Being vegan and vegetarian is not the burden it once was.
We have come a very long way in options.
And we have come along way in understanding allergy severity.
So why do people still insist on messing around with the topic?
Case in point…
Redditor purpldingo wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for excusing myself to throw up when my boyfriend’s family gave me meat knowing I was vegan?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I’ve been vegan for 10 years and vegetarian for 3 before that.”
“One thing to know is that after not eating meat, a person can’t jump right back into eating a lot of it without some… seriously unpleasant digestive issues.”
“It has to be reintroduced slowly.”
“I found that out by chance when I actually got drunk at a bonfire party got confused between the vegetarian chili and meat chili, and spent the next day and a half fighting for my life on the toilet.”
“Or another time I had a stew with meat by accident, and it came out both ends at the same time.”
“That was fun to clean.”
“After these experiences I’ve decided that if I ever eat meat by accident again I’m just gonna have a quick puke because at least that’s better than a day or 2 of stomach issues.”
“So last week, I was visiting my boyfriend and his family.”
“And his parents and brother have always given me shit for being vegan.”
“They crack jokes about it all the time.”
“But this week they were kinda pleasant and on the last day said they’d made me a meatless family recipe.”
“This pasta with chunky red sauce with a bunch of veggies and stuff.”
“It was kinda weird tasting but I was polite about it when they asked and I said I liked it.”
“Then… his dad was like ‘Ha did you hear her, she said she liked it!'”
“And the whole family except my boyfriend and I were acting like it was some big joke.”
“Then his dad revealed it had ground beef in the sauce.”
“I was like ‘go**amnit’ internally because I had a 4 hour flight the next morning and I did not want to spend it blowing up the airplane bathroom.”
“So I was like ‘excuse me’ and walked to the bathroom.”
“His family was like ‘wtf.'”
“So as a bit of an answer to them I didn’t shut the door when I did what I was about to do, have a puke.”
“It was a little dramatic honestly but… I’d rather it come out once easily than unpleasantly on the plane or bus.”
“Especially because the bus has no bathrooms.”
“His family was getting mad at me for throwing up with the door open because my boyfriend’s brother’s kid daughter got grossed out and puked on the floor too.”
“I was pissed off but decided it was better to spend my energy just f**king off, so I was like ‘better out than in, right?'”
“I bounced and my boyfriend came with me.”
“Though he had been trying to talk to his family before I put my foot down and said I was out with or without him.”
“He is mad at his family for obvious reasons but he’s also kinda upset with me for how I handled stuff.”
“Feeling like making everyone hear and see me retch, not cleaning up the ‘splatter,’ and then heading out fairly wordlessly.”
“I was like ‘Nah I handled it fine, I wasn’t being dramatic, I didn’t wanna be blowing up the airplane toilet tomorrow. And the splatter?'”
“‘They’re damn lucky it wasn’t coming from the other end.'”
“At that point I started laughing at the idea which made my boyfriend madder.”
“He was saying that kinda vile stuff was f**ked up and I was like ‘chill it’s a joke.””
“He’s upset with me for that, I’m mad at his family, and I’m wondering…”
“Even though I’m vegan and it would cause digestive hell for me?”
“AITA for puking after my boyfriend’s family tricked me into eating meat?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It’s a tricky situation.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“NTA – boyfriend and his family suck.”
“They should count themselves lucky you didn’t puke directly on them.” ~ bravenewchurl
“These sound like the kind of people who’d think someone was making up an allergy and then put them in the ER when they decide to test their theory.”
“They literally poisoned you.”
“If your boyfriend is siding with them, then he’s just as bad as they are.”
“Dump all of them. NTA.” ~ cbm984
“I was on holiday once and ate something I knew would cause me to be really ill for a day or two by accident.”
“I immediately went back to my room, downed a lot of water and started jumping around to make myself sick because nothing else was working.”
“I still felt off the rest of the day, but definitely preferable to the alternative.”
