Religious views are always a touchy subject, especially when conversation turns to scientific or historical information that refutes some of someone’s core beliefs.
A guy on Reddit with a doctorate in history found himself in this sticky situation with a devoutly Christian new friend, and wasn’t sure he’d handled it correctly by sharing his historian’s perspective.
So, he went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for perspective. He’s since deleted his post, but not before it sparked a lively conversation.
The Original Poster (OP), who goes by Nordenfeldt on the site, asked:
“AITA for correcting a Christian?”
“One of my (M[ale] 37) oldest friends (F[emale] 36) has a new boyfriend. he seems like a decent guy, even loaned my 20$ for lunch once (Yes I paid it back). He is however, quite religious, while the rest of our friend group is not.”
“He is not overbearing about it, but he does refer to his faith and Christ an awful lot, just on the edge of what would be irritating. My friend has told us he doesnt mean anything by it, but thats just how he was raised and he doesnt think its abnormal, so we cut him some slack.”
“We were having drinks one evening, and talking about Roman history, as one does. Of note, I am a historian, with my doctorate from a top university. But I don’t work in the field of history, so it rarely comes up and I don’t make a big deal about it.”
“The conversation turned to sources of ancient Roman history and how a lot of the things we think we know are due to the biases of the classical historians, or their just transcribing oral traditions.”
“Our new friend spoke up and stated that at least we could trust the Gospels because they were written by eyewitnesses: the disciples of Jesus. notably we had not been talking about Christianity in particular. I corrected him, that none of the gospels were written by disciples, but by unnamed others long afterwards. I did so and what I thought was an entirely civil and conversational tone.”
“He immediately got very angry and loudly told us there was no one here who knew the Bible better than him and that he knew for a fact the four gospels were written by the four disciples of the same name. he then dared me to prove him wrong.”
“So I gave him the scriptural evidence, which is pretty absolute. I’m not going to get into the specific evidence here because I do not want this thread to turn into a polemic for or against the bible, or whatever: if people really care I can put it in the comments. Suffice to say the evidence is pretty incontrovertible, and out of the scripture itself.”
“I laid it out as politely and briefly as I could, and then (And here is where I probably drifted into AH territory), I just mentioned that, since nobody knows the scripture better than him, I’m surprised he didn’t know this already.”
“Anyway, he lost his poop, was screaming at me inches from my face about how I was a Communist, and a anti-Christian (again, not), and how he is always prosecuted no matter where he goes, and threw in a number of choice swear words and insults along the way. Then he stormed out screaming, got into his car, leaned on the horn for about 30 seconds, then drove away.”
“The clear consensus among my friends was that he was certainly on AH for his reaction, But the group was split as to whether I was also an AH for having corrected him on a topic clearly so close to his heart.”
“So, I throw myself open and ready for judgement from the collective wisdom, or at least collected comment section, of Reddit.”
“Was I the AH for correcting, and then demonstrating his wrongness, in front of the group?”