We are in a very sensitive place as humans right now.
It feels like nobody knows how to talk to anybody... about anything.
Things can get especially touchy when any topic is viewed as even slightly political.
Everyone seems to have forgotten how to have civil discourse.
An example, two words... Climate Change.
Chaos begins...
Case in point...
Redditor askeirt wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
"AITA for bringing up a 'politically sensitive topic' with my coworker?"
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
"I work remote so I hadn't met any of my coworkers before since I was hired during the pandemic."
"Last month I went to Denver to meet them for a team get together."
"It was really fun and we all went to a bar after work."
"Most of my coworkers are from Texas, I'm from B[ritish] C[olumbia] Canada."
"I was struggling with the 35 C weather and complained it was way too hot."
"My coworker agreed but said it was way hotter in Texas."
"And I said I was happy the team get together wasn't in Texas because I would melt."
"He laughed and asked if BC Canada was hot."
"I said it use to be really nice but it had been getting hotter recently especially last year."
"He seemed interested and said he didn't think Canada could ever get hot because it was so far north."
"I said due to climate change it got up to almost 50 C last year in interior BC."
"And I experienced about 45 C which is basically Texas weather but it was unusual and it's normal 25-35 C at the hottest."
"He got really quiet and a few coworkers who were listening, their face changed."
"I was like 'What?'"
"Not really sure why everyone was acting strange."
"The coworker said 'well climate change isn't real so I'm not sure what is causing Canada to get so hot but that isn't it.'"
"I was pretty shocked because I'd never heard anyone deny climate change ever."
"I tried to shrug it off not wanting to cause issues at a company meet up and the rest of the get together was ok but more awkward."
"Then last week I got a 'religious and political sensitivity training' from H[uman] R[esources]."
"And when I asked about it they clarified it was due to me mentioning 'politically sensitive topics' like climate change at our meet up."
"I think it's insane I've worked multiple offices including very conservative environments in Canada and never has anyone had an issue with mentioning climate change."
"But I'd never worked with US coworkers for a US company before..."
"So AITA for mentioning a 'politically sensitive topic' in front of coworkers?"
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA - Not The A**hole
- YTA – You're The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH - Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It's a tricky situation.
Let's hear some thoughts...
"It really is a strange time to be alive."
"I'm a college instructor, and on one of my evaluations from last year, a student lambasted me for being 'too political' in class."
"We never discussed politics at all."
"So I have no idea what that student was talking about, and we didn't cover any particularly controversial topics."
"The general worldview of many of my fellow US citizens is... to put it lightly... odd." ~ GayCatDaddy
"Well, to be entirely fair to the US, look how it was made."
"You send an entire continent's worth of religious weirdos and criminals and poor people to a place and tell them it's theirs for the taking."
"Encourage them to encroach on the recently-plague-bereft locals, steal bits of another continent and enslave them there."
"Run several wars through the area just in case anybody still liked each other, and then half-seal it off to stew for 100 or more years."
"This ain't great? But it is, uh, not the worst possible outcome." ~ The_Ambling_Horror
"Texas in general tends to be super resistant to the reality of climate change because so much of their economy is oil and gas based."
"Huston has an amazing Natural history museum."
"But it's mostly been paid for by oil companies so it has a 'super fun' exhibit on the wonders of fracking."
"And no mention of climate change ANYWHERE." ~ ruinedbymovies
"NTA. Next time tell them the Earth is round and see what happens." ~ Adorable_Accident440
"NTA. And climate change shouldn't be 'politically sensitive,' because it takes a complete halfwit to argue that objective facts are a political issue."
"Also, his being Texan just makes me laugh."
"I'm Canadian and my best friend lives in Texas."
"She has been absolutely HORRIFIED the last couple of summers that my Canadian city has several times been hotter than hers in Texas."
"But she doesn't question it (she can literally look it up on any weather map)."
"And if anything she is just concerned about my safety and well-being because I'm chronically ill and vulnerable and she understands how this weather can impact me."
"Intelligent, well-informed people don't say, 'Well, I don't understand that, so it clearly can't be the case.'"
"They say, 'Wow, that's shocking . . . let me try to understand it by learning more from all of this information that has been made available by experts whose entire careers exist to make sense of things like this!'"
"You are NTA, and HR might do well to GENTLY and SENSITIVELY point out to him that matters of scientific fact are not 'political.'" ~ FoolMe1nceShameOnU
"NTA - how are you supposed to know what indisputable scientific facts people chose not to believe in?"
"What's next?"
"They get upset because you tell them you tripped because you didn't know they chose not to believe in gravity?" ~ OrangeCubit
"NTA. WTF is wrong with your HR department?!?"
"Weather is one of the go-tos of 'safe' conversations."
