Nobody ever enjoys commenting on another person’s driving abilities. We prefer to sit tight, talk about other things, and not be nitpicky.
But what if the person’s driving is actually an issue?
One woman on Reddit found herself toeing that line recently with her boyfriend. She shared the ordeal in a post to the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit.
The Original Poster (OP), known as pringlesbandit on the site, shared how far things got with the post’s title.
“AITA for telling my boyfriend it’s his fault he got into an accident?”
OP kicked off with a description of her boyfriend’s driving habits.
“My boyfriend is a very aggressive driver. Whenever we’re on the road he’s always bragging about how he’s able to outmaneuver the traffic ahead and just how does he achieve this?”
“By driving very erratically and cutting in front of other drivers or swerving across four lanes at once without signaling or taking random, unnecessary, bumpy ‘shortcut’ roads that save 2 minutes at most.”
“There’s been so many close calls especially at night that I prefer to just shut my eyes and grip the door handle for most of the journey because his driving makes me so anxious.”
OP did, however, confirm one thing.
“It’s worth noting that he doesn’t necessarily speed so the close calls would have been minor scrapes due to him cutting in people’s lanes if they had happened.”
“So he’s not putting our lives in danger, just the car at risk of some very avoidable fender benders.”
Nevertheless, she let her boyfriend know how she felt about it all.
“I’ve complained about it so many times and he says that the way he drives is necessary because there’s always crazy traffic so it’s either drive like that or crawl.”
Then came the night in question.
“So tonight he was driving and there was some traffic as usual but our turn was coming up on the right so I expected him to just wait in the lane we were in…”
“…instead he swerved across a few lanes just to inch a little further a little quicker and then swerved back into the lane we were supposed to be in to make the turn, all in the space of a few minutes.”
“While doing this another car bumped into him and chipped the paint on his car but there was no dent.”
He wanted some backup.
“He was livid and blaming the driver but the driver wasn’t having it since he was clearly at fault.”
“He expected me to back him up but I didn’t say a word the whole time because I was very irritated myself.”
“I had told him to just be patient but as usual he didn’t listen.”
But OP stayed firm.
“I waited in the car while he settled with the other driver and when he got back he was upset with me for not having his back.”
“I told him that the other driver wasn’t at fault and he should have just waited.”
“He said that the only reason we were out tonight was because I wanted to pick something up so I was being extremely ungrateful since he was doing me a favor and this wouldn’t have happened if we weren’t on the road tonight because of me.”
“To which I said, ‘It wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t driving like a fu**ing lunatic’ “
“We rode back home in silence and he hasn’t spoken to me since. AITA?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Many Redditors assured OP she was not the a**hole in this situation.
“NTA. Classic example of road rage right there. Not to mention the sheer irresponsibility on his part. Maturity of an actual child right there. Your boyfriend is clearly not ready for the roads.” — CEO_Of_Rejection_99
“NTA-He sounds like he shouldn’t even be allowed on the road. Also, the whole ‘the only reason we are out here is you’ thing is fu**ed up. That’s straight up emotional manipulation.”
“Trying to guilt trip you into taking responsibility for something that’s his fault.’ ” — MusicLikeOxygen
“NTA. Living in LA I’m getting REAL tired of people like your boyfriend.” — NotHisRealName
Some advocated she take a more permanent step.
“NTA And this is road rage, his aggression going to get someone else, you or himself killed.”
“get rid of him, he knows he has an issue and he doesn’t care, the fact he damaged his paint job, by cutting through lanes could have been a serious accident and that he blamed you for being on the road tonight. so he’s blaming you for this and the other guy instead of looking in the mirror”
“you need to dump him and do it now” — AngelIslington
“NTA the audacity of this guy to blame you! Talk about someone who can’t take responsibility for his stupidity. I wouldn’t get in a car with this guy again; you could get hurt” — OatmealCookieGirl
Other people agreed that OP’s boyfriend’s driving was unacceptable. But they didn’t let OP off the hook.
” ‘He isn’t putting lives in danger’ “
“He absolutely fu**ing is. He’s putting the lives of every single person on the road, including pedestrians on the sidewalk, in danger.” — DontTakeMyNoise
“NTA for not backing him. YTA for attempting justify & minimize his dangerous & deadly actions.”
“HE WILL KILL OR SEVERELY INJURE ANOTHER PERSON OR HIMSELF, DESTROYING THEM & THEIR FAMILY’S LIVES.”
“He doesn’t need to exceed the speed limit to kill someone else, himself, or you. Someone will die eventually. It’s just luck no one has yet.” — itscoldouttherebrrr
‘YTA for thinking his driving is only ‘risking a fender bender’ “
“He is putting your life, his life, and every single other person on the road/sidewalk in danger when he drives like this. Even driving the speed limit, in bad conditions, a bad patch of road, the wrong other driver?” — EngineeringOwn2299
“ESH, mostly him.”
“Him for obvious reasons – driving that dangerously will kill someone. You for just dealing with his aggressive, dangerous driving rather than making any attempt to change the behavior you so vividly describe as reckless and dangerous.”
“Why are you still dating this man? Honestly I think this behavior shows how much he respects you and cares for your safety.”
“If you do keep dating him, please never get in the car with him again.” — shrhlzbth731
If the Reddit feedback had any impact on OP whatsoever, we can expect her to find a different way around town in the future.