When staying in someone’s house, it is important to follow their house rules.
Even if they are a far cry from what you’re used to, and you would run your home completely differently, they likely have them for a reason.
Making it all the more important that you follow them, particularly since they were generous enough to open their home to you in the first place.
Redditor Far_Muscle_4268 was happy to host their brother and sister-in-law at their house when they came for a visit.
Things sadly took a turn for the worse, however, when the original poster (OP)’s guests, didn’t follow their instructions, leading to an unfortunate situation within the house.
As a result, the OP’s brother and sister-in-law grudgingly took up accommodation at a hotel.
Wondering if they could have handled the situation better, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for forcing my guests to move to a hotel after they refused to use the bidet?”
The OP explained that the plumbing in their house was problematic, resulting in their finding a solution to this problem.
“I live in a country with terrible plumbing.”
“If you flush toilet paper you are pretty much guaranteed to back up your toilet.”
“I grew up in Colorado so I know how weird it is to wipe after a dump and then put the paper in a garbage can instead of just flushing it.”
“So I installed a wand bidet in all three washrooms in my retirement house.”
“So after you poop, you just spray your backside down nice and clean.”
“Then you use the toilet paper to dry your butthole.”
“Nice, simple, and less gross in my opinion.”
“I wish I had these when I lived in the states.”
While the OP shared this process with their brother and sister-in-law when they came for a visit, they chose to ignore their instructions, resulting in their needing to find alternate accommodations.
“So my brother and his wife came down for a visit.”
“I told them the rules for the bathroom and they both said that they understood.”
“Apparently not.”
“They clogged the two public bathrooms the first day.”
“Then they asked to use the one in my room.”
“Nope that’s mine.”
“They asked me where they were supposed to go to the bathroom.”
“I pointed them to the clogged ones and offered them a plunger and a drain snake.”
“They said I was the host and it was my responsibility.”
“I laughed in their faces.”
“So they packed up and left.”
“They found a hotel and now they are on social media complaining about the sh*thole country I chose to retire to and calling me a terrible host for inviting them down but not letting them use my bathroom.”
“I posted pictures of my bathrooms after they clogged them and asked if they knew who did that to my home?”
“They called me gross and immature for talking about their bathroom habits.”
“I’m lost.”
“They brought it up first.”
“Anyways they are calling me an a-hole because they are having to spend money on a hotel when I live in a really nice house with guest rooms.”
“But now everyone who knows the bathroom rules for down here is calling them idiots for not using the bidet or putting the toilet paper in the receptacle.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**hole for forcing their brother and sister-in-law to de-clog their toilets.
Everyone agreed that since the OP’s guests chose to ignore their explicit instructions, the very least they could have done was to clear out the toilets, while also pointing out that it was their choice to leave the OP’s home, and they were in no way forced out.
“NTA.”
“The responsibility to unclog the toilet falls on the person who clogged it, not the host.”-AmazingAmiria
“OP, I loved your response to their sh*tty behavior.”
“In fact, if anything, I think you were a wee bit too nice.”
“No. 1, yes, they brought up their bathroom habits first so holding that against you is tissue thin.”
“No. 2, they can’t possibly think it’s your responsibility to clean up their crap.”
“NTA.”- The_Blonde1
“NTA.”
“They created the problem by ignoring OP and then publicly whining about it and playing victim blew up in their face.”
“Did they think they had magic sh*t that miraculously wouldn’t clog the potty?”
“Not sure what they were expecting here.”- ABeerAndABook
“NTA.”
“Those two are just so full of sh*t.”- RighteousVengeance
“While posting pictures wasn’t nice, I did laugh though, I say NTA for the rest.”
“As a guest, I would be mortified to clog your toilet and I would not allow you to plunge my mess!”
“I guess I am a good guest.”- Emptydata_Enzo
“NTA.”
“And I like your style of fighting back haha.”
“You sound like you’ve got everything all figured out already.”- namesaretoohardforme
“NTA.”
“Have they clogged the hotel’s toilets yet?”- bathsaltsforbrekfast
“NTA I went to Greece and was nicely told:”
“Put the present in the pot and the wrapper in the bin.”
“Know what I did?”
“I put the present in the pot and put the wrapper in the bin.”- sinkydoodles
“Look man if you didn’t offer them your poop knife this one’s on you.”- TTPete
“NTA and I love that you called them out.”- MrsSophiaBrown
“NTA.”
“Insanely disrespectful to go to anyone’s home and do whatever the hell you want, whether in the bathroom or not.”
“You were clear, explained things to them and they just ignored you and did whatever pleased them.”- Stealthoneill
“NTA.”
“It’s appalling that they are unable to understand simple request and why it is requested, and on top of everything.”
“A very normal alternative was provided.”- Dry-Comment-6889
“You behaved reasonably.”
“I did part of my degree course in a country with similar plumbing.”
“The bathrooms in the student residence had open wastebaskets piled with s****y newspaper for the most part.”
“There was a toilet paper shortage.”
“Your bidet solution is a smart one.”- PurpleAquilegia
“NTA.”
“Bidets are awesome when you have a good one installed.”
“Much cleaner and less wasteful with paper.”
“You explained the rules and rationale and they brushed it off.”
“Many Americans are not used to bidets and refuse to use them because they think they’re gross.”
“They need to get over it.”
“It’s a much better system.”- Holmes221bBSt
“They are a-holes just for calling where you live a ‘sh*thole country’.”
“NTA.”
“Where I live you can’t throw tp in the toilet, and everybody uses the trash can.”
“Bidets are really useful!”- Low-Song-7968
“The wash and wipe is the best of all options, hands down.”
“It’s certainly blowing things up to post pics of their clogged toilets, but I can’t say they didn’t deserve it.”
“And you didn’t make them move to a hotel.”
“They did that themselves when they ignored the toilet rules and then refused to fix the mess they made.”
“NTA.”- Left-Car6520
“NTA.”
“They knew the rules, they chose their path, now they can deal with it.”- countingpickles
“NTA.”
“lmao they clogged two toilets and are made you won’t let me clog the third?”
“Even after being warned the toilet WILL clog if the tissue gets flushed but still did it a second time.”
“The bidet is a nice happy middle ground and reasonable accommodation.”
“You didn’t make them take a squat in the yard and wipe up with leaves lol.”- HunnBunn23
“NTA.”
“You told them the rules and it is your home so your rules.”
“I have been to countries in South America where you have to put the used toilet paper in the garbage can, even in hotels.”
“Their plumbing is messed up there and the paper cannot flush properly.”- Auntjenny48
“NTA.”
“You offered them a solution.”
“The idea that they get to walk in and ignore the rules and thrn shrug it off like ‘it’s your house’ suggest that a hotel is exactly where they should be.”
“They are horrible guests.”- SJoyD
“NTA.”
“But man it’s so weird to read stories like this.”
“In my country, everyone uses a butt wash hose so I can’t fathom doodoo clogging the toilet.”
“The closest would be if the poop floats and it takes more than one flushing and there too the butt wash hose helps to add more water and force it down.”- BariumBromide2
“NTA.”
“They knew the rules and choose to ignore.”- National-Zombie3303
When given instructions that could affect the structure of a house, it is vitally important to listen to them.
As no guests should have damaging the home of their hosts riding on their conscience.
Something the OP’s brother and sister-in-law will hopefully be mindful of next time they are invited to stay in someone’s home.
One expects they might also be a bit more conscious of how much toilet paper they use going forward as well.