“I’d be absolutely livid in OP’s situation.”
“I’ve had people accidentally include things I couldn’t have and they are always so apologetic and feel awful.”
“I can’t imagine anyone doing it deliberately, that’d be the last time I saw them.” ~ RaisingRoses
“These people hear about a couple people who fake or exaggerate allergies.”
“And decide that they’re so offended by the thought of being inconvenienced by or taken advantage of by a liar, they’d rather ignore everyone’s allergies and just go ahead and make it everyone else’s problem.”
“They’re so self-centered they won’t put themselves out unless they’re convinced that you’re telling the truth.”
“My cousin’s M[other] I[n] L[aw] actually decided that she must just be making things difficult by refusing to go to a seafood restaurant.”
“Her shellfish allergy is so severe that if she is in the same room where a lot of it has been cooking, she’ll start to react.”
“So the next time she had her over she hid shredded shrimp into their food.”
“And then my cousin went anaphylactic and nearly died in front of their two small children.”
“She was horrified to see the actual reaction, and apologized over and over.”
“Saying that she thought my cousin was just being picky.”
“And she didn’t want to miss out on taking her grandkids to her favorite restaurant.”
“But my cousin basically said she’d never be around her again and she’d never trust her kids around her.”
“My cousin and her husband are now no contact with his mom.” ~ AliceInWeirdoland
“NTA, you don’t have the enzymes anymore to process meat.”
“If they looked into it themselves, they would have realized that.”
“They are AH for pulling that on you to one up you.” ~ Hungry-Industry-9817
“NTA. On one hand, not cleaning up the splatter is a little inconsiderate.”
“However…. I love cheese.”
“But I’m become so lactose intolerant that any dairy will give me 6-36 hrs of horrible trips to bathroom.”
“If someone slipped me dairy on purpose I would be furious.”
“I would wish all the terror escaping my body to happen in their home.”
“If I’m going to suffer, then you will too!”
“Who gives a s**t about you vomiting- they made their decision and they get to live with the consequences.” ~ HouseofFeathers
“NTA. Food tampering is an awful thing to do and in some places it’s illegal.”
“If you’d intentionally puked at the table in front of them to make a point then I’d still be on your side.” ~ CrystalQueen3000
“NTA, they intentionally gave you meat.”
‘You aren’t forcing your lifestyle onto them, they’re forcing theirs onto you.” ~ Imaginary_Being1949
“Vegetarian for ~12 years now, largely plant based these days.”
“And I can assure you that even in my fairly progressive area, I’ve met far more meat-eating people who object to me not eating animal products than vegans who object to me eating dairy/eggs/honey.”
“Edit: It’s like they need to make someone else’s dietary choices about them.”
“How dare you imply my food is wrong by not eating it?!”
“These people sound like the type to feed pork to practicing Muslim or Jewish people.”
“‘It’s a joke’ is the worst excuse for such blatant disrespect.” ~ Motor_Crow4482
“NTA. I have a vegan friend this happened to who simply got up and put her finger down her throat right there at the table.”
“Once done simply went: ‘and that’s what I think of your joke’ and left.”
“Her M[other] I[n] L[aw] hates her, her F[ather] I[n] L[aw] can never eat lasagna again and her S[ister] I[n] L[aw]’s and B[rother] I[n] L[aw]’s all love her.” ~ blablamcbla
“NTA. That is beyond horrible what the family did to you.”
“They would have made you very sick just to be AHs.”
“Your reaction was great and honestly hilarious.”
“Even if they don’t agree with or understand being vegan, tricking someone to eat something they do not want to is not okay.”
“It might be illegal but I think that is only for vendors.”
“But anyways good on you for doing that!” ~ sneaky_sheeps
Well OP, Reddit understands your fury and your response.
You did what you had to do.
Might be time to have a serious chat with the BF about the state of this relationship.
Stay Healthy.