"You can't help it if your co-workers are offended by reality. Sheesh!" ~ SirMittensOfTheHill
"Ah, I can see why you're confused."
"See, the Republican Party in America are complete idiots who are embracing religious fascism instead of science."
"Hopes this clears things up. NTA." ~ Molenium
"NTA- You could frame nearly anything as a politically sensitive topic (look at twitter)."
"I think at work you should probably avoid party political topics with people you don't know but denying climate change is a pretty extreme belief." ~ thejackalreborn
"I think there is a cultural difference here."
"Climate change is a political topic only in the US."
"Everywhere else we see it as a scientific topic."
"The measures we take against it is a political topic, but OP didn't talk about it." ~ praleva
"NTA! I feel sorry for you and I found your post hilarious at the same time!
"Do the training."
"If anyone says anything during work hours or at an event simply refer them to the training module you had to do." ~ Pascalle112
"NTA - do you work for an energy company or something?"
"I'm probably not representative of the general population because I work mostly with folks that have significant formal education."
"But this would not be a controversial statement at any job I've had (US based)." ~ bravenewchurl
"NTA, and document your disagreement with the need for the extra training, that climate change is a political issue, and that your co-worker brought up the issue initially."
"Then get another job and post a review on GlassDoor." ~ WokeJabber
"As an American, a person who has lived in Texas for 15 years and also lived in a lot of red states all I can say is welcome to America."
"I'd like to think I have a worldly view as I was born in Germany and also lived in Norway for a long time ( my dad was in the army)."
"And I've just learned to not talk about politics."
"Even climate change."
"I can't even discuss it with my parents with my own father calling me names and getting into a huge argument."
"I don't know what has happened in this country (one could argue the world) but everything has become so polarized."
"It's a shame." ~ someGuy6241
"NTA and that's crap."
"The existence of climate change is not a political debate it's scientific fact."
"Had you gone on a tangent about the governments response to climate change I could see an issue as that's political."
"But simply brining up the fact that it's happening should not have warranted any response from your HR." ~ Rough-Parsnip2594
"NTA. You'd think people who live in Texas- which has in the past year and a half- had such extreme and up until now unheard of cold that their grid failed and people died AND such extreme heat that they were worried about their grid failing and people died- would understand from experience that climate change is very real." ~ MissMagic1112
Well OP... welcome to America.
Reddit is sorry for your situation.
It doesn't sound like you were doing anything but having polite conversation.
Hopefully you can find a way to navigate the fragile waters.
Good luck.















Humiliated Redditor Ditches Friend's Birthday After She Publicly Mocks Them In Front Of Everyone
Fake people tend to show their true colors during pivotal moments, like weddings and major celebrations.
But when they want an audience to hurt someone else, it takes total sense that they would be called out in front of everyone, as agreed by members of the "Am I Overreacting?" (AIO) subreddit.
Redditor HollyyGinger went to their close friend's birthday party, expecting to have a good time and celebrate their loved one's special day.
But when their close friend made several mocking comments about them, and the party laughed along with them, the Original Poster (OP) took that as an indication of the state of their friendship and left the birthday party early.
They asked the sub:
The OP was excited to celebrate their close friend's birthday.
"One of my close friends had a birthday dinner last weekend, and I was genuinely excited to go."
"I helped her organize a few things beforehand, bought her a gift, and even rearranged some plans because I wanted to be there for her."
But the birthday dinner did not go at all how the OP expected.
"During dinner, though, she started making little jokes about me in front of everyone."
"At first, I laughed along because I didn't want to make things awkward on her birthday."
"But she kept going. She joked about dating life, brought up an embarrassing story I had told her privately, and made another comment about how I'm ''way too sensitive' sometimes."
"People were laughing, and I tried to act like it didn't bother me, but honestly, I felt pretty humiliated."
The OP tried to ask their friend to change the direction of the rest of the party.
"I quietly asked her when we were alone if she could stop making me the joke of the evening."
"She rolled her eyes and said I was taking everything too seriously and that everyone knew she was joking."
"I went back to the table for a while because I really didn't want to ruin her birthday."
"But then she made another joke about me, so I decided I'd had enough. I congratulated her again, said goodbye to everyone, and went home without making a scene."
The OP's friend tried to blame them for how the evening turned out.
"The next morning, she texted me, saying she was hurt that I left early and that several people noticed."
"She said that I made her feel like she had done something horrible when she was 'just having fun.' But her having fun was more of a public embarrassment to me."
"Now I feel guilty, because it was her birthday, and maybe I could have just ignored it for another hour or two."
"I wasn't trying to punish her or make the night about me. I just didn't want to sit there smiling while someone I trusted kept embarrassing me after I had specifically asked her to stop."
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
Some reassured the OP that she didn't have to stay at a party where she didn't feel welcome.
