Couples deserve to have the wedding of their dreams, as long as it fits their budget.
Unfortunately, having lavish wedding plans came at an emotional cost for one family.
Redditor [deleted] is an engaged 28-year-old male who has a 25-year-old sister, also engaged.
When the siblings shared wedding plans with their parents on Zoom, the teleconference session did not evoke warm, sunny feelings.
The Original Poster (OP) visited the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA for having an expensive wedding?”
The OP began the post stating this was a throwaway.
“My fiancée (27 female) and I have been dating for about 4 years now, and I proposed last month. We immediately started wedding planning, as we know due to the pandemic we can’t do anything else.”
“we also have bought a nice house (already finished the down payment), so marriage is the next step. We deduced that the date has been set for September 2021 and the venue will be able to support our large number of guests.”
“It is also one of the premiere marriage locations.”
“My sister is also engaged to her fiancé. On a zoom call with our parents we were both discussing our weddings. I told them our proposed location and my parents immediately started gushing and my sister thought it was a joke.”
“She has heard of the place and it’s insanely expensive. I told her no it was not a joke and it’s really the place. She asked what our budget for the wedding was and we told her 75k.”
“She immediately began crying. My sister always wanted a grand wedding, but she works as kindergarten teacher and her husband is an elementary school teacher. Their gross income is roughly 60k a year.”
“My wife’s parents are quite well to do, and she herself is a Lawyer and I’m a Computer Scientist in Apple and our gross income is well over 500k a year.”
“The rest of the call was awkward as my parents were trying to console her. As of now her wedding budget is 5k and my parents (who don’t have a lot of money) are trying to give her some money.”
“I tried telling her backyard wedding’s are also great but she got furious at me. After the call my sister messaged me if I was willing to give her money for the wedding.”
“I told her I would match her 5k, nothing more. She got upset and told me if it’s just for the memory we can also have a backyard wedding.”
“At this stage I was fed up and told her if she wanted a grand wedding she should have married someone with money or make more herself. She didn’t take this well.”
“Our parents are neutral but I feel that they think I am in the wrong. So AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors weighed in with their mixed feelings.
“YTA for what you said to your sister about marrying someone with more money. Not an a**hole for having an expensive wedding or not helping her, although you clearly are able to.”