This whole influencer craze doesn’t seem to be slowing down anytime soon.
It feels like influencers and social media mavens are heading towards world domination.
But have they found a work life/home life balance?
Which is a priority?
Is it even possible?
That question comes up sooner than you think.
Case in point…
Redditor throwrabounder wanted to discuss her story for some feedback. So naturally she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
“AITA for telling my cousin to give her daughter her own bedroom?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I (25 F[emale]) have a cousin (34 F) ‘Rose’ who is a small-time influencer on Instagram.”
“She has over ten thousand followers for her fashion, lifestyle, and artistic posts where she usually poses in photoshoots.”
“This is not her main source of income, but a hobby she does in her spare time.”
“Three years ago, Rose gave birth to my niece ‘Daisy’ (3 F) who she adores and they currently co-sleep in the same room.”
Rose currently lives in a nice two bedroom home, where the second bedroom had been converted into her ‘Instagram photoshoot room’ where she takes her pictures and stuff.”
“Last week, when I visited her home, I asked her when Daisy would be moving into the second bedroom so that she could get her own space.”
“Rose laughed at me, and said that Daisy would sleep in her and her husband’s room forever because the second bedroom is reserved for HER Instagram room.”
“I told her that maybe this would pose to be an issue because as Daisy grows up, she might need her own space to grow.”
“And might need a place for her own private thoughts.”
“Rose then told me that if she gave up her Instagram room then her influencer life would be over.”
“And said I should just mind my own business as Daisy is not my child.”
“She and her husband are currently trying for baby #2 and I feel really bad for Daisy as she’s gonna have to be squished in a bed with her mom, dad, and a brand new baby.”
“But maybe I did overstep, am I being one of those people who tell others how to raise their kids?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It’s a tricky situation.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“Assuming you told her once, then NTA. But just once. “
“And be friends with Daisy.”
“As she grows up, she’s going to need someone to confide in.” ~ b1lllevansatmariposa
“Seems like Daisy’s going to sleep at your place more than at their parents place when she gets older if this will be their forever plan.”
“I know it’s not your responsibility and if you don’t want to it’s fine as well.”
“But I hope you’ll always have a spare room or even just a sleeping couch at your place for her.”
“And I also hope for Daisy that she’s not going to end like her mother being Instagram crazy.” ~ Titariia
“NTA. Wonder how her followers would feel if they know her child doesn’t have a bedroom becasue she prioritizes social media.” ~ Admirable_Leave9961
“And also, your cousin and hubby are trying for baby #2, and their daughter is co-sleeping?”
“That’s a no no!!”
“NTA you gave her a logical common sense advice, because you care about your niece.”
“What she does is up to her, but it is so sad she makes her daughter grow this way.” ~ Anitena
“NAH she still wouldn’t be TA even if she brought it up more.”
“Cousins being shi**y and people need to bring it up.” ~ creggomyeggo
“‘Am I being one of those people who tell others how to raise their kids?””
“No, you’re being one of those people who have common sense!”
“I don’t think you overstepped at all, hopefully you gave her some points to think about, they could be things she hadn’t even considered.”
“I cant see for a minute why you’d need a whole room to do IG posts or why her IG life would be over without it, thats ridiculous! NTA.” ~ CrunchyCookies51
OP wanted to give us some deets…
“Her IG room is basically a big white room with props and a set with lights.”
“Nobody is really allowed in there except for her and her photographer (hubby).”
“And occasionally she will rope in Daisy for a mommy/baby shoot that’ll take an entire day when the kid just wants to play.”
“I’ve also tried telling her to maybe let Daisy participate for half a day or something because she’s still a little kid but Rose got mad at me again for butting into her parenting lmao.”
“NTA. You have concerns about a potential abusive behavior.”
“Also, if she makes a living of it, I could understand this situation going on until the child is older.”
