There is a growing concern about the rising dependence on AI.
Leaving many people all over the world infuriated by it continuing to take away jobs, as well as the environmental damage it causes.
That doesn't stop countless people from using it, however.
With some relying on it a bit more than others.
The boyfriend of Redditor Civil_Attempt_5 was among those who relied heavily on AI.
A bit too heavily in the eyes of the original poster (OP).
Unfortunately, when they confronted their boyfriend about this, he did not appreciate it one bit.
Wondering if they overreacted, the OP took to the subReddit "Am I The A**hole" (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
"AITA? I snapped at my boyfriend for reading google AI answers to me."
The OP explained why they felt the need to call out their boyfriend's reliance on AI:
"I was driving and we were talking and I asked my BF to look up a number and he gave it."
"Then I asked him too look up another number and he said how interesting this is the same number."
"Then I asked: 'are you reading the google AI answers without looking up the real data'?"
"He said everyone does."
"Then I snapped and sniped: don’t read that to me."
"This is a thing we’ve had a discussion about before."
"I hate google AI."
"It’s so often wrong, it disseminates bullsh*t data."
"And once information goes into the brain it can’t go out."
"And before you know it’s just another fact in your brain and you’re a dumb clown navigating the world with hallucinated fake knowledge."
'I said to him I beg you don’t read it."
"Ignore."
"Please ignore."
"I begged."
"Now I snapped."
"Don ‘t read it to me."
"Then he yelled for 10 minutes that it was aggressive, that I can’t tell him what to do, that everyone reads it, that I’m going to lose all my friends if I behave like this."
"That I single handedly ruined the whole night together."
"I don’t think I’ve ever seen him freak out so much and he went the ‘look what you are making me into’ route."
"I don’t want him to read Google AI to me."
"I f*cking hate google AI."
"I said it twice more: I don’t want to hear or read any bullsh*t from Google AI, I’m trying to protect my brain."
"AITA?"
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You're The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**Hole for snapping at their boyfriend.
Everyone agreed that not only did the OP's boyfriend need a reality check, but if anyone "snapped" in this scenario, it was him, and not the OP. This led some to urge the OP to seriously consider whether staying in this relationship was a good idea:
"NTA."
"The only safe way to get a phone number is from the company's own website."
"AI hallucinates and will sometimes provide a number that's posted by scammers."
"If you've told him you don't want him to read AI garbage to you, then he shouldn't."
"'Everybody does it' is a ridiculous excuse."
"Tell him you selected him for your boyfriend because you thought he was special but if he's going to do what everybody does you might as well date everybody."- sethbr
"NTA."
"You may have snapped, but he’s the one who freaked out and yelled at you for so long all because you wanted the real answer to something he didn’t to want to actually look for."
"I'm kind of shocked you’re getting so much negative feedback when he threw a tantrum over doing something you’d repeatedly asked him not to do already."- jxsvke
"NTA."
"Long story short: due to psychological heuristics (brain taking shortcuts to save time and energy), you’re actually 100% right about information entering the brain = it gets internalized regardless of its source."
"Basically, as time passes, the information you take in becomes separated from its source, leading to info gained from 'trustworthy sources' and 'untrustworthy sources' being similarly trustworthy in one’s own mind/memory."- reMarcsGames
"NTA Google AI is wrong more often than it is right."
"People who use it are not people I’d ever respect or take advice from."- Oceanic_Nomad_
"NTA."
"F*CK AI! You set a boundary, he crossed it."
"Don't ask him to look stuff up for you."
"Went through this with my husband."
"He uses AI sometimes and I f*cking hate it."
"The more I educated him on how bad AI is for the environment and our brains, the more he slowed down."
"Suggest duck duck go."- notcharming46
"NTA."
"You have asked him repeatedly not to resort to the AI answers first, and he kept doing it."
"If anything it sounds like his reaction is worse than yours."
"Are you sure you want to be with a guy who gets angry at you because you point out he's not listening to you?"-awkwardfloralpattern
"NTA."
"I've had this happen to me where I was doing something math-related and the person 'helping' me was reading off the AI overview."
"It wasn't until he rattled off an equation that I knew offhand but with extra random terms that I realized."
"Had to rework the whole thing."
"And then argue the whole time that I was right and the machine was wrong. It's perfectly reasonable to ask someone to not use the overview as a source."- edgyrainbowboy
"NTA."
"I’ve had multiple scraps with my father for the same."
"I insist on opening an article or scrolling for multiple sources, because the Google summaries are not even remotely accurate most times."- ceebiee
"NTA."
"You've told him multiple times you don't want hallucinated, fake, plagiarized, or just straight up stolen information."
"He didn't want to listen; you were driving and physically could not look at your phone."
"He decided to give you AI information after being spoon-fed (like a baby) that you don't want anything to do with AI."
"He couldn't do one simple task."
"And then got aggressive when you stopped treating him like a little baby and held him to adult standards."
"This is such a basic request in a relationship, it's actually sad this man is not capable of reaching that incredibly basic standard of behavior."- DinokLokLov
"NTA."
"Your bf changed the subject."
"The issue is that you do not want to hear Google AI answers."
"Whether 'everyone' uses Google AI or not doesn't matter."
"Other people using it have nothing to do with you."- Deep-Okra1461
"NTA, look at how he reacted when he felt threatened. Is that what you want to repeatedly deal with forever?"
"Nope! Nope nope nope!"- ChickenCasagrande
"NTA, but your boyfriend is... not very bright, is he?"
"I instantly lose all respect for people who heavily rely on ai."- milkdimension
"NTA Google's AI answers are truly garbage, and you are right that no one should read them."
"But idk whyyyy he yelled at you for 10 minutes."
"That def makes him the a**hole."- CuddlyClubCEO
"NTA."
"It is so easy to just ignore the Google AI, your boyfriend is choosing to ignore your simple request for some reason, and then yelled at you in a vehicle you were confined to."
"I’d start considering if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life with him."- HateChan_
"NTA."
"You asked him not to read you Google AI, many times it seems."
"He ignored you."
"And then he yelled at you, disparage and belittled you, for 10 minutes after you finally snap at his repeated crossing of a rather simple boundary."
"Honestly, the AI thing isn't the problem here."
"This is break-up worthy behavior imo; it's immature and abusive."- Ok_Loss13
"NTA, you asked him not to do something pretty reasonable (don't rely on an inaccurate source of information when I ask you to help me with something), then when he did it again you said "don't read that to me"."
"He yelled at you for 10 minutes?"
"Anyone saying you're the a**hole here is wrong."- whatsgoingonbird
"NTA assuming this worked out the way you said, but you need to sit down and communicate."
"I think a lot of commentators who are telling you you're the a**shole are underestimating just how frustrating it is having someone constantly ignore your opinions and preferences because it's more convenient for them to offload work onto you."
"I don't think you're bit about 'protecting your brain' is particularly helpful, and I think a lot of people are fixating on that small piece, because information doesn't work that way."
"You don't turn into a clown just because you have some wrong info, especially if you take time to figure out the truth later."
"You aren't going to damage your brain reading AI hallucinations, and focusing that way is going to make people defensive.
"The part to focus on is that AI information of this sort is incorrect, and the effort of correcting it goes to the person receiving the information rather than the person distributing it."
"It's the fact that your boyfriend is going to rant at you for that long rather than just look up a website."
"That's what you should be focusing on."- DeckerAllAround
It's never fun to be called out on your habits.
Strangely, even more so when you know your habits might bother others.
Even so, if that's the way the OP's boyfriend chose to react, one imagines this is a habit that won't change.
Leaving the OP a lot to consider...
