Creating a cohesive, peaceful roommate situation can be difficult.
Not everybody is always going to get along.
It may start out really great, but these situations can be fragile.
So what are the best ways to fix a tenuous roommate scenario?
A lot of people choose eviction.
Redditor Interesting-Month927 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback, so naturally, she came to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subreddit.
She asked:
“AITA for kicking out my roommate for having only child syndrome?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Context to this story, I will be using fake names for privacy.”
“I (21 F[emale]) have 3 roommates, Kelly (20 F), Allie (22 F), and Steve (23 M[ale]).”
“We have lived together since December 2024.”
“The house we live in is rented to us by Steve’s parents.”
“Steve and Allie are a couple, and prior to living here myself, Allie and Steve lived in an apartment together for a year.”
“So, Me, Allie, and Steve are finally at our wits’ end.”
“So, our roommate Kelly has lived with us now for 10 months.”
“This was her first time living away from her parents, and we have tried to discuss our problems with her multiple times with zero results.”
“Basically, from the time she moved, she has been terrible about taking care of her food that’s gone bad, which is particularly frustrating when she is using tupperware that she does not own, along with ruining several pans.”
“She also has had a consistent problem with contributing to household shared products such as soap, paper towels, toilet paper, spices, medication, etc.”
“Despite the fact that it is known( because she talks about it) that she has more money in her bank account than all three of us do combined.”
“She will continuously use but never replace.”
“Kelly and I specifically share a bathroom, which she hasn’t helped clean since we moved in.”
“She consistently gets her hair and toothpaste EVERYWHERE, and in all bathrooms she never flushes her toilet paper (which she uses a lot of), she instead throws it away.”
“Keep in mind, she never takes the trash out.”
“When we asked her not to, she just said ‘that’s how my parents do it.'”
“When we said she shouldn’t leave cooked and/or raw meat out overnight, she said, ‘that’s how my parents do it” (mind you, she has a food handlers card), which is a recurring theme.”
“When we would say hi to her, she would ignore us, even if we were both sitting on the couch.”
“Despite this, we have tried to work through stuff and remain friends.”
“About two months ago, Kelly, Allie, and I took a road trip (about 4 hours, Allie drove) for a concert.”
“She only wanted to do what she wanted to do and consistently left us without telling us.”
“Along with nitpicking any split cost thing, such as parking (which we had agreed to split), when it comes to fun purchases, she would spend twice as much as Allie and I did.”
“She also would ignore any prior discussed schedules for the trip.”
“This trip itself would be too many characters to post.”
“After coming back, Allie and I wanted to talk with her about all of this, but before we had time, Kelly asked me if we were mad at her (at work cause she is also my coworker), and I told her that we were frustrated and we wanted to talk, to which she responded with a scoff and left.”
“Since then, she has been avoiding us and won’t talk to us, and all of her bad habits at home have gotten 2x worse.”
“I will try to answer as many questions as I can.”
The OP was left to wonder:
“Are we the a**holes for giving her 30 days to leave?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question, AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A**hole.
“NTA. I think some people are not fit to be roommates and share things.”
“You’ll need to find a way to remove her from the house.”
“Tell her to keep your sanity and friendship.” ~ CupcakeMurder86
“This is not an only-child thing.”
“This is just entitled/selfish person behavior.”
“You don’t have the right to kick anyone out, though.”
“The landlord has to do that.” ~ Salty-Sprinkles-1562
“NTA, she sounds like a nightmare.”
“If you can’t kick her out for legal reasons, start being petty.”
“Take your toilet paper, paper towels, etc, into your rooms.”
“Ask if you can share the other bathroom and stop cleaning up after her.”
“Don’t do her dishes, don’t take out her trash.”
“Don’t buy extra food or keep non-refrigerated items in your rooms.”
“Eventually, she will have to do something for herself.” ~ amandajjohnson1313
“She’s selfish and inconsiderate.”
“You don’t need to share your home with someone like that. NTA.” ~ thfemaleofthespecies
“I know only child adults and they’re adulting fine.”
“I feel I would escalate a lot more by this point, like leaving her dirty dishes, etc, on her bed, tossing her things from my Tupperware.”
“But you did a mature thing, and getting rid of her is another mature thing to do. NTA.” ~ ILLogic_PL
“So, A) the toilet paper thing has to do with septic tank issues in certain areas, my aunt did this in rural GA because otherwise her toilet would clog.”
