“Sex work is work” is a saying that is becoming increasingly common to see and hear in the digital age when people are finding safe ways to make money online, such as OnlyFans.
But such endeavors require a camera of some kind and a place to take photos or film content.
So what happens when an online sex worker is a houseguest?
A Redditor with a houseguest who wanted to use their home as a studio during the day turned to the “Am I The A**Hole” (AITAH) subReddit for feedback. Similar to AITA, this subReddit allows a broader range of topics and asking for advice. It doesn’t include official voting acronyms or a final judgment.
Butterbean6057 asked:
“AITAH for telling my best friend she can’t do her adult content at my house?”
The original poster (OP) explained:
“My best friend was recently kicked out of where she was living and asked if she could stay with me in this emergency situation as she had nowhere else to go right now.”
“I instantly said yes. We moved all her furniture and bigger things into a storage unit, and she brought a few suitcases to my place.”
“I’ll be honest, at the time, I really wasn’t thinking about her work situation. I knew her job was OnlyFans; that’s what she did for a living; that’s how she made her money, and I’ve never judged her for it.”
“However, the following day, after the evening she moved in, I took my daughter to school and came home to do my own work (I work from home). She wandered into my kitchen at like noon and told me she had some videos she needed to make.”
“I instantly knew what she meant by that, and I said, ‘Well… I mean… Are you going to be quiet during these videos?’ She laughed and said, ‘No, but you’re my best friend so I don’t mind if you hear me’.”
“To which I responded with, ‘I mind if I hear you. I’m not gonna lie; I don’t feel comfortable with you making those videos in my house. You can take your pics and stuff though, granted you don’t do it while my daughter is home’.”
“She got a little snippy and upset with me and told me that making custom request videos was how she made the majority of her money, and she had a bunch of requests that she needed to do.”
“I told her again that I didn’t feel comfortable with that specifically. She told me to wear headphones.”
“I said, ‘I DO wear headphones because I have pretty much constant work calls through my day, and I can’t have you moaning and screaming in the background’.”
“I ended up saying, ‘If you can be QUIET, then you can film while I’m here working, and again, as long as you’re not doing it when my daughter is home’.”
“She told me she won’t be able to be quiet because that’s not what they (her clients) want. So I told her, ‘I’m sorry, girl, no. I can’t have that.'”
“She’s now a little pissed off at me because I’m basically stopping her from making decent coin while she’ll be staying with me until she finds a new place and she has nowhere else to go to do it.”
“I feel bad, but I think my feelings and reasons are justified.”
“AITAH?”
The OP later added:
“Just to answer the majority who have mentioned she got a hotel room, she claims a hotel would kick her out and that she really didn’t think I would care about her doing it here as long as she didn’t do it when my child is here.”
“I genuinely thought because she does make decent money from it and had money in the bank, she just wouldn’t do it in the short term time that she’ll be here at my place. She is actively looking for a new place to rent. She’s not going to be here long term.”
“It was just an emergency situation, and she knew I had a spare room in my house she could stay in, so I said yes because she’s a very good, close friend of mine.”
“I’d like to point out that outside of her OnlyFans content, she dresses modestly and doesn’t act like a whore’. So I don’t mind her being around my child.”
“She’s known my daughter since I had her 7 years ago. My daughter is not exposed to anything inappropriate around her. Just wanted to mention that.”
“Another point to mention, this isn’t a case of her bringing people here to f*ck them!”
“She’s just making videos for them, but those videos include a variety of things where she will obviously not be quiet. And I just don’t wanna have to hear it, to be honest, especially not while I’m on work calls!”
“Also, the reason she was kicked out of her last place was actually nothing to do with her sex work, but it’s also not relevant to my post, so I won’t be discussing it here.”
Some Redditors weighed in using the AITA voting acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was justified in their response (NTA).
“NTA, she needed help, and you are helping her. She’s disrespecting your house rules. If she makes so much ‘coin’ doing it, she can easily get a hotel room.” ~ bitty20
“Exactly! Helping her out doesn’t mean she gets to ignore boundaries. If she’s making good money, she should be able to figure out a solution that doesn’t involve disrupting your home life.” ~ MusicianEmpty2012
“Bingo. OP NTA! OP, it’s your home. Not your friend’s.”
“In my opinion, if she can’t abide by your rules, especially with the fact you have a daughter that you have rules, boundaries, and a standard to teach and hold up for her, she can hit the road with all of her belongings.”
“Call her an UBER to the nearest hotel/motel and let her make her money there. Maybe she can fund another friendship to kill/destroy.” ~ WiseConfidence8818
“She needs to check into a cheap motel and do her content. She can afford it.” ~ Zestyclose_General87
“Ummmmmm, she is being snippy with YOU, in YOUR house, about rules around YOU & YOUR CHILD? Sorry, uh, NO!”
“She didn’t figure her sh*t out before she assumed you wouldn’t mind, again, in YOUR house. Her life choices are not your problem.”
“As someone else commented, Airbnb. If that doesn’t work, then some motel probably won’t mind her screaming while she works.”
“I understand that she is your friend, but it looks like you value the friendship more than she does. Otherwise, she wouldn’t put you in this situation.”
“She needs to go ASAP. Like tomorrow. She’s a big girl. She’ll figure it out. The ONLY person you owe a damn thing to is your child.” ~ Boring-Concept-2058
“She is being snippy because she’s not getting her way and trying to manipulate you into letting her do her ‘thang’ anyway.”
“You care because this is in your home/place of work and how you make a living. And, most importantly, where you are raising a child.
“This woman’s sense of entitlement while being in your home is astounding!” ~ Specialkendra
“That’s the awesome thing about it being your house, you don’t need to justify your reasons because it’s your house. I don’t let people chew gum in my house, if they don’t like it they can GTFO, no explanations involved.” ~ jackandsally060609
“You take her in, help her out in a dire situation. But she can’t show your house and you basic respect? Selfish.”
“You know what I’ve learned through experience, what with always being the non-judgemental kind? Sometimes people are judged for a reason—because they lack values and morals and show aberrant behavior.”
“It shouldn’t surprise you she doesn’t understand your values or boundaries and that she does not care how that makes you feel even after you expressed it.”
“I’m sorry she is being such a poor friend to you. She sounds wholly self-absorbed and like she doesn’t care about you as you do her.”
“She can’t even show you basic respect and acts like a petulant child when she can’t get her way.”
“I’m not surprised, though. You shouldn’t be either. Don’t give people credit until they earn it.” ~ InnerSight3
“You offered her a place to sleep, not an office. It’s weird she would even expect that it would be okay. People are out of touch these days.” ~ MowEmSayin_
“You care because during the day, your home is your office, and it would be inappropriate to have sexy-type noises in the background of your work calls or even just distracting you—no way should you be ‘locked into’ wearing headphones 100% of the time during the day.”
“This is one for ‘Choosing Beggars.'”
“She can find someone who works in an office and borrow their place during the day to shake her money maker.” ~ Constant_Host_3212
The OP provided an update:
“She finally listened and booked a hotel room for the night. Just so she can go and get these requests that she has built up DONE.”
“She’s let her subscribers and clients know that she’s not going to be taking requests until she’s settled in a new place.”
“She’s also just told me that she thinks she found a new place to rent. And she’s now starting the process of that.”
“Problem solved.”
Well, it sounds like it’s happy endings for everyone.