Creepy dudes are everywhere. They’re at work, they’re in cars driving by, they’re all over fraternities and even in churches.
And yes, they’re very possible your neighbors, as a recent post to the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit showed.
The Original Poster (OP), known as uwubunnii on the site, shared what she did about it in the post’s title.
“AITA for not opening the door to an obviously unwanted and creepy neighbor?”
OP began by describing the neighbor in question.
“For context: I currently stay with my partner, but sadly his place comes with a creepy, noisy nuisance called ‘neighbor.’ “
“His neighbor is an elderly dude who asks for help for even the simplest things, despite being fully capable of doing it himself.”
“In his eyes every neighbor in this house has to cater to him, doesn’t matter whether they’re asleep, don’t feel well, don’t have time or just simply doesn’t want to be around him at the moment.”
And there’s some clear hypocrisy at play.
“But if you want him to turn down the music at 3am? Nope.”
“You have to mind him but he won’t give a single flipflop about you having to be at work at 5am.”
It gets worse, too.
“He sees me (and treats me) like a literal fu**able and pretends he’s not like ‘that’ and whatnot around my partner, though his grope-y hand gestures around me beg to differ.”
“If you don’t open the door he’ll basically stalk you by listening for even a little sound at the door and waits till you open it.”
“He damn knows he’s an unwelcome guest to us, especially after literally demanding my partner, who was grieving the death of his best friend, to deepclean the stairs – although they were clean.”
Recently, something really got to OP.
“Now to the part that makes me sort of feel like an AH – he rang the bell 27-effing-times.”
“I opened the door to tell him I’m busy with work and that I feel bad (migraine after work, yay) and that he needs to stop ringing the doorbell when no one opens because people are busy or want to be left alone.”
“I was busy fixing someone’s Nintendo Switch and I told him one mistake and I can pay this dude a new Switch.”
Again, it got worse.
“He murmured something and gestured gropings again, but this time his hands came towards me, so I shut the door in his face.”
“I was genuinely scared because my partner is at work and I’m all alone. For a minute it was quiet, but then he started nailing nails INTO THE FLOOR OF HIS APARTMENT.”
The fallout continued the discomfort.
“After that he proceeds to ring the doorbell for many times again. He yelled that it’s super unfriendly of me to not ‘help him out’ and ‘how can such a cute female be such a bi**h?’ despite knowing I’m busy and that I don’t feel well.”
“Now he tramples around his apartment like an elephant, yelling and moaning super inappropriate stuff about me.”
“I called my partner for help and he told me I shouldn’t have shut the door in his face, despite his attempt to grope me and my partner knowing that he’s super creepy towards me.
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors were on OP’s side completely.
They suggested further action.
“NTA, report his inappropriate and obnoxious A**, why do you even need to be told this? I wouldn’t put up with it for 30 minutes much less any longer length of time you had to deal with it.” — D-Money100
“NTA – I would report a video on your cell phone of all the noise he’s intentionally making and the things he’s calling you and call the cops if you feel threatened.” — Cup-And-Handle
“Hey! NTA, and you should document whatever you can about this dude if you stay there. But there’s a red flag I really want to bring to attention: this dude groping you? Sexual assault.”
“A lot of people will get fussy when you use the phrase, but if he continues to try to touch you without your consent in a sexual way and is moaning gross things about you to cause you stress, his intent is clear.”
“And your partner policing you over how you should handle someone who TRIED TO GROPE YOU is awful and needs a long discussion at best. At worst, you may want to just boot your dude and find a new one.”
“Why is your sweetheart still appeasing this awful, gropey, manipulative, disgusting man? No partner should ever get upset if their loved one slams a door to avoid being sexually assaulted. Wtf? You deserve better. And you deserve to get away from that atrocious neighbor.”
“I am so sorry you’re handling this, OP.” — WonderFluffen
“Me: defund the police Also me: you need to call the cops on his a**”
“NTA. At least contact adult services or try to find their landlord to file complaint. This isn’t remotely normal or healthy behavior. It’s harassment.” — Bee5431
Some took aim at OP’s boyfriend.
“NTA. But your bf is.” — Indignant-Indigenous
“NTA – also, your boyfriend sounds like an idiot” — krokubot
“NTA of course, but it sounds like your relationship isn’t a supportive or respected one. You need to leave both of them well behind” — therainmandies
“NTA but your bf sure is. I’d be angry as f’k at him telling you should have let your creepy neighbor grope you. If my bf would hear about that, that neighbor would have had his arms broken.” — Jazzisa
“NTA. I would start documenting all this and then get a restraining order. At the same time I would have a long discussion with your partner. What an AH thing he said to you.” — CMSkye
So if Reddit is any indication, OP’s neighbor may have some unexpected visitors knocking on his door in the near future.
Consent is about more than just sex. If you don’t have permission, then keep your hands to yourself.