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Babysitter Balks After Client’s Jealous Girlfriend Demands She Leave Since He’s In A Relationship

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Jealousy can be a devious thing.

It requires neither reason nor evidence and can be a difficult hurdle in even the strongest of relationships.

So, what happens when jealousy interferes with a business relationship?

That was the issue facing Redditor and Original Poster (OP) HeadEye5263 when she came to the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for judgment.

She asked:

“AITA for babysitting my friend’s kid and refusing to leave when his gf asked me to?”

It began with a seemingly innocent request.

“So I (22F) have a friend (25M) who asked me to look after his son (4M) for a couple of hours.”

“He said he’ll pay me €10/hour so I accepted.”

“While babysitting his son, his girlfriend(25F) came over and was surprised to see me.”

“She asked what I was doing here and I told her I was here to watch his son.”

“She then asked if it was like a last-minute thing because his mother canceled.”

“I said no, he asked me about a week ago, but I don’t know if he previously asked his mom”

“She said that’s impossible because not even two days ago, he told her his mother was watching his son”

“So I was like, well, the only thing I know is that he asked me to babysit, said he’d pay me, so I accepted.”

“She got mad and asked if there was something between him and me.”

“I denied, repeated that I’m only here to babysit, and that’s it.”

“She said that since I knew he was in a relationship, I should’ve declined.”

“So I said like, ‘listen, I’m sorry he lied to you, but I’m only here to get paid.”‘

“She said that nobody accepts to look over somebody else’s kid only to get paid. I said um, yes, people who want to get paid do.”

“She said that I was playing with her, that if I were respectful of their relation, I’d leave.”

“I refused.”

“I told her if she’s so mad, then she could call her bf and demand an explanation, but I was staying here to do what I was paid to do.”

“She left, and I didn’t hear from her again until recently.”

“She texted me saying that I would never babysit for her boyfriend again and that he agreed with her on it.”

“I didn’t reply because I really don’t care. I’m not even that close to the guy and like I said, only wanted to get paid. I was paid, and that’s it.”

“But when I talked about it to my mom and sister, they said that I should’ve left when she asked me to avoid any drama between them.”

“I said that’s not my problem.”

“I got asked to watch over a kid, and I accepted.”

“If her boyfriend decided to lie to her about it, it was not my fault.”

“But now I’m not really sure, and I just wanna know”

“She is not the mother, just his girlfriend.”

OP was left to wonder,

“AITA for babysitting my friend’s kid and refusing to leave when his gf asked me to?”

Having explained the situation, OP turned to Reddit for judgment.

Redditors weighed in by declaring:

    • NTA – Not The A**hole
    • YTA – You’re The A**hole
    • NAH – No A**holes Here
    • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Redditors decided: NTA

Commenters were not impressed by the girlfriend.


“Imagine being so insecure in your relationship that you deny the existence of babysitters.” ~ personofpaper

“Yeah, that relationship isn’t going to last long, and you don’t want to be anywhere close enough to be a scapegoat when it ends OP.”

“NTA.” ~ asakadeva

‘”Nobody watches someone else’s kid just to get paid’… like, my sister in Christ, that’s literally a job description.” ~ NotThatCreative0017

“Honestly, I doubt the boyfriend agrees with her.”

“I think she just said that to be like, ‘SEE YOU’RE WRONG.’ Clearly, OP just learned why the boyfriend lied to his girlfriend about who was actually babysitting his son.”

“Yikes on bikes.” ~ WiseBat

“Imagine having a partner so insecure that you have to lie about who is watching your child.”

“Then said partner checks in.”

“Imagine being a child whose dad’s girlfriend shows up and starts berating your babysitter.”

“Dude needs to do better.” ~ littlebitfunny21

“I mean, I’ll point out in this situation, girlfriend showed up when she knew he wasn’t going to be home and accused him of being unfaithful.”

“Insulted OP for babysitting, refused to understand that babysitters exist to get paid, and demanded OP leave the kid.”

“In an average situation, maybe you’re right that lying was the issue and not someone being crazy.”