“But if they don’t have the funds to afford room for everyone, they shouldn’t in any shape or form be getting a second child.” ~ MamaKilla20
“NTA. So let me just get it clear, your cousin is actively trying for a baby while her 3 years old sleeps nearby, if not in the same bed, all while having a whole room for a hobby?” ~ tatasz
“NTA and YES I was also thinking about that! I hope they become more sensible soon.”
“And I don’t think it was overstepping at all.” ~ tangledoctopuss
“NTA. While it might be appropriate for Daisy to sleep in the parents room as a young child.”
“That cannot last forever, especially if another baby is going to be in the mix.”
“Being forced to wake up because the baby is crying at night will do damage to Daisy.” ~ 520throwaway
NTA. Wonder how her followers would feel if they know her child doesn’t have a bedroom cuz she prioritizes social media.”
“That’s embarrassing as hell.” ~ cultqueennn
“You did not overstep at all what so ever.”
“Personally I believe them raising her like this will cause her mental troubles in the future for example being scared to be alone in the dark after like 10.”
“That baby needs her own room and they need to move to somewhere bigger before they have another kid.”
“Also your cousin needs to understand once you have kids your spare time isn’t about you anymore its about your children.” ~ GladInvestigator5223
“NTA. According to C[hildren] P[rotection] S[pecial], an adult should not share a bedroom with their kids unless they are an infant.”
“A bedroom should generally also not have more than 2 people; especially siblings over 5 of opposite genders.”
“It might seem drastic to call CPS, but your sister is creating an unhealthy living situation for her kid(s).”
“I’m shocked she’s planning to have another one with no where to house said baby.”
“Your niece will have no rest with a newborn waking every few hours and crying.”
“CPS Housing Laws” ~ Nyankitty666
“NTA. Rose is being selfish and self involved.”
“Daisy does in fact need space, especially if baby 2 actually arrives.”
“It’s not appropriate for her to be sleeping in the same bed as her parents ‘forever.'”
“You didn’t overstep in pointing that out.”
“Mama needed a reality check.” ~ CrystalQueen3000
“NTA. It was definitely worth saying because in a few years if they have kid number 2 and possibly even 3.”
“They are gonna run out of room in their bedroom and their kids will want privacy when they are teens.”
“It works right now because Daisy is 3.”
“But her kids will not all want to live in Mummy and Daddy’s room forever.”
“Honestly, some kids stay in their parent’s room until twice this age or a bit older so it isn’t particularly worrying right now so it is best to let it go for now.”
“Having a second child might prompt them to make the change on their own quite honestly.”
“Because a screaming baby with a 4-5 year old that is sharing the same room?”
“Yeah, I’m sure that will go perfectly.” ~ EnergyThat1518
“NTA and honestly this sounds like something that’s going to be a real issue if they do have a second child.”
“They won’t be able to cram their children in one bedroom and keep mommy’s special attention room a secret once the kids talk at school.” ~ OwlT1me
“NTA. You gave your opinion and stopped when she told you to mind her own business.”
“It sucks for the kid but you can’t help your cousin being a selfish and shi**y parent.” ~ Primary-Criticism929
OP wanted to address some things…
“Rose has a high paying job in digital marketing and this influencer thing is just a side hobby for her as far as I know.”
“Her hubby is old money wealthy so they can do whatever they want.”
“She doesn’t wanna purchase a bigger home because they got a place in a big gated community and they’d rather live in a 2 bedroom there than in a 3 bedroom elsewhere.”
“She doesn’t really make money, I don’t see many paid partnerships, she pays to have her Instagram advertised everywhere though.”
“I only brought up the bedroom thing once because Rose got really annoyed and I didn’t wanna press further.”
“I’ll do my best to be there for my niece, thanks for the advice.”
Well OP, most people are with you.
You gave an honest and concerned opinion.
Which you are allowed to do, especially with family.
But sounds like you’ll just have to sit back and watch this scenario play out.
Good luck to you, Daisy and baby #2.