doesn’t she just park there in the first place?”- SnooPets8873
“Why are you even questioning yourself?”- LeisurelyLife710
“You couldn’t have been more clear in your requests. You gave her ample warning, and if she doesn’t have room on her driveway, how is that your problem?”
“Should’ve thought of that before she bought the camper.”
“Good for you!”- Similar-Sir6912
“NTA, but PLEASE post an update if you learn about what went down next after the tow!”- Consistent-Annual268
The OP returned with an update, sharing that the situation escalated after their neighbor still continued to park her car in their driveway.
“Lindsay parked her car on our driveway again.”
“I wasn’t home, but my husband was, and he got her car towed an hour away! “
“She left a nasty note in my mailbox again.”
“It read you guys owe me a lot of money for towing fees.”
“I will continue to park on your driveway until you sell your house and move!”
“I told her if she wants us to move so badly, then she is obligated to buy us a new house.”
“She refused to buy us a new house, and she doesn’t think we can force her to.”
“I told Lindsay if she doesn’t want to buy us a new house, then I have no choice but to file a police report, and the cops will see the b*tchy notes.”
“She trespassed again, and I called the cops on her.”
“Her car got towed immediately, and she was arrested!”
Hopefully, whatever legal consequences Lindsay will face will finally result in the message sinking in for her to stop parking her car in the OP’s driveway.
As finding a new space to park her car seems like a much better alternative than a multi-thousand dollar fine, let alone jail.
But seeing as it took her this long, it still doesn’t feel like a guarantee.