Not everyone gets along with their in-laws.
So how do you deal with them at the obligatory family functions?
One woman thought it would be best to ban her brother-in-law (BIL) after repeated issues.
Redditor AdministrativePin466 was tired of putting up with her 21-year-old BIL—who incessantly joked about the genetics of her son.
After his latest comment became the last straw, she turned to the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit to see what strangers had to say.
The Original Poster (OP) asked:
“Aita for telling my husband I don’t want his brother around our son because of his DNA concerns?”
“My husband and I have a two year old son together. My husband is a great and attentive father but this problem for the past year and a half or so is reaching its breaking point and I’m extremely annoyed.”
“I made this ultimatum with my husband last night after a fight I had with his brother.”
“I have brown hair and blue eyes, my husband has blond hair and blue eyes and our son has brown hair and brown eyes. Honestly didn’t think much of it until my brother in law made a comment when my son was around a year old on how rare it is for two people with blue eyes to have a child with brown eyes.”
“We thought it was an interesting observation and moved on.”
“But he keeps bringing it up. Again he made another comment on my sons second birthday.”
“My best friend is Asian. My ex from almost seven years ago (I’ve been with my husband for five years now) is Asian as well. He ‘joked’ that my son looks more like my friend (?) because he has dark hair and eyes, then he turned to me and said ‘Isn’t your ex Asian? Maybe my bro needs a test’ and laughed.”
“I thought this was so rude and was so happy no one nearby heard it.”
“The straw the broke the camels back was when I went to the beach yesterday with my husband and son. We all got pretty tan from being in the sun all day and I took a picture of us and posted it on my story. My brother in law swiped up and said: ‘Why’s my brother holding a little Mexican kid’ with a bunch of laughing emojis.”
“I went off on him and told him that I’m sick and tired of his little jokes towards my son all because he has brown hair and brown eyes and his father is blonde with blue eyes.”
“He’s 21 so I get he’s young but until he stops with the constant DNA jokes, I don’t want him around our son. If he doesn’t believe they’re related, there’s obviously no bond and I don’t feel comfortable with him around him.”
“I told my husband to tell his brother this and he’s saying I’m the a**hole wanting him to tell his brother he can’t see his nephew and that he knows our son is his so why do I let his brothers comments affect me.”
Anonymous strangers on the internet weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
“Your BIL is being a massive douche.”
“Your husband is being a jerk for letting this comments continue without stepping up to protect you and his family. NTA.” – mrbrinks