"She was having fun. You were not having fun."
"You’re not overreacting. You told her it was hurting you, and she kept doing it because hurting you was entertaining for her. She is not a good friend." - Dunquinn-
"I remember when I was really little, a bunch of adults were laughing at me as I cried."
"I cried to my mom, 'Stop laughing at me,' to which she replied, 'We aren’t laughing at you; we're laughing with you,' while giggling."
"My response was something I stand by to this day: 'Then why am I the only one crying?!'"
"It’s only funny if the person who’s being teased is laughing too. You weren’t laughing. It wasn’t funny; it was cruel. NOR." - XSmartypants
"She’s a bully. It wasn’t 'more like 'it was publicly embarrassing. It WAS publicly embarrassing."
"Then she tells you that SHE is embarrassed because YOU left early. That's bulls**t."
"NOR. Drop her." - WTH_JFG
"NOR. They make jokes about someone's privacy to humiliate that person. Anyone who would use info that was shared in confidence to get a laugh is an abuser. You don't do that, especially to a close friend, without the intent to hurt that person." - BungenessKrabb
"Would it have been fun if you did the same? Start telling her darkest secrets?"
"She made you into a punchline for other people’s entertainment."
"You told her to stop, and she didn’t; now she’s the victim?"
"NOR."
"But also, some people need to feel it to believe it. I hope you go to the next gathering with a few stories of your own and don’t let her rewrite the narrative." - beached_not_broken
"I’ve had it happen by my 'best friend' at the time, only it was in a professional setting event. Very personal details only she knew, all spilled for her amusement, embarrassing me in front of colleagues."
"NOR, OP. As you did, I left the gathering earlier than expected. My 'friend' called the next day asking why I left so early. I told her what she had said and done and how humiliated I felt."
"Her 'apology' was that flippant version that shows no remorse, like, 'Well, I’m sorry you feel that way.'"
"Over the subsequent years, she managed to alienate and burn bridges with most of those same people we were gathered with."
"I’m sorry this happened to you, OP. Anyone who thinks you were 'too sensitive' has no empathy and 'friends' like that don’t deserve your time." - Hungry_Tank9182
"NOR. She was being a jerk to you, and she was expecting you to just take it and not say anything or defend yourself."
"Because they think it's sooo funny to mock others, but I bet if the roles were reversed, she would be offended and upset."
"Honestly, you deserve better friends. I'm sorry you had to deal with this."
"I would've left and blocked her." - Cryslove
Others urged the OP to stop thinking about the event and let that friendship go.
"That was the point of her fun! Humiliating you with an audience!"
"Sharing something deeply personal, told in confidence? Immediate dealbreaker."
"She is not (and likely never was) your friend. Friends do not treat friends with such disrespect. Block her, and go no contact. She brings nothing good to your life, and she’s not worthy of your energy and time."
"NOR." - MizPeachyKeen
"It’s called bullying. She is not your friend. Friends don’t humiliate their true friends, or tell them 'they are too sensitive.'"
"That is what bullies do. She keeps you around to put you down and make herself look or feel better."
"Her actions, attitude, and behavior are those of an immature high schooler. She could actually be jealous of you and not want one or all of the following: you to succeed, have more friends, feel better about yourself, look better, etc."
"Please slowly distance yourself, find new hobbies and activities with more mature, well-rounded, healthy people." - Freeling_Fab_U_lous
"How DARE you spoil her fun; didn't you know that part of your gift was letting her make you the butt of her jokes? (sarcastic comment)"
"What an awful person. No one should need to put others down to raise themselves up. She doesn't deserve the title of friend, to be honest. You showed much more grace than I would have managed." - tphatmcgee
"She was using you as her punching bag to make the others attending laugh. Probably thinking you’d just take it. That’s not a good friend. NOR." - Additional-Start9455
"'Someone I trusted kept embarrassing me after I asked them to stop.' NOR."
"First, you shouldn't have had to ask her to stop because a friend wouldn't have started in the first place. One of her 'jokes' was about you being sensitive, so she knew you didn't like it and did it anyway."
"Second, you asked her privately to stop, because you didn't want to embarrass her. Think about that. You didn't want to embarrass her. But she couldn't show you the same consideration, even after being asked to stop."
"That's not how I treat my friends, and I suspect that's not how you treat your friends, either." - calminthedark
"I would have answered her text that she's a s**tty friend and to f**k off. You have class."
"I probably would have made a comment at dinner that I asked her to stop with the insults."
"NOR. You did everything right." - Particular-King218
The subReddit was disappointed on the OP's behalf that a friendship they were so committed to, they were excited to celebrate their friend's birthday and even helped plan the event, came apart at their expense, and on very public terms.
If the friend didn't want to be "embarrassed," maybe she should have thought about how she was embarrassing others first.