People really need to be more discerning about what internet influences they are inspired by.
The TikToks and YouTube videos seem to be causing a bit of havoc globally.
Just because a lot of the people in these “prank” videos survive, doesn’t mean we all will.
And this brand of comedy may not be everybody’s cup of tea.
Case in point…
Redditor Throwawy654677 wanted to discuss her story for some feedback. So naturally she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
“AITA for kicking my husband out of the delivery room?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I (23 F[emale]) and my husband (24 M[ale]) just had our first baby.
“My husband was so excited and was super supportive and caring throughout the pregnancy.”
“The only thing is that he became slightly obsessed with watching YouTube and TikTok videos of husbands pulling pranks on their wives while in labor.”
“I didn’t mind at first but then he started casually joking about doing things he saw in the videos saying it would be funny.”
“I clearly stated my distaste for them and asked him not to do anything like what he saw.”
“He agreed and continued to joke about it time to time but I brushed it off since I trusted him and thought nothing would come of it.”
“The day of the delivery came and I had been in labor for 8 hrs (12 hr total labor).”
“I had just finished another round of contractions when my husband let out the loudest fart, turned to me and said, ‘what the hell have you been eating OP? It smells disgusting.’”
“I immediately recognized that as one of the pranks in the videos.”
“Outraged at him not honoring what I asked him not to do I demanded that he leave the room.”
“He started, arguing saying it was just a joke but I insisted and luckily the nurse helped get him out.”
“I went through the last 4 hrs of labor by myself since my family lives out of state and I’m not close to my mother in law.”
“After the delivery I told the nurse he could come back into the room and he was fuming.”
“He started demanding that I tell him why I kicked him out.”
“I calmly told him the reason but he was pissed. He hasn’t talked to me in a week.”
“His mom is taking his side saying that I was a complete *itch for kicking him out.”
“Normally he will defend me from her but this time he completely agreed.”
“I might be the a**hole because I know how much he was looking forward to being there for the birth of our first kid and especially when he got to cut the cord, but I still kicked him out and refused to let him back in.”
“The nursed asked a few times if I wanted him back but each time I said no.”
“AITA for kicking out my husband after a stupid prank he agreed not to do?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It’s a tricky situation.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“NTA. If he was really excited about seeing his child be born, he would have honored your request.”
“I can’t imagine where this trend originated? ‘You know what would be funny? If when my wife/SO has been in labor for hours, in pain, exhausted, being torn apart from the inside I played a prank on her.'”
“‘Wouldn’t it be hysterical if instead of giving her the support she needs, I humiliated her?'”
“That’s your SO. He thinks like a 5year old, and his mother, who has given birth herself, says that’s ok.”
“That means in her eyes nothing he does, no matter who it hurts, is wrong.”
“She will always support him over you. That invalidates her opinion in any argument you have with your husband.”
“That she is even allowed an opinion in a private matter between the two of you is another issue.”
“Do not feel guilty for robbing him of this experience, you did not, he threw it away all by himself.” ~ efgrigby
“NTA – and what did he think was funny about that?”
“Also: how totally gross for the delivery room personnel, who definitely did not need to hear or smell a grown man fart loudly.”
“Well, he played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. I’m so sorry this is messing up what should have been a magical time for you both.” ~ Corfiz74
“NTA. And the silent treatment during the first week of your child’s life is appalling!”
“My husband and I are caring for our child who just turned one week old.”
“I cannot imagine going through the anxieties and sheer exhaustion without him as a team mate!”
“I am so sorry that your husband and mother in law are behaving so horribly.” ~ PoisonApple413
“NTA. You were passing a small human out of your body.”
“It’s painful and scary, and you have the right to decide EVERYTHING in that situation. You told him not to do it.”
“He was selfish and did it anyway. He felt his needs were more important than yours.”
“He faced appropriate consequences, but still doesn’t want to admit he was wrong even though his bad choice meant you had to deliver without his emotional support.”
“I hope he grows up soon for you and the child’s sake. Sound like his mama is an enabler.” ~ Magnanimoe
“I know I sound like an old – but by God every time I read a story about tick tock I feel like it is breaking apart the fragile decency of our society.”
“If I even once caught my husband laughing at a video of a husband playing a prank on the woman who was suffering to bring his child into this world I would have verbally torn him apart with all the rage pregnancy hormones can bring.”
“Watching a second video would have gotten him banned from the bedroom.”
“That stuff isn’t funny and it isn’t cute. Who can possibly watch the woman they love in pain and decide to play a prank on them?” ~ Music_withRocks_In
“NTA, especially since he is still ignoring you. He should have respected your wishes.”
“I can understand the frustration of a father not being able to be there for a birth but this is his bed to lie in.”
“How many times did you have to tell him not to do this?”
“My husband didn’t witness the birth of our daughter bc of an emergency C-section where I needed anesthesia.”
“BUT he knew that I was in charge the rest of the time.”
“And if he would have joked about any of it, he would have been kicked out of a lot more than the delivery room.”
“That’s a hard lesson, but you are in a lot of stress and he shouldn’t have made light of it.” ~ Trick_Bathroom2236
“NTA. Life is not a series of 30 second clips. You wanted a present supportive partner and he blew it.”
“You specifically asked NOT to do something, and he did it anyway.”
“Time and again we see in this sub someone saying ‘it’s just a joke.'”
“No. No it isn’t. It’s a complete disregard for your loved one’s boundaries and a total lack of respect for the faith your loved one has put in to you.”
“‘Just a joke’ is very very thin veil for being a complete a**hat.” ~ lassmanac
Well it sounds like all of Reddit feels childbirth already has so much stress involved, maybe it’s not the best time to try out comedy material.
Let’s hope OP and her hubby can have a start over with their new person.
Maybe they can all move forward.