Imagine being in a bad enough situation that you ask someone else to take you in. They pay all the bills and make sure you’re not going without. Then another person needs help, and they take them in, too, and you get jealous.
The only catch is, now you’re jealous of an eleven-year-old girl finally having a chance at a stable home environment, cringed the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITAH) subReddit.
Redditor meVgfRedditacc took in his girlfriend when she couldn’t handle living with her parents anymore, and he later took in his eleven-year-old sister who needed a better home environment.
He became worried by how his girlfriend treated his little sister, but when she acted out by destroying his little sister’s things, the Original Poster (OP) knew the relationship was over.
He asked the sub:
“AITAH for calling my girlfriend childish and telling her to leave after she intentionally destroyed a gift that I got for my little sister?”
The OP recently took in, both, his girlfriend and his little sister.
“My girlfriend, Megan, and I stay together. She had a fight with her parents and asked if we could move in together so we did.”
“Not too long ago, I had to take my little sister in too. I can’t disclose much except the fact that I was her only option.”
“When we talked about me having to take my sister in, Megan did not like the idea. She told me that I was too young to have such a responsibility.”
“She asked what would happen when we got married and had our own kids, and she complained that our place was too small, etc., but she didn’t outright say she had an issue with it.”
“I obviously couldn’t turn my back on my sister, so I went ahead with taking her in despite Megan’s reservations.”
The OP was concerned by the way that his girlfriend didn’t connect with his little sister.
“Although my sister has always been friendly to Megan from the moment she met her, Megan is always just indifferent, and it sucks because my sister really admires her and enjoys talking to her.”
“I just thought maybe they didn’t connect because of my sister’s age.”
The OP decided to do something nice for his little sister.
“A month ago, I bought my sister a Nintendo Switch. She has always wanted one and all her friends have one.”
“I figured she deserved it as she does well at school, helps with chores,, and is generally a well-behaved kid.”
“She loved it and has been taking good care of it.”
“Megan wasn’t happy when I bought it. She actually sulked.”
Megan was clearly jealous, but the OP didn’t realize just how jealous she was.
“Megan would borrow the Switch incessantly, and my sister would not say no, maybe because she was afraid to, but Megan would use it so much that it felt like it belonged to her.”
“My sister never said anything; she would just patiently wait for her turn.”
“Sometimes Megan would use it even when my sister was at school, saying that she gets bored when I’m at work. She is unemployed, and I pay the rent, bills, and everything else.”
“All this made me uncomfortable, so I asked her to please tone down on the Switch as it was unfair to my sister, since it was her gift.”
“Megan agreed, although it was clear that she was upset. She gave us the silent treatment for the rest of the night.”
“Last week when I came home from picking up my sister from school after work, we found her Switch broken. And that’s putting it lightly, it looked like it was deliberately smashed.”
The OP lashed out at Megan.
“My sister was distraught. When I asked Megan what the f**k happened, she told us that she accidentally dropped it and it broke.”
“It was obvious that she was lying, and when I pointed that out and all the other times where she seemed to have an issue with an eleven-year-old for no reason.”
“She got annoyed and told me that everything was fine until my sister moved in.”
“I called her childish and asked her to please pack her bags and go back to her parents’ house because I needed space and time to think.”
“This only made her more annoyed, but she eventually left. Her best friend texted me last night to tell me that I was an a**hole for kicking Megan out because, on top of everything else, I know how rocky her relationship with her parents is.”
“Looking back now, she always used to tell me how she feels they are too controlling and always telling her what to do. U used to feel bad for her, but now I am convinced that she is the problem.”
“Does this make me an AH?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some were disturbed by Megan’s jealousy of an eleven-year-old girl.
“Jeez. So she didn’t mind YOU taking HER in and paying HER way, a grown-a** woman (allegedly) but she resents you doing the same for an ELEVEN-YEAR-OLD CHILD?”
“Ewww. NTA.” – Readsumthing
“Dude, you’re her ATM. She broke the Switch because she was p**sed that you were spending money on someone other than her… even though the ‘other woman’ was (check notes) an eleven-year-old girl who needed a home. What a leech.” – wakingdreamland
“If Megan is unemployed, ask yourself, ‘What does Megan bring to the relationship and your life’?”
“If Megan doesn’t pay rent, she should have little to zero input on who moves in (let alone if it’s the OP’s little sister).”
“Sounds like Megan is still a child. I mean… who destroys a gift for an 11-year-old? A bully?”
“NTA. I would value my own sister over a girlfriend who still acts like a bratty child.” – CaptCaffeine
“So, she’s been leeching off you and is p**sed now that she can’t leech as much? Dude, you have awful taste in women.”
“Tell her she pays for the Switch or you’ll out her on social media for destroying a child’s toy and file a small claim for damaged property and she can pay for the court fees plus the Switch.”
“She’s not smart enough to know that won’t go anywhere, but she’ll probably cough up something. Treat your sister to something nice that she wouldn’t be able to do/have while Megan was there and move on.” – Beth21286
“NTA. So you’re supporting your sister and another adult who acts like a child? She gets bored while you’re at work? Why isn’t she working?”
