Not all romantic partners share the same hobbies and interests.
In fact, several people might even love their partners in spite of them.
But in most cases, they can learn to live with the fact that their partner loves football, ballet, knitting, or woodworking, despite the fact that they absolutely despise it.
In other cases, it could eventually lead to their relationship coming to an end.
The girlfriend of Redditor Jimothyisyouruncle was becoming increasingly frustrated by their passion for restoring a vintage car.
Particularly as their doing so meant that she couldn’t park her car in their garage.
But when she took matters into her own hands, the original poster (OP) was so furious that they even went so far as to take legal action.
Wondering if they were overreacting, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**Hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 impala project taken to the scrapyard?”
The OP explained how after their girlfriend removed something of theirs without permission, they felt there was no other option than to get a lawyer involved.
“I had a 1967 Impala 4 door that I bought in Feb 2019.”
“A couple of months ago I bought my first house that had a 2.5 car garage.”
“I moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration.”
“I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, plus the whole garage filled with parts.”
“About two months ago my girlfriend came to live with me during this whole crisis and the whole time has hated that car.”
“She wants to park in the garage but I have 2 acres of land with a lot of nice places to park under shady trees or hell even in the barn if it has to be inside.”
“I tell her tough luck and it’s my house and it’s not like I can just throw it back together real quick.”
“Anyways I was out of town for a couple of days on a business trip for the small local company I work for.”
“When I got back, my girlfriend was all smiles.”
“Making me food all the time, doing all the chores, all that.”
“I thought maybe she just was happy to have me home but then I realized that I didn’t see her car in its usual spot.”
“I asked her where she parked so I could make sure I mow that area and keep it clean and she said not to worry because she parked in the garage.”
“I asked how and she told me to go check it out.”
“Turns out that while I was gone she hired some people to come over and move everything related to that car, including the drivetrain, body, and chassis and all parts, and take it to the local dump/scrapyard.”
“I was absolutely dumbfounded.”
“I had spent over 11k on that car including new parts, services, and the car itself.”
“I told her that I was going to be taking her to court for that and she brushed me off like I was being dramatic.”
“I told her that it’s done between us and to pack her things and leave.”
‘I admit I was really angry but I did end up getting a lawyer, and as I have all the receipts for all that money spent and I have her on my house’s security cam footage letting the guys in and watching them take it all I think I can win.”
“Her family and friends are absolutely blowing me up saying it’s just a stupid old piece of junk and that she cannot pay back all that money I spent, and that I should just let it go.”
“But I have been putting all my time, effort, and money into that car for a year and a half now, and goddammit if I am not going to get justice for what she did.”
“AITA.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community agreed that the OP had every right to sue their girlfriend for sending his vintage car to the scrap yard, and was not the a**hole for doing so.
Everyone agreed that the OP should consult not only a lawyer but also the police regarding what their girlfriend did.
“NTA.”
“What is with this sub and terrible SO’s who don’t respect their partner’s property and passions?”
“Like how the f*ck did she expect you to act?!”
“Oh, yay you completely destroyed my passion project while also causing a considerable financial loss.”
“But at least your car is in the garage!”
“She wasn’t very bright, being dumped, and sued is the most predictable outcome from this scenario.”-abadfoodfriend
“NTA.”
“My husband has several old cars.”
“I haven’t seen the inside of the garage in twenty years.”
“But he loves his hobby cars and I would never dream of asking him to lose one.”
“I say take her to court.”
“Be sure you sue for replacement cost.”
“The Impalas are getting hard to come by and you may have to pay more than you think.”
“Oh, and congrats on dodging the bullet with that one.”
“If she pulled this crap in the first year.”
“Just think what she would be trying after a couple of kids and ten years of marriage.”-Zombiesquirrel57
“Completely, definitely, whole-heartedly NTA!”
“What a horrid human being!”
“What a selfish, ungrateful, and disgusting human being!”
“‘67 IMPALA?!?!”
“I want to sue her too!”
“I’m going to sue her for making you have to post this and causing me emotional distress!”
“Is there like a gofundme for suing people?!”
“Cause I’ll contribute.”- Mrs_Loukine
“I would file a police report and see if there was any way that you could get her prosecuted.”
“NTA.”- karebear3513
“NTA.”
“Holy sh*t, definitely not the a**hole.”
“That’s like your girlfriend selling a dog out from under you while you are on a business trip because she didn’t like it!”
“The audacity.”
“If she didn’t like it, she could’ve just ignored it.’
“The most toxic part is that she sees no issue.”
“Your property, your house, she throws it away?”
“And if any judge knows the worth of that car they would understand suing her for the costs.”
“LET ALONE THE TIME YOU SPENT ON IT.”
“That’s a hobby, and a damn good one.”
“If she couldn’t support you and your project, that probably would’ve been a red flag for anything you do later on.”
“I think this is all justified.”- BeMorePacificPls
The OP later returned with an update after speaking to his local police, while also sharing that in spite of all the unpleasantness, there was a happy ending of sorts to his story.
“Thank you all so much for the support and awards and everything.”
“I got a call from her mom and she told me that I was ruining her daughter’s life over a stupid car.”
“I told her she ruined her own life.”
“I went to the police station last night.”
“I filed an official report against her for grand larceny and grand theft auto.”
“I showed them all the receipts I had for the car and the footage of her letting the guys come and take it as well as the title for the vehicle in my name.”
“THEY FOUND MY G*DDAMN CAR!”
‘The junkyard guys apparently were in the middle of hiding it when the police came to ask them questions.”
“It was on a forklift and they were gonna put it on top of a pile of cars that was hidden behind more piles of cars.”
“They said it was theirs and they had the title, but obviously didn’t have the title for it and since they matched the vin on the chassis and body to the vin on my title, it was obviously mine.”
“I know at least one person there has been arrested, I think he was in the camera footage I talked about earlier but IDK if it was the boss or whomever or even his specific charge.”
“They also told me they would be looking into this specific junkyard for any other vehicles reported stolen.”
“They said they haven’t been able to get in contact with my ex just yet but they’re working on it.”
“I’m just so glad they found my car.”
“Luckily I made quite an album of pictures detailing me tearing down the car and so I can use that to prove what parts they had were mine so I can hopefully get most or all of it back.”
“Police haven’t let me take it back home yet as they say it is evidence or something so hopefully I can get it back eventually.”
“Thank you all so much for the support and advice!”
“SHE’S GONNA BE ALRIGHT.”
One can only wonder what exactly the OP’s girlfriend expected to happen after she had their car taken to a scrap yard.
As the chances of their relationship lasting beyond that were slim to none, effectively leaving her with no place to live.
One can only imagine that she’s questioning if it was all worth it as she faces various charges.
And one can only be grateful that the OP was able to get it back before it was too late.