When a family member dies, often their belongings become sort of sacred, and a need to keep them private arises.
For one man on Reddit, who goes by the name AIta110709 on the platform, this sort of sentiment turned into a family conflict when his sister asked to use his dead son’s yacht for her wedding.
So he went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit to get some perspective on the matter.
The Original Poster (OP) asked:
“AITA For refusing to let my sister use my son’s yacht for her wedding?”
“My son Thomas passed away a year ago at the age of 25. He was such a sweet soul. He was kind and sympathetic despite having suffered so much he still had a joyful smile. He wanted to be an engineer.”
“But unfortunately he couldn’t continue his education. He was involved in a car accident. Had a sever injury and became paralyzed. I did everything I could to help him regain his life but what happened was devastating.”
“We were spending time at the hospital while my family were getting together celebrating birthdays/weddings etc and excluded me and Thomas. I asked them to show up. at least show emotional support to Thomas but they didn’t visit.”
“I took Thomas home and I became his primary carer. I found that Thomas was home 24/7 with no family visiting us even on holidays.”
“Every time I complained my sister would suggest I put Thomas in home care. I stopped begging them to visit and include Thomas in their events and Check in on him.”
“They treated Thomas like he was dead.”
“He suffered from anemia. It affected his heart function.”
“His health was getting worse. 4 months before he passed away I decided to achieve at least one goal he’d in his mind.”
“He always wanted to get his own yacht and wanted to buy it himself. I sold land I had for 5 years and I bought a yacht.”
“I told him that it was his. He was overjoyed.”
“We started spending most of his time there. On weekends and on holidays. Til he suddenly passed away and it was devastating.”
“I couldn’t visit the yacht til 6 months after his passing. This is where I remember him the most.”
“My family visited, made facebook tributes, hanged pictures of him and visited his grave. I was still upset with them.”
“I kept my distance but last week my mother and sister were visiting asking if they could use my son’s yacht for my sister’s wedding this summer.”
“I declined but they talked about how expensive it is to rent a yacht and that mine was perfect. I corrected my sister.”
“Told her that’s Thomas’s yacht. Thomas who they refused to visit and comfort during his dark times.”