“She used a covered trash can and took it out regularly.”
“B) Non-only children do this too – ie, are selfish roommates who don’t clean after themselves and ruin other people’s things.”
“NTA – Kelly’s living style is not comparable to that of her three roommates.”
“You have her 30-day notice, which I assume is because she is month-to-month.”
“Make sure you give it to her in writing, and Steve’s parents may need to evict her formally.” ~ Jealous-Contract7426
“NTA for kicking her out, but YTA for the comment on only child syndrome.”
“Growing up, everyone always assumed because I was an only child that I was a spoiled brat.”
“Plus, my mom got judged for only having one child.”
“Growing up, I did chores, as soon as I was working age, I got a job, and I’ve worked ever since.”
“Now that my dad is disabled, I’ve taken on the household maintenance and repair stuff that he used to do.”
“Your roommate is obviously spoiled, so fine, call her that.”
“But don’t assume that all only children are like that.” ~ Brilliant-Boss4985
“Definitely NTA, but to address your edit: I’m an only child – clean, responsible, thoughtful of others, quiet, and a great roommate.”
“I lived with a demon of a girl who sounds similar but with severe anger issues (asked her nicely to just clear, not even clean, her stuff from the counter after she made lunch so I could cook my lunch – she went off on me, gave me the silent treatment for a week, banged and slammed every door, stomped around… all during covid lockdown).”
“SHE WAS A FIRST BORN!!!” ~ Affectionate-Trip705
“NTA for wanting her gone.”
“But she also has rights.”
“You just cannot kick her out if she signed a lease.”
“And, even if she has not signed a lease, after 10 months, she would have tenant rates.”
“You need to make sure she’s leaving within the framework of the lease ending and not renewing with you.”
“Otherwise, she could have legal recourse.” ~ jmg4craigslists
“NTA, you need to look into eviction notices for a tenant.”
“You can give them 30 days to get out.”
“But you have to do it legally, you can’t just say you have 30 days to leave.”
“She doesn’t have to leave if she’s on the lease.” ~ Ibboredlady
“NTA. A lot of your complaints are reasonable – if she refuses to contribute to the house and the agreements you’ve all made, she’s gotta go.”
“However, I don’t think the trip you took should play a factor in this conversation.”
“Those concerns make her a bad friend, but not a bad roommate, so to keep things clear, I’d recommend keeping that part out of it.” ~ LowAdvisor9274
“NTA-But edit your post.”
“You have not been living together since December 2025.”
“If she doesn’t have a year lease, then give her the official 30-day notice.”
“Also, be prepared for her to throw a hissy fit.” ~ Victor-Grimm
“NTA, but it can easily take more than 30 days to get a new place lined up if she’s not just moving back to her parents.”
“Allow her 60 days, but express that she’s expected to start looking immediately.” ~ Commercial_Ball5624
“Hi. I am Entarotupac.”
“I am a terrible roommate.”
“It’s why I endeavor to live alone–no one should have to put up with my s**t.”
“Not everyone is as self-aware of what a lousy roommate they make.”
“For those who aren’t, endlessly accommodating them does not solve the problem.”
“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep your roommate warm. NTA.” ~Entarotupac
OP came back to chat…
“I need everyone to chill for a minute about the only child thing.”
“That’s not the point.”
“In fact, I almost didn’t make that the title.”
“Personally, under my dad, I grew up an only child, and plenty of my friends have nothing against only children.”
“Also, only children aren’t a minority group that needs to be protected, sorry, not sorry.”
“I say this because of how she talks about her parents and getting what she wants.”
“Sure, people with siblings can be like that.”
“I just didn’t know what to title this, so can we PLEASE stay on topic?”
“And yeah, my previous edit was a bit harsh, but the first comments were all up in arms about the only child thing, and I was tired and frustrated that based on the title it was assumed I was attributing all her flaws to being an only child, I’m not.”
“Some of it, though, feels like it comes from that, but that’s not what I’m asking about.”
“Hate my opinion all you want, but for the sake of my other roommate, please stay on topic and take the only child out of it.”
This is quite the situation you have on your hands, OP.
Terrible roommates are the worst.
If you can kick her out legally, then you guys have every right to do so.
It sounds like she has more issues to deal with besides just how bad her roommate’s behavior is.
You all deserve to live peacefully.