“Who cares what her friends think, she purposely broke a gift you bought for your sister. She can live with and be supported by these friends. Who does that? Why would you want to be with an immature, childish person?”
“She sulks and is jealous of a child. What does she bring to this relationship? You and your sister deserve better than her. I hope this is a wake-up call for you.” – Vandreeson
Others couldn’t understand how a person could mess up a good situation so badly.
“NTA. I wonder if her parents’ side of the story is different than the one you got from her. Because I bet she probably hates her parents telling her to go to college or to get a f**king job.”
“If she’s bored sitting at home, she could look for work to fill the time, or at least be kind.” – SilentJoe1986
“F**k, she could have done something fun like developed a hobby or focused on homemaker activities to contribute somehow. But that’s not sitting on your a** playing video games, so I’m sure that didn’t speak to her.”
“Seriously, if she was just kind and not aggressively lazy they probably all would’ve been very happy even if she stayed unemployed. She REALLY blew this entire situation.” – StarStuffSister
“She couldn’t pay ANY bills and did nothing at home but break gaming systems? All the more reason to kick her out. She didn’t contribute to the household, yet she was mean to your sister? She had a good thing with you and she blew it.”
“You are definitely NTA for kicking her out, but a little bit for letting her get away with being mean and controlling to your sister.”
“It’s too bad she doesn’t have a good situation with her parents. Boo Hoo. If she had a job and earned her own money she could get her own place. If she wants to be a mooching freeloader she has to deal with her parents because she blew it with you.” – libraryMouse4321
“She was p**sed because the OP told her to back off on the Switch and to let the person he bought it for play with it. She is the type of person with the mentality, ‘If I can’t play with it, no one can,’ and she smashed it to smithereens.”
“The girlfriend is very immature, vindictive, and indeed childish. You can probably throw in a dash of self-centeredness in there, too.”
“OP, in my opinion, NTA. Kicking her out might have just protected all objects that can’t and can move, not to mention your sister’s safe environment.” – East-Bee_7276
“I’m willing to bet that whatever story Megan told was very slanted to make her the victim and the parents evil. You hit the nail on the head!!”
“OP, I would be thanking your lucky stars that she is gone and not pregnant. With her level of spite and jealousy, I wouldn’t put anything past her.”
“And if you have your sister due to some kind of ‘foster parent’ situation, watch out. Megan is just the type to go above and beyond to hurt you, but definitely hurt your sister! Remember, ‘everything was fine before your sister moved in.’ Her kind of bitter can be poison.” – Boring-Concept-2058
After receiving feedback, the OP shared an update in a second post.
“I just wanted to write an update on what happened after I posted. When I kicked Megan out, I already knew that there was no way our relationship could continue.”
“After reading the comments on the post, I knew that I needed to officially end the relationship and not leave things hanging.”
“I only said to her I needed time to think because I wanted her to leave without a fuss, she had already caused enough trouble.”
“She just seems unstable, and I don’t want her around my sister anymore. My sister has been through enough, and she doesn’t need someone like that in her life, and neither do I, seeing the kind of person she is. Who would have an issue with an eleven-year-old girl who looks up to you and is just happy to be in a stable environment? And to go so far as to destroy something that she cherished and then lie about it?”
Megan continued to push to move back in, but the OP wasn’t having it.
“I hadn’t spoken to her since what happened because I was ignoring her texts. Some of them told me that she missed me and wanted to come back ‘home.'”
“I decided to text her to arrange a meeting. She told me to come over to her friend’s place because she only stayed a few days at her parents’ place.”
“When I got to her friend’s place, I told Megan that the relationship was not working out for me and it’s best that we break up. I said I didn’t see myself getting over the fact that she intentionally destroyed something that meant a lot to my sister over her irrational jealousy.”
“Not to mention that she never really opened up to my sister, which should have been enough for me to end the relationship then. My sister deserves to be around someone who is willing to form a relationship with her.”
“I had the rest of her stuff and proceeded to give them to her. She started crying and pleading, then accusing me of choosing my sister over her. She said I clearly never really loved her, and she knew that this would happen after my sister moved in.”
That gave the OP all the closure he needed.
“I told her that last statement was exactly why I was breaking up with her.”
“I also told her that she really needed to reimburse me the $300 for the Switch that she ‘accidentally’ dropped because my little sister is heartbroken over it and has been sad about it ever since.”
“She rolled her eyes and told me that she already said it was an accident and that it was not her problem anyway since I didn’t want to be with her anymore.”
“I didn’t feel like continuing to argue with her, so I told her to never contact me again and left.”
“When I got home, I blocked her everywhere. I am relieved that she is out of our lives, but I’m very disappointed in myself that it took something so drastic for me to see that Megan was not a good person.”
“I can’t take time off of work to pursue small claims court against her, and I cannot afford another brand new Switch right now, but I’ll be looking for a pre-loved one that I can give Emily, either as soon as possible or for Christmas.”
To say the subReddit was disgusted by Megan’s behavior toward the OP, who provided everything for her, and toward an eleven-year-old girl who was no threat to her at all would be an understatement.
Despite her pleading, they were relieved when the OP “chose” his sister over his girlfriend and did not later take his girlfriend back. He and his sister deserved a peaceful environment together, and it looked like they were getting that just in time for the holidays.