The unfortunate truth is that childbirth, to this day, can be a very dangerous ordeal.
Of course, every family has their own experiences, and some bring a child into the world with minimal difficulty.
But for one Redditor, it was a harrowing moment. And the birth itself turned out to be only part of the drama.
The Original Poster (OP), aptly named PoppaLoves on the site, shared his experience helping his wife navigate her struggle through birth in a post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit.
His title for the post clarified where the drama started.
“AITA for not letting anyone hold my son when he was born?”
OP began with the lead up to the ordeal.
“This happened pre-Covid but the fight started again about a month and a half ago.”
“My wife gave birth to our son November 2019. She had a very complicated pregnancy and ended up needing an emergency c-section which we were aware could happen.”
“We had talked about it for a while and she admitted hating the thought she would be the last to hold our son.”
So OP was very careful when the time came.
“So when he was born and she was still unconscious I did not allow anyone in our families to hold him, or even meet him really. They saw me but that was about it.”
“She was unconscious for four days but thankfully recovered and was able to meet and hold our son. It was about a day after everyone else got to meet and hold him for the first time.”
“Our families were upset but nothing really kicked off except for my mom and sister who were kinda pushy about it.”
But the drama didn’t end there.
“Then around January we had an incident.”
“My wife put up some photos of her holding our son for the first time and talked about how traumatic the birth had been and wanted to raise awareness of how dangerous pregnancy and birth can be and basically just saying how grateful she was to have them both be okay.”
“My mom and sister then really started acting like kids. Saying it wasn’t fair and we robbed them of those first few days with their grandson/nephew.”
Then a back and forth ensued.
“I told them plenty of people meet grandkids and nieces/nephews days or even weeks or months after birth and had this been Covid times it would not have happened for a lot longer.”
“But they said I was selfish and should not have done that just because my wife couldn’t meet or hold our baby.”
But OP was left feeling conflicted.
“I am only conflicted on this because someone else suggested I robbed my son of having more interaction early on and I should have thought of him over my wife’s feelings on the whole thing…”
“…and while most of me is screaming hell no, I wanted to see what a bunch of internet strangers would think.”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors were on OP’s side.