“But in this situation, this woman can’t even understand basic concepts that happens every day everywhere like babysitting” ~  [deleted]

There were also liability concerns.

“From what it sounds like, it’s not like the GF offered to watch the kid either.”

“This is, of course, just an assumption, but OP, you were right to stay,”

“Because if something would have happened to the child after you left, you could have been on the hook for it because you basically had a contract with your friend, not his GF.”

“So tell your mom and your sister to shut it because the relationship drama is, as you stated, not your problem.”

“The welfare of the child is the priority here.”

“GF could have called your friend and have you released from your duties, but she decided not to. NTA” ~ sandwichcrawler

“Yes, if he had wanted to leave the kid with the girlfriend, he would have asked her, not Op.”

“And wouldn’t have lied and said his mother was doing it. The kid was in op’s care; she would have been wrong to hand him over to anyone else.”

“Still, best to stay well clear. This is just too much drama.” ~ MyDarlingArmadillo

“This is what I was coming to comment on.”

“If you are given control over a child, you do not surrender that control over the child to any person other than a person to whom you have been authorized to do so.” ~ chop1125

“NTA and I would not have left either. You were asked to be in charge of this kid’s safety and well-being, that doesn’t get passed off to some random girlfriend because she demanded it.”

“Your responsibility to the child ends when the parent of the child takes back the responsibility.” ~pudge-thefish

“Yeah, I work in childcare, and this was my immediate thought.”

“We have very strict rules about clocking in and out on time because if an accident happens, the adults in the classroom are responsible.”

“If I’m clocked in (or, in this case, in an agreement to watch a child), any accident is at least partially my responsibility.”

“If OP left the child in the care of this woman and something happened, she could easily lie and say it actually happened under OP’s watch.” ~ courtneat

Who’s the boss?


“Only the person who contracted with you to babysit can fire you.”

“If something happens to the baby because you left (like the GF wanted), then you would have been held liable.”

“Just like fast food customers can’t fire workers at Mcdonald’s, the GF can’t fire you as a babysitter.”

“She didn’t hire you.”

“You don’t know anything about the GF, including if she would even watch the baby after you left.”

“If the baby were injured, she would then likely say that you abandoned the baby, as you were hired to be the babysitter.”

“Yes, it is drama, but that is the guy’s problem and not yours.”

“The GF’s reasoning is totally stupid.”

“She didn’t offer to babysit. She didn’t call the guy and get him to talk to you.”

“She has no authority in this situation.” ~ decoratenow

“NTA – you were asked and paid to babysit a baby.”

“She comes by and tells you to leave, but it’s not even her baby.”

“It’s his.”

“She had no right to ask you to leave, and you had a responsibility towards the baby to stay and take care of it.”

“The dad/bf is being immature by not replying to your texts.”

“I wouldn’t babysit again if he’s not going to address this. His loss, and he’ll regret losing a good babysitter.” ~ Goldfish2022

“NTA – you were paid to do a job and were expected to do it.”

“What if he didn’t want her there or if they were in a fight and he didn’t trust her with his child, and you just left?”

“That wouldn’t be acceptable, and she should understand that and put her selfishness aside. This is a BF problem, not a babysitter problem.” ~ constructiongirl54

OP did return with some clarity.

“I texted him about what she sent me to make sure he knew. I’m currently waiting on an answer”

“Edit: He saw but didn’t reply, I tried another text, but I doubt it’ll work either, so I guess that’s it🤷🏻‍♀️”

Originally, this appears at the start of the post, but for clarity, I have added it here.

“It won’t let me post an update but, long story short:”

“He apologized for what happened with his gf, said he lied bc he knew she would’ve been jealous.”

“He confirmed he knew about the text and did agree with it.”

“I said okay, told him to lose my number and that his gf should do the same. I hung up.”

“That’s it.”

“Thank you, guys, for your comments”

Be wary of jealousy, particularly in business affairs.

Written by Frank Geier

Frank Geier (pronouns he/him) is a nerd and father of three who recently moved to Alabama. He is an avid roleplayer and storyteller occasionally masquerading as a rational human.