Some people don’t understand that cat calling is harassment. It is not a “joke” or funny in any way.
People have lost their lives because of cat callers. So, we appreciate anyone who calls them out in their deplorable behavior.
Redditor Throwaway727v encountered this very issue with his friend. So he turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA for kicking my friend out the car?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Earlier today, I was driving my friends back home after we worked out.”
“We passed these two girls walking and one of my friends rolls down his window and says ‘I like how those t****** jiggle, how about you give the boys a flash.'”
“I instantly got angry when he said that. I pulled around the corner and told him to get out. He thought I was joking but I wasn’t and he started arguing.”
OP was not taking it.
“He was saying it was just a joke and he was messing around everyone was on his side saying it wasn’t a big deal. At first he said he wasn’t getting out but then I said I was gunna snatch him out if he didn’t.”
“He finally did with no type of physical encouragement.”
“He lived the furthest but I made him walk the rest of the way.”
“Everyone else was still mad at me. I dropped them all off and went on my way. I called the guy I kicked out to make sure he got home safe and told him to never say any shit like that around me ever again.”
“He apologized but was still mad because he thought me making him walk was too far. AITA?”
Redditors gave their opinions on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Most Redditors agreed OP was not the a**hole.
“NTA – the only way to change entitled men who think they can comment on women they pass is by showing them it’s wrong. You’ve done this. Way to go!” ~ Beatlebot88
“NTA, as someone who is not find comments like that funny or a turn on, thank you for kicking that leech out.” ~ DutyValuable
“I feel like there should be a rule that if you say something shitty to a stranger on the street while you’re in a car, you should be obligated to stay parked long enough for then to throw something into your vehicle. It’s only fair.” ~ Neurotic_Bakeder
“Only if it’s your car. If I have a shitty passenger, then they can get out and explain themselves to the people they yelled at. Seems only fair.” ~Maleficent_List_8583
“No, no, no. No thank you. Don’t do this. Please don’t do this. If an asshole catcalls me I don’t want them approaching me in any way for any reason. I want them to go away and stay away.”
“I get it, you want him to face consequences. Let them be social consequences with you and your friends. Don’t lead a defensive and unhappy asshole closer to the women he has already harassed.” ~ 217liz
“100% agreed. I already feel unsafe when someone catcalls. The last thing I want is for them to physically approach me.”
“Also, the catcallee has already been victimized. It’s not cool to make education of the the victimizer their job.” ~ CanadaOrBust
Some were concerned about the cat-caller approaching the women.
“If a catcall approached me, instant mace. Like get away from me creep and let your eyes catch on fire.” ~ FlameTheFaithful
“When I was learning Krav Maga, our instructor had a saying.”
“‘There’s no such thing as a crotch kick in Krav. You kick like you expect it to reach the head, and the crotch just happened to get in the way.'”
“That would be the first thing going through my head if a catcaller approached me.” ~ AliceInWeirdoland
“The first thought when I read he kicked him out of the car was that what if he went back to the ladies and did something. That’s the level of fear we live in.” ~ damndevu
“I had the same concern. OP is NTA for enforcing a consequence on his friend, but depending on how far away he was when he kicked his friend out, he may have inadvertently been TA to the pedestrian woman.” ~ specialspectres
“I also immediately hoped he drove on a ways rather than letting the guy out on the same block as the women he had just harassed.”
“Angry, embarrassed, entitled and misogynistic is not what we want to have to deal with when we’ve just been that person’s target.” ~ SaskiaDavies
Most agreed it was good OP called his friend out.
“I actually did this once. I was walking in the downtown area, some morons were driving by and cat-called me loudly and soo grossly.”
“I am certain they didn’t count on getting stuck at that red light. I’m also certain they didn’t bet on me angrily marching to his shiny, new, expensive truck and throwing my 20 oz iced coffee through the window. I would have gotten his tires too if I’d had time lol.” ~ HereForALaugh714
“Dude! One of my friends got hit on by a couple of dudes in a convertible.”
“They got stuck at a red light. She ran up to yell at them.”
“In response, the driver rolled up his window…. in a top- down convertible….” ~ Neurotic_Bakeder
“NTA. It is all men when someone doesn’t speak up, you spoke up, you made sure it was an old man and the guys in your car or assholes for letting him treat women like that and saying it was OK.” ~ KCC9820
“Only thing better would have been to tell the friends that they’re welcome to get out too.” ~ AndreasVesalius
“I would have been pissed at the others for being angry with me and not the jerk. I would have kicked them out also.”
“OP just make sure you are the one to drive to the gym. I would totally expect jerk or one of the others to make you walk home ‘so you know how it feels’/to get even. But I am a suspicious sort and your buds may be better people than I give them credit for.” ~
Cat calling is gross, and OP did the right thing calling out his friend.